leafplant wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
leafplant wrote:
If I ask you out I expect (and will insist) on paying. I would be offended if someone wouldn't let me pay and constantly have arguments with my friends about this. Second date would be ok for going dutch though.
What do your friends say?
If I invite them out they insist on paying for half or their order. I am not well off and they are being kind, but to my mind, whoever makes the invitation should pay unless there is an understanding that it is going to be half and half which would be an awkward thing to discuss on a first date anyway. I think if I was to ask a guy out I'd probably just ask him to a coffee anyway so it wouldn't be that expensive. I find eating in company really stressful so it wouldn't be my choice of date to go for a dinner anyway. To be fair, I am very weird in lots of ways
I completely agree with leafplant and that's how I handle things. If I'm with friends and they insist on paying for their whatever (meal, coffee, etc), then that's fine. But usually with friends, we discuss payment beforehand anyway.
With dates it's different, but if I asked a woman out, I already know in my head that I'm going to pay for it.
If a woman asks me out, I EXPECT her to pay but if she doesn't then I am always sure to bring my own money to pay for myself.
I've had women pay for me a few times after they had invited me to go somewhere, but most of the time I wind up paying for myself.
However, if I invite that same woman somewhere I pay for her.