Do you fit in or stand out?

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Up to until 7th grade,I fit in.Not the popular kind of fit in,though.Except,to my tormentors,I was invisible.I could get around without being noticed.

Then,I started to dress however I wanted and THAT'S when I stood out.


-SpaceCase

Do I fit in or stand out?
I do both at once.
Imagine that there is a white sheet of paper with a man-shaped hole.
Now imagine that my personality fills that man-shaped hole, but that my personality's color is black and thus contrasts the color of the paper. That make sense?

I don't fit in with what other people do, what's important or their line of thinking and so stand out that way, but I'm pretty quiet, reserved and so don't stand out in that sense, which kinda helps me fit in without actually being the same and not have to pretend to be the same either. Meh.

I stand out to potential mates, but fit in with everybody else.

Tim

The problem with questions like these is that you really can't answer them unless you know how others percieve you.

Because "fitting in" is really about you within society, not you within yourself.

I would argue that I don't fit in, but I don't know whether I stand out or not. Certainly if one were presented the evidence on a table one could manipulate it to argue I do, in fact, stand out, but I don't know for certain.

I've been trying to embrace that I am different - as opposed to standing in fear of my differences - ever since the time I joined WP. I figure that being among other Aspies will help me understand my own Aspergers.

I stick out like a sore thumb no matter what I do.

Might be partly due to the fact I make innapropriate jokes when I don't realise they're inappropriate... <.<

Only the psychs think I'm normal. I had a man in my class tell me I was normal, but I always prove them wrong when they do the testing on me. Funny... only the psychs think I can fake normal...

I've always stood out like a sore thumb. Generally it's because of my blasphemous nature. Like when in history class when talking about the history of Hinduism and the sacred nature of cows, the figure of speech used was should you kill a cow, "you shall spend as many years in a bad reincarnation as there were hairs on the cow." So naturally I ask "what if you shave the cow before you kill it?" I also proceeded to argue that Mary technically would be considered a virgin if she got pregnant through anal sex but didn't suffer a broken hymen, that the concept of Hell being located directly under Jerusalem was ridiculous (though it would explain why it's a constant reason for conflict), that Joshua making the sun stand still is pointless for we live in a heliocentric universe, pi is NOT an integer, etc.

I've no idea. As Aleclair said, "fitting in" correlates to how other people think of you. I'm generally very bad at guessing how others percieve me.

I could blend in with a group of people easily, but since I've been rejected or not wanted and also I'm forced to be stand out of place, so I'd needn't bother with socialism.

I did fit in and fit out when I was in year 10 and above, depending what sort of situation it was.

At my HS, only GLBT students think I'm normal regardless of my Aspergers. Beatniks and theatre lovers find me a bit weird but accept me all the same.

Only goths and cliques of freshman girls want to target me for social asssassination.

I fit in & out.

With regards to the whole seventh grade thing, most middle schoolers feel they don't fit in. It's usually due more to adolescence angst and their own perceptions of the world at that age than what's actually going on in their lives. Or at least that's how it was for me when I was that age.