Do you want guests to leave your house when they come?

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31 Oct 2012, 1:03 pm

Not your friends specifically, but your brother's or sister's friends or relatives of your parents. It annoys me that I have to say "Hi" and shake hands every time. And then they start drinking coffee in front of TV and talk about meaningless things, damn it pisses me off.


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31 Oct 2012, 1:08 pm

I even want friends to leave after a couple of hours. That i why I am reluctant to invite them at all.


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31 Oct 2012, 1:14 pm

I want my husband to leave. He talks too much. :lol: I need my own room.


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31 Oct 2012, 2:22 pm

...this happens to me with family, too.


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31 Oct 2012, 2:29 pm

I hate having anyone over at my house. I want them to leave as soon as they get here, no matter who it is (except my husband and son...and sometimes even them!).



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31 Oct 2012, 2:35 pm

I hate having people come round to my house! I hate shaking hands and things like that. Usually I just hide in my bedroom.



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31 Oct 2012, 3:21 pm

Usually yes. They can gtfo.

I'm better about it than when I was younger. I can tolerate them a bit longer now and don't hide in my room the whole time like when I was younger. We rarely have company though.

My cat doesn't like company either. He won't come in the same room as company or go up to them and hisses at them if they get too close. I know how he feels.



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31 Oct 2012, 3:27 pm

Even friends, I get annoyed with after a while. It's easier to make an excuse to leave somewhere else than it is to turf people out of your house.



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31 Oct 2012, 3:29 pm

The only people I never want to leave is my husband, son, and my dad (because he stops in so rarely). Everyone else has no respect for me or my privacy, and I have to bolt my door to keep them from just walking in uninvited.


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31 Oct 2012, 4:31 pm

I feel the same way about guests, too. It's one of the few things I like about living on my own.


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31 Oct 2012, 4:45 pm

I hate having guests over! It makes me so uncomfortable. It feels like they are intruding on my personal space.



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31 Oct 2012, 5:16 pm

Dizzee wrote:
Not your friends specifically, but your brother's or sister's friends or relatives of your parents. It annoys me that I have to say "Hi" and shake hands every time. And then they start drinking coffee in front of TV and talk about meaningless things, damn it pisses me off.


I hate having anyone over, because you can't tell them to leave when you've had enough because it would be rude, and then you feel really stressed and trapped in the situation. I much prefer being the one who chooses when and who to visit and for how long, because I can make an excuse when I've got to the point that I've had enough, that way I have control of the situation.


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31 Oct 2012, 5:27 pm

Guests make me really uncomfortable. From the minute they arrive, I'm calculating how soon it will be before they leave.

Recently we moved to a small apartment and I love that it's too small to put anyone up for the night or to really invite anyone over for a meal.


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31 Oct 2012, 5:56 pm

yes, yes I often do want them to leave!



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31 Oct 2012, 6:11 pm

I dislike more than anything else having my parents or other family members over, because I can't get away from them. Visitors for other people I generally just avoid if I don't want to bother with pretending to have social skills.



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04 Nov 2012, 9:52 am

I don't typically have guests over... it stresses me out... only people I'm dating are allowed over and its only after the housekeeper comes and/or I am confident that everything is in its proper place. I don't know if I could live with someone. Maybe I will need my own room, like a "woman cave" or something... I need privacy and alone time...