billiscool wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
i hate how women get a free pass for lacking confidence, being insecure but men do not
Because men like sex. and they wouldn't care less
Yeah it's so sucky that we are continually told that if we aren't the center of objectification and look a certain way by our genders dichotomy we should feel bad. It goes both ways just look at marketing of products that are gender marketed like razors and such like the nono! which more or less serves the same purpose as a man's razor except its gentler and a more feminine color... yeah ofc I'm going to feel self conscious because I don't feel the need to use such products despite how keenly aware I am of the NATURAL BODY hair on my face and then told Im not pretty because of it or told to cover it up with make up.
Of course you don't get this somehow "easy" opt out as a male to be who you are without someone or something telling you you're not masculine enough. Women sadly do that too but not intentionally however that doesn't make it okay to assume we as women are okay with an easy cop-out of being seen as insecure and lacking self esteem.
If you're going to date us respect us don't use our vulnerabilities against or targeting us in that way because that just makes it worse when things go south. Just look at people who struggle with their lives because of such issues and turn to dangerous habits of coping with it.
To the assumption on appearance status = sexual reproduction
Btw Biological Essentialism by gender basically discriminates and forces women into another false dichotomy that is socially constructed and is actually very diverse (Just look at the LGTBQA aspie community because they do exist) .Btw not everyone who has sex wants offspring.
I don't want to be considered rude here but please as an Aspie myself and Female I do not feel that was a great way to phrase such comments and especially to be clumped into a group that way, just FYI. Have a good day.