Anyone cheated on someone they were with?

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And if yes, why?

not that much
but because i was disgusted by her body

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ronpl. b whose body? Your gf's?

Came close to it a couple of times - the reason being is my ex of 2 years ago had some sort of a breakdown during the relationship and I ended up being a carer in a sense but not getting any love back. On the bright side they were a long term sufferer of depression and anxiety (which they didn't tell me) and it wasn't solely down to something I did triggering it! Anyways, loyalty and my principles got the better of me, even after alcohol and we ended the relationship rather than either of us doing something crazy.

I have been cheated on, I know what it feels like and it's not something I'd willingly go through with. How about you, OP? Have you, and if so why?

JanuaryMan, unfortunately I have. Something I am not proud of, but felt cornered at the time. As I already had little self-esteem,I just went out looking for ways of feeling appreciated. I was married when I was 22, and rapidly started to hate my married life. My husband was very controlling and didn't understand my AS needs. I found a man who cared and it ony stopped when my husband found out. I did eventually have the guts to leave, but it took me 11 years. I never, ever cheated again and will not do it again. It's horrible. I have also been cheated on, and although unpleasant, it's worse to be the offender.

I felt bad but my train on thought was I would feel worse to hurt someone who said they loved me. But now, if I were to find a guy who would be better from me than my current one, I would just end it and move on. Not overlap again. But it's not easy, finding intelligent, decent men

Depends on your idea of cheating too - if your interpretation of it, is physical intimacy with someone else, that can be quite devastating for NT's to handle.

If however, its a massive emotional attachement to someone, with no physical expression at all, does that constitute cheating? Its perfectly possible to fall in love with someones mind if you never meet them - in person you would probably have slept with them if you could...right?

Yes, good point Entek. Emotional or physical cheating. I think you can't help the former, but can the latter.

Yes, I think sleeping with someone is only a natural consequence of liking them. But, with the internet, there are lots of "virtual" cheaters. I'm just not sure if it's only NT's who would have an issue with it. I told my current bf if he cheats to tell me so I can break up with him, because it doesn't interest me if he finds he needs to sleep with other people when I do that already. Plus, I would be worried about possible diseases being spread.

How would *you* guys feel about being cheated? Would you feel hurt?

I've considered it, but I broke up with her before I did.

It isn't "cheating" unless you're married; thus, my answer is "No".

Fnord, what if you both have a verbal agreement that you are both to be monogamous whilst in a relationship together?