Lying to myself.

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For years I have thought of myself as at least semi-confident, tough skinned, able to read people and listen well, and talented enough to be famous if I want to. It has dawned on me that my own mind has created a self defense...I've been lying to myself. Truthfully I am insecure, not a good listener, not able to read people well, think skinned, and fear holds me back from acheiving my dreams. Has anyone else gone through a process like this?

Yes, I can definitely relate.

Seeing yourself from an objective outsider view is supposedly quite healthy. It's called an observing ego. Congratulations!

And yes I can relate...although I think I often see myself worse than others see me, but at other times, have been surprised by their disapproval.

I did this to myself when I was younger, however I realised that this wasn't helping me to make friends.

My current perception of myself is quite honest and realistic. I try and never lie about my weaknesses, however there are times when you can't be too direct about your problems (e.g. at a job interview) or people who may try and scam you for money.

Try and be honest around those who you feel most comfortable around like family and close friends

I feel like based on the past, you can only open up and be that way with people you trust. Open up and show weaknesses to people and many will use them against you.

Word falling, photo falling: breakthrough in the grey room.

35 was a next exit for me, too.