Do you get a lot attention from the opposite gender?
yes and no. i think i am reasonably ok looking for a 40 year old, but i look much younger (at work they've settled on me looking 25 at maximum). so if you consider me in contrast to 25 year olds (as i appear to be), i'm honestly not really that good looking compared to them. so no... i don't get tons of attention in real life. very occasional basic reaction of some kind like a whistle or something (which i actually appreciate as a compliment).
i get occasional males online who are interested, like on WrongPlanet (just goes to show you that men don't necessarily fit the stereotype of wanting quiet/reticent softspoken women. in my experience men are pretty individual in their tastes).
on FB, i have had a few men hitting on me but they tend to be spammy. they are similar to "love scammers" as they appear to send copied and pasted messages to multiple women. i am always polite to them, but if they are persistent i do defriend them. they don't interact with me other than to proclaim their love/attraction so it isn't really a friendship.
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Unfortunately, one thing I DID always notice are the negative reactions. I can't forget those no matter how hard I try!
Apparently someone liked me a while ago. Seven people told me this (it got silly, so I started counting) but I still don't really see it. Then again, around the same time I thought someone else did like me, and I was wrong. I really need someone else to help me with these things, cause I'm pretty much oblivious.
The times I did get a positive reaction I was just feeling brave too, it's not like I really thought I had a chance. Got lucky, I guess. I've even read about what to look for in the way of nonverbal communication - doesn't help me at all.
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