Do you hate having aspergers and how can I deal with it?

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I absolutely hate it. I'll give you my reasons why.

Firstly, my autism has delayed me in so many important aspects of life, especially school.

I get bullied at school because I can't socialize well.

I have a receptive and repetitive language disorder and my expression skills and language skills are back by 2 years;therefore I can't communicate or write English.

I can't do maths for some weird reason, I understand all the concepts but I can't understand questions and apply the appropriate methodology to solve it plus I make silly mistakes.

. I can't draw.


. I can't be creative because it involves expression which I can't do.

. I can't play music because it involves listening to the teacher which is hard because of my concentration difficulties and my receptive language disorder.


. I also have behavior problems so people don't want to be around me.


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I'm only good at science, debating and reading;however even then they're useless without the above skills.

I wish I had a special skill. I wish I was good at maths or something. I wish I could apply the correct conventional constructive steps to problem solving in maths. I was thinking about dealing with this problem visually;however I don't really have any approach to that at all too.

Is there anyone I can see to help me cope with my problems? I would love to be good at maths because I like the subject very much. I can understand the concepts, I just literally can't do the "math" a.k.a the steps e.t.c

By the way, practicing in maths never works because this is still a major psychological issue


The school won't help me btw because I'm high functioning.



Oh... Thank you guys. I've just been told alot otherwise that my grammar is horrible e.t.c I had to work really hard to get to this degree of English though.

Are you in school? Is there a therapist or disability counselor you can talk to about these things?

Deal with it.

Your written English seems really good to me. Maybe you are being a bit hard on yourself? Lots of people with AS don't have special skills, or have special skills that don't have much use (for example I can read a book in a matter of hours, and I can remember dates and numbers but these don't help me in my day to day life at all).

I'm sorry you are being bullied, I'm sure that is a very common experience of people here. I went to four different schools and was bullied in all of them! My school-days really were the worst days of my life, it has got better since then. I'm sure it will for you too.

I think Scatmaster's advice is good, if there is a teacher you can speak to about how you feel and what is happening that might be a good idea.

You have to find what you are good at, and concentrate on that.
STOP concentrating on what you are not good at.
Your english skills seem goo to me.

Remember, AS is a curse AND a blessing.

@NateRiver - your writing does seem pretty good for someone who can't write. I'm thinking someone else wrote your post?

I agree with the previous poster -- Your written English is quite articulate.

My "trick" for doing math is to start at the beginning of the book and work _every_ problem at least once, usually going chapters ahead of the class -- I usually ace it. It isn't talent, just stubbornness.

If you have trouble with the book you are issued, try a different book. Once you build some success, and resulting confidence, the mental blocks will erode.

Basically the same strategy applies to almost everything you turn your hand to -- If you aren't learning with the current method, go at it from a different angle.

The best way to learn to draw is to get a sketch pad and sketch what's in front of you . . habitually. I've found graphics and video (in a format you can pause) online to be helpful for this as well. Nobody starts out drawing perfectly -- it always takes a great deal of practice.

One thought to keep foremost in your mind: You ARE able to learn.

I can't deal with having AS either. But I try to make myself feel better by not associating everything I do, say and think on my diagnosis. I try to consider some things I do, say and think as genuine personality traits, after all, we can't all be perfect. I just focus more on the bigger main ASD traits, like getting depressed/anxious with change of routine, having sensory issues with sound, getting myself too involved in my obsessions, getting anxious over small things that seem big to me, those sorts of things. I try to leave silly little things out of it, silly little things that I can't prove if it's related to my ASD or not.

That way I can know that I am not one big difference, and the more I'm observing NT behaviour and emotions, the more I feel I can relate to them in some ways, rather than splitting NTs and Aspies up into completely opposite groups because there is no need for it and it will just make me feel even more isolated and miserable. There are some traits that I share with NTs, and some that I share with Aspies. I just wish NTs could have positive empathy for people with disabilities rather than expecting them to be exactly the same on the outside (nobody's exactly the same on the inside but they have high expectations for people to be exactly the same on the outside, like when they're in public).