lostgirl1986 wrote:
Staying relaxed and keeping relaxed is definitely a plus and good idea to making friends but you definitely need more than just that. You need to find common ground in conversation, you need to be kind, honest, understanding, caring and open-minded are some other qualities of being a friend.
Um, being kind, honest, understanding, caring and open-minded actually makes things worse for me, it gets them thinking they can control me and use me and drop me when they want to because they know that I will let them get away with it. I think, to make and keep friends, you only need to be like that to a certain degree. It seems that a lot of NTs have that knack of knowing how to be kind, honest, understanding, caring, passive and open-minded but also assertive and closed-minded at the same time. I find it hard to be all, so I'm either too nice or too nasty (well, being nasty is not my nature but if I was to try and be more assertive and closed-minded, I would end up being accused of being nasty and selfish instead).
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