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Chloe33
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11 Apr 2013, 11:42 am

My gf's mother is constantly putting me in these situations where i tell her no and refuse then keeps pushing until i get pissed and give in.
Anyhow the latest one (and this is a woman who knows i know that she doesn't like me) yet she still has the nerve to ask me for things.

My gf's mother and her bf went on vacation and her mother calls me, telling me she had a panic attack and bullsh*tting all over the place the way people do.
I told her if it was that bad why not go to the E.R.?? She was too embarrassed...
Next i told her to ask her Dr (who actually used to live where they are on vacay so he could have wrote her a script) yet she lies and claims
she is too embarrassed; however she has asked him before.

So she bothers me about MY klonopin. My gf ended up mailing her mother 2 of them.

My family would never be such scum to do such a thing. It's disgusting, the woman knows i know she doesn't like me (she's embarrassed by me of course) and she has the nerve to ask for my medication.
She needs to get over her "embarrassment" as i would have went to the ER or got my Dr to write me a script instead of mooching off my daughters' gf.

I am so sick of them all, it's hard not to just kick them to the curb including the GF.

The woman is nervy, she pushes things unto others when it's obvious i am screaming "NO". Another problem is the high incidence of AntiSocial Sociopath Personalities in that family along with a Borderline Grandmother on the mom's side. So i don't know what to make of any of this.

Its against my familys' morals to mooch off others.
To ask for my pills which i need to take is so ridiculous when she should have went to a doctor.
She knows i know she doesn't like me, do you think she does this on purpose?

Maybe she wants her daughter (my gf) back so she can use her to drive around the younger ones, idk... She's bad and i can't read her 99% of the time unless i am there and see some type of empathy. Yet i feel she posts the empathy to cover for lack thereof...

What should i do help



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11 Apr 2013, 12:06 pm

Chloe33 wrote:
My gf's mother is constantly putting me in these situations where i tell her no and refuse then keeps pushing until i get pissed and give in.
Anyhow the latest one (and this is a woman who knows i know that she doesn't like me) yet she still has the nerve to ask me for things.

My gf's mother and her bf went on vacation and her mother calls me, telling me she had a panic attack and bullsh*tting all over the place the way people do.
I told her if it was that bad why not go to the E.R.?? She was too embarrassed...
Next i told her to ask her Dr (who actually used to live where they are on vacay so he could have wrote her a script) yet she lies and claims
she is too embarrassed; however she has asked him before.

So she bothers me about MY klonopin. My gf ended up mailing her mother 2 of them.

My family would never be such scum to do such a thing. It's disgusting, the woman knows i know she doesn't like me (she's embarrassed by me of course) and she has the nerve to ask for my medication.
She needs to get over her "embarrassment" as i would have went to the ER or got my Dr to write me a script instead of mooching off my daughters' gf.

I am so sick of them all, it's hard not to just kick them to the curb including the GF.

The woman is nervy, she pushes things unto others when it's obvious i am screaming "NO". Another problem is the high incidence of AntiSocial Sociopath Personalities in that family along with a Borderline Grandmother on the mom's side. So i don't know what to make of any of this.

Its against my familys' morals to mooch off others.
To ask for my pills which i need to take is so ridiculous when she should have went to a doctor.
She knows i know she doesn't like me, do you think she does this on purpose?

Maybe she wants her daughter (my gf) back so she can use her to drive around the younger ones, idk... She's bad and i can't read her 99% of the time unless i am there and see some type of empathy. Yet i feel she posts the empathy to cover for lack thereof...

What should i do help


Do you mean your girlfriend where I've bolded? If so, why do you stay with her if you are not happy and you have a problem with her family? People all have different morals, it's not good to take someone else's medication purely for the reason that it might not be the right one for you, and a doctor needs to be the one to prescribe it because you may have a condition meaning a a particular medication is dangerous for you.

You owe it to yourself to be happy, why waste your life with people that don't make you happy.


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11 Apr 2013, 12:36 pm

Chloe33 wrote:
My gf's mother and her bf went on vacation and her mother calls me, telling me she had a panic attack and bullsh*tting all over the place the way people do.
I told her if it was that bad why not go to the E.R.?? She was too embarrassed...
Next i told her to ask her Dr (who actually used to live where they are on vacay so he could have wrote her a script) yet she lies and claims
she is too embarrassed; however she has asked him before.

So she bothers me about MY klonopin. My gf ended up mailing her mother 2 of them.


Sorry about your situation--it sounds complicated and frustrating. This part of the story is interesting, though. I recently started taking a related med, lorazepam, and have put a little time into educating myself about it. It is my understanding that these benzodiazepines are potentially quite addictive especially in combination with other drugs (or alcohol):
"Although clonazepam is perceived as “safe,” addiction medicine specialists have found that it is also frequently abused as a street drug."
http://www.aafp.org/afp/2000/0401/p2121.html

Being to embarrassed to tell your doctor about a basic medical need that you have been treated by that doctor for before is not plausible. I would be concerned that something else is going on in this situation.
I would put my foot down and say: "No, I will not break the law to redistribute this schedule IV drug for you. I had to give my license to the doctor for a reason when I got this stuff, and it wasn't so I could pass it out to relatives. I will not break the law for you. Go and get your medication in a legal and reasonable way."

If the family gives you grief for taking a reasonable stand, I would tend to cut them off.



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11 Apr 2013, 12:40 pm

Adamantium wrote:
Sorry about your situation--it sounds complicated and frustrating. This part of the story is interesting, though. I recently started taking a related med, lorazepam, and have put a little time into educating myself about it. It is my understanding that these benzodiazepines are potentially quite addictive especially in combination with other drugs (or alcohol):
"Although clonazepam is perceived as “safe,” addiction medicine specialists have found that it is also frequently abused as a street drug."
http://www.aafp.org/afp/2000/0401/p2121.html

Being to embarrassed to tell your doctor about a basic medical need that you have been treated by that doctor for before is not plausible. I would be concerned that something else is going on in this situation.
I would put my foot down and say: "No, I will not break the law to redistribute this schedule IV drug for you. I had to give my license to the doctor for a reason when I got this stuff, and it wasn't so I could pass it out to relatives. I will not break the law for you. Go and get your medication in a legal and reasonable way."

If the family gives you grief for taking a reasonable stand, I would tend to cut them off.


This ^^


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11 Apr 2013, 12:43 pm

I agree with the above posters and also I can relate. My ex's mother said I was manipulative and had a psychology over her son when we got in a fight in her house. She also used to tell me things she wanted me to change about her son whenever I saw her like "he needs to get a better job" or "make sure he eats enough X-he needs to eat more X". This was even before we lived together so I don't know how she figured I could control what he ate (or his job for that matter)! She would whisper these things to me so I guess she didn't want her son to hear. She also wanted to do a makeover on me and would tell me what I should change about my looks-that I should do my nails ect. Anyway, he broke up with me in the end and good riddance to him and his mum in the end.

I agree that you shouldn't let others use your prescribed medication-that's just a bad idea.

Your thread title is hilarious. :lol:



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11 Apr 2013, 8:01 pm

A panic attack only lasts for so long. Your body can't keep it up long enough for the meds to reach her on time. Next time this happens simply tell your girlfriend this and that if she really needs meds then she needs to call a doctor for a prescription. Otherwise it won't get to her in time to be useful.


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11 Apr 2013, 8:17 pm

I think the villain here is your girlfriend, if she took your medicine against your wishes and mailed it to her mother. You complain about her violating your autonomy in almost every post. Are you sure this relationship is healthy for you?