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11 Oct 2012, 8:33 pm

Can an NT be affectionate?
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12 Oct 2012, 11:47 am

rosemund wrote:
I think some of it, is that "Aspies are like cats" scenario...


http://www.amazon.com/All-Cats-Have-Asp ... 1843104814

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13 Oct 2012, 1:18 am

Yes many are actually. I am affectionate and sentimental.


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13 Oct 2012, 10:11 am

Yeah, I love hugging and kissing and cuddling and such.



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13 Oct 2012, 3:47 pm

I love physical affection, just keeping the person to be affectionate to is the problem.



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14 Oct 2012, 4:09 pm

i desire, crave physical affection, but can't get it



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08 Nov 2013, 3:18 pm

I absolutely crave physical affection. I am a hugmonger. For me, hugging's the game, loving's the aim. There is nothing like feeling the warmth of another human being especially one that is female in my case. Hugging is the most pleasure I've felt without contracting a deadly disease. :D :oops:



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08 Nov 2013, 4:06 pm

I'm definitely cat-like in my affection. If I like you, I'm always looking to be petted and will smother you with attention and affection. If I don't like you (or don't know you), STAY AWAY! Or at least wait until I come to you.



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08 Nov 2013, 4:18 pm

Thom_Fuleri wrote:
rosemund wrote:
I think some of it, is that "Aspies are like cats" scenario...


http://www.amazon.com/All-Cats-Have-Asp ... 1843104814

Ahem.


WHY is this not available for Kindle!?!?! :lol:



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08 Nov 2013, 6:07 pm

nope its absolutely impossible, theres no way an Aspie can be affectionate...



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08 Nov 2013, 6:55 pm

My parents would likely say I'm anti-affection because I never liked affection with them(hated hugs & the like) & I also hate being touched unexpectedly & don't like being touched that much by people in general. Some of it may be due to a PTSD like thing because I was physically bullied aLOT when I was little. However I love being affectionate with my partner & had a strong desire for affection when I was single which was some of why I HATED being single


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09 Nov 2013, 8:51 pm

Yes, one can be an Aspie and also be affectionate.
One may be affectionate with whomever one meets, or one may be affectionate only with a few select people.
My family said that I was a very affectionate child, though I remember not liking the smooches from older relatives when I was a kid.
As an adult, I'm quite affectionate & enjoy physicality with an SO-but finding/meeting a BF that lives nearby is a problem I've yet to solve.


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10 Nov 2013, 3:18 am

Yeah, only when I'm not very stressed out. I won't allow a touch from anyone when I am.



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10 Nov 2013, 2:31 pm

Well, it's harder now as I have more of a shell than I did, say 10 years ago... but if I trusted you, yeah.



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10 Dec 2014, 12:45 am

Plodder wrote:
I find that my tremendous love of indulging in physical affection has put me in the situation of severely angering other people when I wouldn't let them go and stop hugging them after they had decided it was time for the hug to stop. I still wanted it to carry on, and couldn't let go. So I have had to train myself not to hug people any more.

Hope that helps.


I've had that over-cuddling issue with my first cat.

It was because I had no pet of my own when I was a boy. My Aspie Dad dislikes cats & dogs. My youngest sister is allegeric to pet dandruff. We had rabbits instead, which I hate, because rabbits do 3 things: Eat, poo, and hop.

So it wasn't until 1991 when, a couple of years after moving out that I got MY OWN pet.

I had so much pent up need to cuddle a cat that by the time I had Smiles, I cuddled him so much...And then he'd get tired of the cuddles...I didn't wanna let him go out of my arms in my apt.

He'd start to hiss and scratch me.

But...and there's always a but...

This is giving me practice for when I have my own Human kids.

Just like with the cats, I love to cuddle with kids.

Practicing with cats these past two decades has taught me that it's important to let go...

Too much love, affection, cuddles, can stifle a being, whether it's a cat or a Human.



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10 Dec 2014, 12:53 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
i desire, crave physical affection, but can't get it


Not true.

You can get affection from many beings:

* A Human - incarnate or discarnate spirit
* An Animal - a pet
* Nature - trees
* A teddy bear - yes, even a teddy bear can have some consciousness in it