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02 Jan 2007, 8:43 pm

Right now, i've been feeling really upset lately. I lack a lot of empathy but make up with it with so much remorse that I feel depressed all the time. I have a very hard time saying sorry and expressing apologetic feelings and I brood over them while constantly thinking negative thoughts about myself. Have any of you felt this way before? I really wanna know what I can do to take my mind off the depression of it all. Remorse happens to be the cause of my general depression state and the reason why I have such low self-esteem. What can I do?


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02 Jan 2007, 8:54 pm

Feel it everyday but then I also have a shyness & social anxiety, and the drugs they give you suck by the way :) for alot.... be lucky if your not on a mix of 3 or 4 dif types... I have had enough with the drug's not going on multi one's...

Assertive class's,
Help braking your cycle fuel,
Art & craft stuff,
outing's,
groups,
computer game works best with me I am too busy been lost in it.....

Basicly something to do everyday or so of the week
Like I have took up Archery....

Going to try harder with the rest of the stuff like after the holiday...

Is one thing though you can only be offered the help, but you have to think deeply about wanting to push yourself to brake it, can only offer the advice and help but take's the person to take it...

Don't worry if you don't take it at first take's time.... but 1 thing you should not do is have the attitude to give up or you will fall back on anything you got up to that point will be lost & have to start all over again...



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02 Jan 2007, 9:55 pm

I know the feeling. To me it's like learned helplessness. I can't convince myself completely that I won't be beaten again for making a little mistake.



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02 Jan 2007, 10:18 pm

I feel that way, a lot.



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03 Jan 2007, 6:21 am

I constantly go over past mistakes. They might not even have been mistakes but I worry anyway. It's very painful and debilitating.


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03 Jan 2007, 1:49 pm

Sometimes I think my remorse will kill me.


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03 Jan 2007, 5:01 pm

I too pay attention to even the smallest mistake or awkward moment. I can go over it for weeks, and it can feel like a bucket of cold water in my face each time. Of course, this tendency doesn't help when it comes to dealing with similar situations in the future.
It's easy to rather be safe than sorry, and keep a low, almost invisible, profile.



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14 Jan 2007, 4:35 am

It's ridiculous. A lot of us are "sorry" because someone made us sorry by physically and emotionally abusing us. Granted, we're definitely sorry now, but really, it's sick.



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14 Jan 2007, 5:38 am

i can relate. in particular, after an evenings drinking i always worry that i have somehow offended people. drink helps me to socialise and be more outgoing, but for this very reason i often feel i may have said something ridiculous or offensive, and it can plague me for days or weeks afterwards.


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14 Jan 2007, 6:46 am

peebo wrote:
i can relate. in particular, after an evenings drinking i always worry that i have somehow offended people. drink helps me to socialise and be more outgoing, but for this very reason i often feel i may have said something ridiculous or offensive, and it can plague me for days or weeks afterwards.

Yep, same here! I was very drunk at a party a few weeks ago and was very worried afterwards about how I'd been. Nobody had a problem with me, though. Apparently I was hugging everybody, which is funny because when I'm sober I find it very difficult to touch people at all!! :D


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