Putting on a Cocky Act (guys and girls)

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06 Feb 2013, 6:55 am

I agree with Hyperlexian. I also occasionally go for this attitude when I'm really trying to get rid of someone. I have noticed that there are some cocky guys who get even more excited about a girl asserting herself, though.

Cocky and funny is generally speaking not a good approach for dating. The people I've heard recommending this so far have aimed for one-night-stands or short-term relationships specifically and I can't name any girl in my circle of friends who could stand this kind of behaviour in a guy for too long. I also can't understand a person wanting to act as someone completely different and then attempting to build trust and a potential relationship with their "target".


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06 Feb 2013, 7:15 am

What exactly is "Cocky and funny" anyway?



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06 Feb 2013, 7:40 am

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Putting on a Cocky Act

if i hung upside down from a branch of a tree and screeched at girls who walked past, then i would be insane.



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06 Feb 2013, 9:53 am

Once you attract all these women
With bright tail feathers and pulsating hips....
be careful what you wish for

I only date amongst our own
Engaging NT behaviours
is just like
stooping to talk to children



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06 Feb 2013, 11:26 am

Surfman wrote:
Once you attract all these women
With bright tail feathers and pulsating hips....
be careful what you wish for

I only date amongst our own
Engaging NT behaviours
is just like
stooping to talk to children


Very true. Though it can be hard to find one's own kind.



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06 Feb 2013, 4:17 pm

not true
they are everywhere
you have not learned to see them
yet
certain environments are full of HFA
lonely unaware of autism aspies
everywhere



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06 Feb 2013, 7:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What exactly is "Cocky and funny" anyway?


It's where you regularly be slightly rude to a girl to demonstrate that you're not nervous being around her, and to show that you don't care what she thinks about you. But you go about it in a humorous way, so she sees that you're not completely serious.



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06 Feb 2013, 7:15 pm

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Cocky and funny....na... Just have a sense of humour.
I have this cute Malaysian friend of mine whom I tease through text message all the time as she does to me. It's all in good humour and some tension even built up from it. She once texted to me "I gotta stop texting you so often, it's addicting :P" My response to that was "It's okay. I know I am irresistable :P" We can have our serious talks too. So yeah, forget cocky and funny and just mix your sense of humour with your soft side.


That exactly was what would be labeled "cocky and funny".

I've noticed a trend in that more and more people in the dating world have been using that method ever since the concept was made known within the PUA community even if they weren't aware of where it "originated" from.



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06 Feb 2013, 7:32 pm

MCalavera wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
Cocky and funny....na... Just have a sense of humour.
I have this cute Malaysian friend of mine whom I tease through text message all the time as she does to me. It's all in good humour and some tension even built up from it. She once texted to me "I gotta stop texting you so often, it's addicting :P" My response to that was "It's okay. I know I am irresistable :P" We can have our serious talks too. So yeah, forget cocky and funny and just mix your sense of humour with your soft side.


That exactly was what would be labeled "cocky and funny".

I've noticed a trend in that more and more people in the dating world have been using that method ever since the concept was made known within the PUA community even if they weren't aware of where it "originated" from.


yeah.. it originated from me... someone stole it and took all the credit. :wink:



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06 Feb 2013, 11:31 pm

Surfman wrote:
not true
they are everywhere
you have not learned to see them
yet
certain environments are full of HFA
lonely unaware of autism aspies
everywhere


Such as where? Definitely not where I usually go... Well, maybe a few, but not any who are attractive enough to get my parents' approval (it would probably take a 6/10 minimum).



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06 Feb 2013, 11:54 pm

Many HFA's are way gorgeous
Close to angels
Develop your insight
and you will see them

NT's look kinda piggy in comparison
and carry too much baby fat

A woman walking a dog with [diagnosed] aspie son yesterday[8/10 and 10/10 personality]
Girl in book-store [too young for me but hot as hell [10/10] 3 days ago
NT mates ASD girlfriend [Welsh cross Samoan beauty 9/10] who was unconsciously attracted to my similar ASD vibration
German naturopath at the healthy shop [9/10] lonely HFA woman

Many half breeds have an ASD parent, many Scandanavians and Germans exhibit ASD behaviours....

OPEN YOUR EYES MANY ARE LONELY AND WANTING TO MEET THEIR OWN KIND TOO



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07 Feb 2013, 12:14 am

Surfman wrote:
Many HFA's are way gorgeous
Close to angels
Develop your insight
and you will see them

NT's look kinda piggy in comparison
and carry too much baby fat

A woman walking a dog with [diagnosed] aspie son yesterday[8/10 and 10/10 personality]
Girl in book-store [too young for me but hot as hell [10/10] 3 days ago
NT mates ASD girlfriend [Welsh cross Samoan beauty 9/10] who was unconsciously attracted to my similar ASD vibration
German naturopath at the healthy shop [9/10] lonely HFA woman

Many half breeds have an ASD parent, many Scandanavians and Germans exhibit ASD behaviours....

OPEN YOUR EYES MANY ARE LONELY AND WANTING TO MEET THEIR OWN KIND TOO


Well perhaps I'm just not good at recognizing the pretty ones. Any tips, or particular places to go, activities to do? My only outside hobbies: I take martial arts and acting classes for fun, and to help with posture and body language, and those things just don't attract aspies like magnets. lol

By the way, I am not sure what country you're from, but "half breed" is pretty offensive where I'm from (the U.S.A). It would make total sense that many interracial marriages would involve an aspie.



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07 Feb 2013, 1:07 am

I'm half bred but both my parents were spectrumites

You probably wont find them acting or doing martial arts

All the falun gong dudes and dudettes are on the spectrum

I live in an inner city area a bit like San Francisco. Aspies move here to be more amongst their own....


Buddhism classes are packed with HFA's
Scientist chicks are so hot



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07 Feb 2013, 9:51 am

I do this sometimes. I think I picked up a lot of it living in a rougher area of a larger city-- if you don't act like an easy target, people usually leave you alone. It's not a conscious choice I make, but more like a default setting when I feel overwhelmed, frightened, or uncertain. When I'm overloaded it feels like the only thing that keeps me from crouching off a deserted corner somewhere and shutting the world out for a long while--which is very rarely a viable option anymore.