the secret in why women play games with men



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20 Aug 2012, 1:29 pm

WHAT IS GAME PLAYING
If your a guy going out on the dating field looking for relationship, you may often find women will play games. Like all men NT or AS you may have encountered times where women you have dated have did things that you didn't understand why. i.e. a girl may come up and show signs that she clearly liked you and then the next moment suddenly showed signs of disinterest and you felt like you did nothing wrong, you said the right things, wore the right cloths, and did the right things. Often the reasons why these things happen sometimes is called game playing.

WHY WOMEN PLAY GAME
Women will often play games with men on the dating field. Sometimes they will try to make a guy jealous on purpose by talking to other guys, sometimes they may show interest and then suddenly appear to not show interest like i previously said, and sometimes on some extremes may make plans with you but may come late or even back out. They will do this often when your first meeting a potential mate but it happens during a long term relationships too and the reason is the same. Now you are probably wondering, what is the reason? why do women play games? The answer is simple, 1) women want to know that they are attractive 2) they want to know if the person they like likes them. Women will often go into great lengths to see weather guys like them and use different ways to try to experiment to see how if guys truly does like them. So as a way to find they play games as a way to test that.....basically to test a guy in seeing if they truly are interested in them. As you all know, actions speak louder then words. One example I previously mentioned in the first paragraph, when a girl at a bar shows interest in you but then suddenly runs off to talk to other people and your wondering what the heck just happened, she is actually seeing if you will now come to chase her....to see if you REALLY are interested in her. In other words when a women plays a game it is often a good thing, it often means the girl does like you. They are trying to see if you will then initiate the next move to make the interaction go further. So next time if a girl talks to you at a bar or any place and seems to show interest or is seeming to mess with your mind, understand it is probably not because they don't like you but it's the opposite. There are some occasions however a girl may not like you but will still flirt with you. They may do that for the same reason....to see if they are attractive. They also like the thrill of being chased by men because that will make them know that they are attractive. One way to tell if this is happening and that they are not interested in you is if you try to pursue them and you get rejected almost immediatly.... they will not be interested in wanting to continue to talk to you while ones that are will (keep in mind that interested ones will sometimes make you have to try several attempts to chase them, i often call these hard to get kind of girls). I hope this helps clarifies some misunderstanding about game playing.


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20 Aug 2012, 1:48 pm

I just add - it is not only about liking her. It could also be the overall testing of reactions - she wants to know you better, to find out your "darker" or hidden characteristics.



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20 Aug 2012, 1:53 pm

aSKperger wrote:
I just add - it is not only about liking her. It could also be the overall testing of reactions - she wants to know you better, to find out your "darker" or hidden characteristics.

Hunt for weak points.

Sort of like gangs who test their completely new gang-members to see if they're as bulletproof as they make out to be.



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20 Aug 2012, 2:06 pm

umm

generally speaking when I was late for dates when I was younger it was b/c I couldn't find my car keys. Also I had to read the instructions on how to apply the make up, figure out where my purse was, and locate my glasses. Plus sometimes my roommates would be horrified by my clothing choices(it needed to be feminine) and had input into what I should wear. Then there was going to someplace new and not getting lost.

I always figured if a guy liked me he'd call/ask me out/or want to spend time with me. Maybe NT women are different though but I never noticed any game playing....I never did the bar thing b/c I don't drink and cigarette smoke bothers me. Also I've noise sensitivity.



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20 Aug 2012, 2:33 pm

kate123A wrote:
umm

generally speaking when I was late for dates when I was younger it was b/c I couldn't find my car keys. Also I had to read the instructions on how to apply the make up, figure out where my purse was, and locate my glasses. Plus sometimes my roommates would be horrified by my clothing choices(it needed to be feminine) and had input into what I should wear. Then there was going to someplace new and not getting lost.

I always figured if a guy liked me he'd call/ask me out/or want to spend time with me. Maybe NT women are different though but I never noticed any game playing....I never did the bar thing b/c I don't drink and cigarette smoke bothers me. Also I've noise sensitivity.

Most people play games with each other, whether it be men or women or dating or not.

It's a part of their characters.

Genetic.



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20 Aug 2012, 4:10 pm

Uprising wrote:
Most people play games with each other, whether it be men or women or dating or not.

It's a part of their characters.

Genetic.


Yeah, sometimes I wish people had more common sense instead of playing the game. I think its values on top of genetics :wink:



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21 Aug 2012, 8:21 am

geez I really missed that one......... :oops:



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21 Aug 2012, 8:37 am

Yea, the game-playing thing people do always trips me up. I've very little inclination to play such "social games" as I call them, and my capacity to understand them can be a bit mediocre at points. It sucks!



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21 Aug 2012, 8:59 am

Damn. I think they left this chapter out of my personal copy of the "How to be a Woman" manual... :wink:



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21 Aug 2012, 11:36 am

Now I'm more confused. So how do you know the woman only enjoys the chasing but was never really interested to begin with.



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21 Aug 2012, 1:27 pm

Stalk - you never now, you need to ask or wait for clear confirmation



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21 Aug 2012, 1:44 pm

mv wrote:
Damn. I think they left this chapter out of my personal copy of the "How to be a Woman" manual... :wink:


That chapter is probably lost in an archive of strange fictional books such as "what women want", "why men are pigs" and "these things will guarantee you a date". :)



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21 Aug 2012, 1:57 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
mv wrote:
Damn. I think they left this chapter out of my personal copy of the "How to be a Woman" manual... :wink:


That chapter is probably lost in an archive of strange fictional books such as "what women want", "why men are pigs" and "these things will guarantee you a date". :)

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21 Aug 2012, 2:02 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
mv wrote:
Damn. I think they left this chapter out of my personal copy of the "How to be a Woman" manual... :wink:


That chapter is probably lost in an archive of strange fictional books such as "what women want", "why men are pigs" and "these things will guarantee you a date". :)

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21 Aug 2012, 2:35 pm

Why do so many cats toy with mice before making the final kill and eating it? Who knows... it's just what they do and it makes them happy. [shrug]



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