Does anyone actually look for woman with a personality?



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07 Dec 2012, 9:26 pm

I could describe the personality of every woman I have been strongly attracted to, although I probably couldn't tell you what she looked like. While I do appreciate an appealing face, that will only take you so far. If you can't have a meaningful conversation, or enjoy playful sparing with her, it's gonna get awfully boring really fast.

I guess there are certain personalities that I am more drawn to than others. I don't deal well with people who are certain they have all the answers and that they are right in all cases. I enjoy people who have an appreciation for the absurdities of life, who don't take things too seriously, yet understand that there are some things in life that demand intensely serious passion.

I suspect many people are more influenced by personality than they think. Yes, I'm sure that there are some pretty shallow people out there, but actually I think most people, in the end, make choices based more on personality than on looks. And if they don't, they end up suffering for it.


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07 Dec 2012, 9:52 pm

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I have not been treated the same way, so I don't see why I should not be able to judge harshly over trivial things and have "standards". There don't seem to be too many people out there with good personalities as it is.


Uh... Nobody's saying "don't have standards" here. Also, you shouldn't do it because obviously it's made you bitter, and besides that, if you base who you're gonna date on appearance and appearance alone(which is usually the case), you're in for a shitty relationship.

Also, you shouldn't hold new people you meet accountable for the bullshit others put you thru in the past. All that does is perpetuate the cycle.



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07 Dec 2012, 9:57 pm

I'm not holding anyone in particular accountable. I just know better than to be a doormat anymore. I've given people the benefit of the doubt for years and all it's done is let others take advantage of me. I'd be stupid to expect anyone to be genuinely nice nowadays.


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07 Dec 2012, 10:26 pm

I care very much about a woman's personality and intelligence. I don't even mind if someone has emotional problems because I know what that is like myself. I just want someone that is intelligent, has real substance to them personality wise and that I can make feel truly loved and accepted and return the same back to me.

So far I've not had much luck with that. but that is what I look for mostly. Looks are nice too and I have a few things that I like in that area. but I can tell you right now most of the women I've really fallen for (or were interested in) were not what most people would consider to be models or anything like that. but they were all deeply interesting people.

I don't care how cute someone is, if they open their mouth and nothing but ignorance and emptiness comes out they might as well be a zombie trying to eat my brains or something. (and no I don't find that a turn on :) )



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08 Dec 2012, 4:15 am

Just finding a girl with a pulse who is not repulsed by me or threatens to call the cops for saying hi to her friend (that actually has happened before) would be a start for me. Sadly, I think that that is nothing more than a pipe dream.


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08 Dec 2012, 4:35 am

No. I don't look for women/girls with personality, because then you could find the perfect partner, who's already taken. This has happened twice before and I won't let it happen again.

No, acceptance over personality. Every time.



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08 Dec 2012, 4:50 am

For me, looks and personality are on equal ground.

Good looks, but a boring/bad personality?
PASS

Terribad looks, but good personality?
PASS

Good / OK looks, compatible personality with mine?
DING DING DING

'Looks' are a bit complicated subject.
Falling in love surely will reduce the importance of it naturally.

I seriously hope none of you guys and gals go for appearance alone though.
That's just a random dice roll with a very slim chance to "living happily ever after".



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08 Dec 2012, 1:42 pm

I won't lie. . . I'm a very, very, very Vain person. I immediately rate almost every girl I see. . . If I think a girl is a Munter I won't even look twice at her. -However- There's been a fair few girls who've grown on me. You know the time, Their looks are passable but nothing special but once you get talking well, You like them and it's gone from there to "fun" and their looks no longer matter.

But the truth of the matter is most people have you judged within the first few moments meeting you and your looks are a huge part of that. I judge, and I get judged.


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08 Dec 2012, 7:26 pm

J-Greens wrote:
No, acceptance over personality. Every time.


I couldn't live with that. I know someone who accepts me for who I am, but I don't like them in that way as I find their personality boring (no offense to this person).

Even if I could get someone who is on and off with me but has a brilliant personality, I would be eternally happy (and sad, lol).

That is a rare breed (good looks AND personality), but I guess it is posisble...it's pretty shallow if you are judged based on looks and a one minute intro alone...I would never give these people the time.


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08 Dec 2012, 9:39 pm

Personality is the most important criterion for me, but I rarely meet women who are compatible with me in that respect.



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09 Dec 2012, 9:17 am

MCalavera wrote:
I would rather be with women with certain personalities rather than other certain personalities.

I personally like the shy, quiet types. The genuinely shy, quiet types. Not those who fake shyness.

And this is because it's often the case that they're more genuine and less fake than other types. And less drama and none of the mind games.

From my own personal observations, of course.


How does one fake shyness? You mean they go quiet on you on purpose?



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09 Dec 2012, 9:57 am

You make it sound like it's impossible for someone to fake it.

Faking shyness means pretending to be a generally shy person around a guy you like just because you know a lot of guys prefer shy girls to the louder types. But then once you realize he's taken you for granted, you reveal your true persona.

Yes, strategically acting all quiet on the guy is what I meant.



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09 Dec 2012, 10:02 am

My ex did that. He acted all shy and portrayed himself that way, and then after a few months, the true colours came out.



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09 Dec 2012, 10:06 am

they can hang their personality on the hooks provided outside my door before they enter.
i have no interest in "personality". i like very raw consciousnesses without a stylized form of delivery.

shared consciousness is vastly more important to me than the "personality" of who i share consciousness with.



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09 Dec 2012, 10:21 am

Shared consciousness? Is that what they call a mind f*ck?



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