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21 Mar 2013, 3:50 pm

MjrMajorMajor wrote:
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I think It's possible, but it might be too hard for some of us, I mean who knows perhaps some people just don't want to start growing up, but It's really a
broad term.

I see this tone in many of these threads, and I do find it offensive. Can coping skills be developed...absolutely. People can always improve. The tone of your post says to me that if you continue to struggle, it's your own fault. We should be able to function completely normally, and are lazy if we don't. Correct me if I'm wrong.


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21 Mar 2013, 4:30 pm

Asperger Syndrome is a pervasive developmental disorder.

It's not wrong software installed on the right hardware. The hardware is fundamentally different. You cannot change it unless you change the brain itself, which is to change the human entirely.

Hence, autism is life-long and permanent.

Coping techniques may improve quality of life, however. We can help each other by discussing those techniques.



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21 Mar 2013, 5:02 pm

qawer wrote:
Asperger Syndrome is a pervasive developmental disorder.

It's not wrong software installed on the right hardware. The hardware is fundamentally different. You cannot change it unless you change the brain itself, which is to change the human entirely.

Hence, autism is life-long and permanent.

Coping techniques may improve quality of life, however. We can help each other by discussing those techniques.



Agree fully with this statement.

Diet can apparently help too, with reducing some symptoms in severity. But basically it is fundamental and permanent.


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21 Mar 2013, 5:09 pm

Asperger's Syndrome is a Neurological difference, not a psychological one, so there is no "growing out of" it. You may adapt to deal with your issues in better ways and allow you to function, but the difference will always be there.


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21 Mar 2013, 5:38 pm

I don't believe it at all. I have yet to grow out of it. That's like telling blind people to grow out of it and start seeing things.



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21 Mar 2013, 7:36 pm

Drehmaschine wrote:
I don't believe it at all. I have yet to grow out of it. That's like telling blind people to grow out of it and start seeing things.


Well I wasn't blind but I did grow out of not having a sense of smell so...



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22 Mar 2013, 12:11 am

seaturtleisland wrote:
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I don't believe it at all. I have yet to grow out of it. That's like telling blind people to grow out of it and start seeing things.


Well I wasn't blind but I did grow out of not having a sense of smell so...



I was deaf one time in my life and then I could hear again.


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22 Mar 2013, 2:14 pm

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You've contradicted yourself there

The first half of your post is saying 'If you study NTs enough you can learn to be like them' then the second half says 'Just be as weird as you like and to hell with what anyone else thinks!'

So which strategy is it that you are recommending?


No. I am recommending to study NT's to learn to function sufficiently in society, not to emulate their every move. You can still be yourself as long as you contribute to society.

No amount of - well, anything - can make me like sports or such boring team activities.


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22 Mar 2013, 2:43 pm

Ichinin wrote:
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You've contradicted yourself there

The first half of your post is saying 'If you study NTs enough you can learn to be like them' then the second half says 'Just be as weird as you like and to hell with what anyone else thinks!'

So which strategy is it that you are recommending?


No. I am recommending to study NT's to learn to function sufficiently in society, not to emulate their every move. You can still be yourself as long as you contribute to society.

No amount of - well, anything - can make me like sports or such boring team activities.


Ok, so what is your definition of "contributing to society" and how does that have anything to do with whether or not someone can be themselves?


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22 Mar 2013, 4:04 pm

League_Girl wrote:
seaturtleisland wrote:
Drehmaschine wrote:
I don't believe it at all. I have yet to grow out of it. That's like telling blind people to grow out of it and start seeing things.


Well I wasn't blind but I did grow out of not having a sense of smell so...


I was deaf one time in my life and then I could hear again.


What I am saying is that someone can't tell you to just snap out of it and you will be fine. You didn't get to hear because someone told you to stop being deaf and start hearing. My English still needs work but this is what I am saying not that someone's fate can't change. I'm tired of people saying that we need to grow up and stop being autistic. This is all.



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22 Mar 2013, 4:27 pm

Drehmaschine wrote:
What I am saying is that someone can't tell you to just snap out of it and you will be fine. You didn't get to hear because someone told you to stop being deaf and start hearing. My English still needs work but this is what I am saying not that someone's fate can't change. I'm tired of people saying that we need to grow up and stop being autistic. This is all.

My father thought that I lacked discipline. He was very disappointed in me. We never had a normal conversation ever... and he lived into his 90's. He was always trying to teach me how to "be normal."


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22 Mar 2013, 10:41 pm

I have outgrown a lot of my symptoms, but I still have a lot of them. I've improved my ability to read body language, but I still don't have any friends. I still stim a lot, but I usually only fidget when I'm being social. If I'm somewhere where I won't see anyone again I don't put as much effort into masking my symptoms. I still talk about my special interests too much, but they're not ten minute monologues anymore. It seems like I can either not talk about my interests at all or talk about them too much. I still don't know very many ways to get to a happy medium. One way I know is to only talk about it if someone brought it up first. I'm only sixteen right now, hopefully when I'm an adult I'll be able to function normally.


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