Do you get a lot attention from the opposite gender?
= Men you're attracted to;
= Men you're not attracted to.
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i swear ive seen this before
So now I just assume everyone is, so I don't miss out.
Hahaha. Good plan.
Answer to the OP: Yes, but it tends to be for the wrong reasons. I go out dancing a lot, because I like it, and it's about the only time when I'm not completely, physically awkward. The problem is, men invite themselves into my dance space or they wait until I stop to get a drink, then zoom in. It's very disconcerting, and once they realize I have a brain, they get away as fast as possible. Or I get attention from my friends' husbands. Equally odd.
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So now I just assume everyone is, so I don't miss out.
Hahaha. Good plan.
Answer to the OP: Yes, but it tends to be for the wrong reasons. I go out dancing a lot, because I like it, and it's about the only time when I'm not completely, physically awkward. The problem is, men invite themselves into my dance space or they wait until I stop to get a drink, then zoom in. It's very disconcerting, and once they realize I have a brain, they get away as fast as possible. Or I get attention from my friends' husbands. Equally odd.
as ive stated a billion times before, the problem here is not men being creepy, its that those are places that we are encouraged to actively approach women in. Be it a nightclub or a dance class (how many times have men heard of "why dont you take a dance class, im sure youll meet plenty of girls there" from a woman, or how many times have you heard a woman say that?). They are just doing what other women have told them to do, dont knock them for that. Now if they do something warranting the negative status besides doing what everyone has told them to do then dont label them as such
So now I just assume everyone is, so I don't miss out.
Hahaha. Good plan.
Answer to the OP: Yes, but it tends to be for the wrong reasons. I go out dancing a lot, because I like it, and it's about the only time when I'm not completely, physically awkward. The problem is, men invite themselves into my dance space or they wait until I stop to get a drink, then zoom in. It's very disconcerting, and once they realize I have a brain, they get away as fast as possible. Or I get attention from my friends' husbands. Equally odd.
as ive stated a billion times before, the problem here is not men being creepy, its that those are places that we are encouraged to actively approach women in. Be it a nightclub or a dance class (how many times have men heard of "why dont you take a dance class, im sure youll meet plenty of girls there" from a woman, or how many times have you heard a woman say that?). They are just doing what other women have told them to do, dont knock them for that. Now if they do something warranting the negative status besides doing what everyone has told them to do then dont label them as such
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So now I just assume everyone is, so I don't miss out.
Hahaha. Good plan.
Answer to the OP: Yes, but it tends to be for the wrong reasons. I go out dancing a lot, because I like it, and it's about the only time when I'm not completely, physically awkward. The problem is, men invite themselves into my dance space or they wait until I stop to get a drink, then zoom in. It's very disconcerting, and once they realize I have a brain, they get away as fast as possible. Or I get attention from my friends' husbands. Equally odd.
as ive stated a billion times before, the problem here is not men being creepy, its that those are places that we are encouraged to actively approach women in. Be it a nightclub or a dance class (how many times have men heard of "why dont you take a dance class, im sure youll meet plenty of girls there" from a woman, or how many times have you heard a woman say that?). They are just doing what other women have told them to do, dont knock them for that. Now if they do something warranting the negative status besides doing what everyone has told them to do then dont label them as such
if it were that easy to assess the situation then id agree. But its never that easy. Many women lead men onto it, making it pre approved. And theres also men who have no clue what theyre doing.
= Men you're attracted to;
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I'm sure I remember her mentioning that guys tried to rub their genitals on her hair in the subway. I'm pretty sure that would count as "creepy/aggressive" no matter how pretty the guy was.
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Try not to be a jerk for a few minutes, okay?
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Try not to be a jerk for a few minutes, okay?
hes not being a jerk, that was a trully valid point that multiple people have come across. Hell just look at the message quoted, its automatically creepy/aggressive because she doesnt like those men. Also unless shes part of a victorias secret runway show cast i doubt she gets that much attention "pretty constant if I leave the house".
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= Men you're attracted to;
= Men you're not attracted to.
Try not to be a jerk for a few minutes, okay?
hes not being a jerk, that was a trully valid point that multiple people have come across. Hell just look at the message quoted, its automatically creepy/aggressive because she doesnt like those men. Also unless shes part of a victorias secret runway show cast i doubt she gets that much attention "pretty constant if I leave the house".
Why do you doubt that she is getting that much attention? I suppose your standard of beauty is a Victoria secret runway model, but that doesn't mean everyone would hit on that. Women on the spectrum get lots of unwanted attention because certain men pick up on our naïvety and sense that they may encroach where they are not wanted. I have had men deliberately keep brushing into me even after I asked them to stop, while at social functions. (And this behavior definitely qualifies as creepy.) As for her comment about getting unwanted attention pretty much every day, try being a passably attractive woman for just one day and then come back and tell us how it went.
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= Men you're attracted to;
= Men you're not attracted to.
Try not to be a jerk for a few minutes, okay?
hes not being a jerk, that was a trully valid point that multiple people have come across. Hell just look at the message quoted, its automatically creepy/aggressive because she doesnt like those men. Also unless shes part of a victorias secret runway show cast i doubt she gets that much attention "pretty constant if I leave the house".
Can't say I agree with you there, MXH. I've seen plenty of men express this idea. That doesn't make it any less offensive.
The problem is that the claim makes a lot of assumptions without necessarily knowing anything about the woman's experience. It is a self serving argument that belittles any woman who rejects a man who is actually being creepy by claiming she is just being capricious. It's the sort of comment an insecure and immature person would make.
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