One of the only reasons why I might specifically want an AS-AS relationship is I haven't met an NT girl in years who I didn't think would see her self as setting for less than she felt she could get (if she ended up with me) and feeling like the charity of the relationship would really bug me. IMO the only way I can prevent that is by finding a girl who's minds rigged in a way to where her personality coinsides with mine enough to where she IS doing better for herself even in her own opinion by dating me rather than feeling like "this guy over here likes me, he's a total GQ, plays football for ----- college, he knows some bigshots arrount town, his parents are rich, he goes out and parties 3 or 4 days a week... the guy I'm dating now is nice but he's a flaming dork. He has speech problems, keeps listening to that stupid dark rave stuff, won't watch American Idol with my friends, and looks like some stupid disney character (I thought it was cute, now it's just hillariously pathetic). None of my friends think he's cool enough for me, all my friends tried to talk me out of dating him in the first place, so why am I with him?".
Just from my experience, I've kinda noticed that unless I have the urge to indignify myself by asking out maybe 60 women untill I get a yes and make a complete floormat out of my dignity (I was almost like that in highschool and still burn with regret everytime I think about it) then its probably about the only way I'm gonna find someone. I know AS insures likeness of personality about as much as diabetes but on the other hand I feel like it's a necessary starting point for places to look, especially in the sense that a lot of the almost subliminal things which I don't do (what really bugs NT women about me IMO) is aspie in nature. NT women a lot of times will think I'm cute but that magic AS deviation of personality has em so curt with me even a week later that I get the feeling I really slammed their hopes. Even if I met an NT girl with a very similar personality, I still get the impression that the opportunist in her would wreck it (if in fact pettiness didn't overpower on first glance). If it sounds like bad attitude or negativity on my part causing the problems...I really wish that's what it was - that at least would be something I have some control over, unlike having a personality that's just magically not ok no matter what I do.