Women are not attracted to me because I'm not 'masculine'?

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12 Apr 2013, 12:30 am

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I'm more curious why someone likes to continuously spell the word, "slaaps". ;)


Hey, out of curiosity... since those Spaniards are going to jail for all that slapping, are the men getting more or equal jail time for the same offense?


Damn. Sorry, I'm mixing with 'hij slaapt'.


are you dutch?


Nope, no dutch would make that mistake :)


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12 Apr 2013, 7:35 am

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12 Apr 2013, 7:58 am

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just because a woman gives birth doesn't mean that she has to have someone buy her groceries and take care of her indefinitely. giving birth is one small biological act, but life can have many other acts and roles in it. the small physical differences between men and women don't mean a whole lot in day to day life. childbirth doesn't happen for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week after all. you don't have to believe anything at all, because people are off doing these roles whether you believe in them or not. i have to admit i am rather shocked that you have never noticed that women are out doing jobs and contributing in the real world.

many men and women have similar roles in a household (differentiation is not actually required), or reversed roles, or whatever works for them. you can choose a more traditional way to do things, but that doesn't make it the "right" way or the way that things should be for other people. that's the beauty of the modern world - people can choose to do what works for them within their own relationship.

you don't have to be lazy (not sure where you got that idea, as i did not say that at all). but your future wife could work too, if she wanted to. or you could take turns working and caring for the household, if you wanted to make an agreement like that. many people work because they want to, not because they have to. it gives them a feeling of fulfilment and a sense of accomplishment. but your future wife will probably make her feelings clear about that.


I never said indefinitly taking care of her, and I never said we wouldn't take turns. And also, I am one who enjoys working, and I haven't even had a job. When I am mad, or frustrated, I work quite well, work is actually a stress reliever for me, and makes me happy, as long as it it is fulfilling. I'm sorry we misunderstood each other, I think we both actually agree. :oops:



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12 Apr 2013, 9:08 am

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just because a woman gives birth doesn't mean that she has to have someone buy her groceries and take care of her indefinitely. giving birth is one small biological act, but life can have many other acts and roles in it. the small physical differences between men and women don't mean a whole lot in day to day life. childbirth doesn't happen for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week after all. you don't have to believe anything at all, because people are off doing these roles whether you believe in them or not. i have to admit i am rather shocked that you have never noticed that women are out doing jobs and contributing in the real world.

many men and women have similar roles in a household (differentiation is not actually required), or reversed roles, or whatever works for them. you can choose a more traditional way to do things, but that doesn't make it the "right" way or the way that things should be for other people. that's the beauty of the modern world - people can choose to do what works for them within their own relationship.

you don't have to be lazy (not sure where you got that idea, as i did not say that at all). but your future wife could work too, if she wanted to. or you could take turns working and caring for the household, if you wanted to make an agreement like that. many people work because they want to, not because they have to. it gives them a feeling of fulfilment and a sense of accomplishment. but your future wife will probably make her feelings clear about that.


I never said indefinitly taking care of her, and I never said we wouldn't take turns. And also, I am one who enjoys working, and I haven't even had a job. When I am mad, or frustrated, I work quite well, work is actually a stress reliever for me, and makes me happy, as long as it it is fulfilling. I'm sorry we misunderstood each other, I think we both actually agree. :oops:

that's ok. i'm glad we agree. :)


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12 Apr 2013, 9:39 am

I have some feminine features :-/ , especially facial : kinda full lips, narrow jaws, small stature....

http://i.imgur.com/dE5lC3m.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/mS9aq2r.jpg

but my body is gorillically masculine :-/

http://i.imgur.com/dw0QsiY.jpg

I am often called very masculine on dating site when I've used the above pic.



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12 Apr 2013, 10:00 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I have some feminine features :-/ , especially facial : kinda full lips, narrow jaws, small stature....

http://i.imgur.com/dE5lC3m.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/mS9aq2r.jpg

but my body is gorillically masculine :-/

http://i.imgur.com/dw0QsiY.jpg

I am often called very masculine on dating site when I've used the above pic.


I like body hair

you look normal - that's all most people want



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13 Apr 2013, 4:50 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I have some feminine features :-/ , especially facial : kinda full lips, narrow jaws, small stature....

http://i.imgur.com/dE5lC3m.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/mS9aq2r.jpg

but my body is gorillically masculine :-/

http://i.imgur.com/dw0QsiY.jpg

I am often called very masculine on dating site when I've used the above pic.


Boo! You're back!



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13 Apr 2013, 10:41 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I have some feminine features :-/ , especially facial : kinda full lips, narrow jaws, small stature....

http://i.imgur.com/dE5lC3m.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/mS9aq2r.jpg

but my body is gorillically masculine :-/

http://i.imgur.com/dw0QsiY.jpg

I am often called very masculine on dating site when I've used the above pic.


Boo! You're back!



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13 Apr 2013, 4:58 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I have some feminine features :-/ , especially facial : kinda full lips, narrow jaws, small stature....

http://i.imgur.com/dE5lC3m.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/mS9aq2r.jpg

but my body is gorillically masculine :-/

http://i.imgur.com/dw0QsiY.jpg

I am often called very masculine on dating site when I've used the above pic.


I remember seeing a pic of you years a go, the thing is you look way more masculine now. The thing is both men and women look more masculine as we get older. Which is good for men, not so good for women.


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13 Apr 2013, 9:18 pm

The basis of "masculinity" is confidence. Be confident, don't act like you hate yourself. And pay attention to what they're saying.



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13 Apr 2013, 9:31 pm

BoilingBrain wrote:
The basis of "masculinity" is confidence. Be confident, don't act like you hate yourself. And pay attention to what they're saying.


Confidence can be attractive, but that's not a specifically masculine quality. I'm curious of how you define femininity on that basis . :?:



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13 Apr 2013, 10:49 pm

BoilingBrain wrote:
The basis of "masculinity" is confidence. Be confident, don't act like you hate yourself. And pay attention to what they're saying.

Now if only there was a clear definition of confidence. As it is currently its a vague word to show some sort of easy hope to anyone that thinks that's all it takes. In reality confidence likely comes after one achieves success, as in it doesn't create success but rather comes by part of success. Can it help? Sure, in a same way as a 'the rich get richer' slogan explains