Guy socially humiliated
02 Feb 2014, 5:01 am
dianthus wrote:
This video reminds me of situations I've been in, where someone like the guy on the left was joking with me, and picking on me because I didn't want to go along with something, or didn't feel like being sociable or just whatever they saw as a reason to pick on me. And then someone else like the guy in the middle would sort of collude with them, someone that I felt should have been sticking up for me but instead it's like they suddenly turn on you and gang up on you.
I would react, not like the guy on the right, but in a more defiant, silent sort of way, which would actually make it worse because the instigator would take it like a challenge and just lay it on worse.
I feel bad for the guy on the right because it seems like he is basically just trapped by these other two jerks. He can't just walk away, apparently he already tried to do that and the interviewer just tracked him down and forced him to talk. Very, very familiar scenario for me.
Oh yeah it also reminds me of one time in 10th grade when this one guy was picking on me, acting like he was flirting with me but doing it in a really hostile way, and he got up in my face like he was going to try to kiss me. I just froze and stared at him. I didn't know what to do. This video depresses me.
I would react, not like the guy on the right, but in a more defiant, silent sort of way, which would actually make it worse because the instigator would take it like a challenge and just lay it on worse.
I feel bad for the guy on the right because it seems like he is basically just trapped by these other two jerks. He can't just walk away, apparently he already tried to do that and the interviewer just tracked him down and forced him to talk. Very, very familiar scenario for me.
Oh yeah it also reminds me of one time in 10th grade when this one guy was picking on me, acting like he was flirting with me but doing it in a really hostile way, and he got up in my face like he was going to try to kiss me. I just froze and stared at him. I didn't know what to do. This video depresses me.
Can you explain where they are picking on him because I can't see it. I just see three guys horsing around and being silly with each other.
When I think about people picking on people I think about the kind of thing that happened to me where people spread nasty rumours about me and slandered my reputation (made me out to be something I am not in order to incite hatred against me with other people and turn them against me too because the original offenders didn't like me...so they told lies about me which people believed). I then tried to defend myself and that was twisted by the bullies to make it look as though I was attacking someone who was innocently trying to help me by giving advice for the imaginary problems they were telling people I had.
ie On one occasion (and this is just one example) they posted that I was schizophrenic and psychotic...when I neither hear voices, nor see things, nor self harm (excluding hitting my head when I am upset which is not a desire to hurt myself and not premeditated like cutting..it is an impulse thing. I do not cut or anything of the kind), I do not break the law, I don't do drugs, I am not violent towards people etc). They also implied that I sit around all day doing nothing to help myself which is also not true. Firstly I have many hobbies and tend to keep busy when possible, secondly I love achieving goals and am always setting myself goals to achieve for the fun of it, thirdly I look after my health by eating properly and getting plenty of sleep (I know I gained weight but this was when I was getting very bad CFS type issues and couldn't get out of bed...I finally resloved this with a number of lifestyle changes and most of the CFS symptoms went away) and last but not least I try to socialise but it just never seems to work out for some reason I don't quite understand.
This resulted in my being socially ostracised by people even though technically I had done nothing wrong or nothing to deserve it. The more I tried to defend myself and clarify that they were posting incorrect information about me, the more they said I was in denial about my mental illness and implied they were just trying to help me.
I actually spoke to a psychiatrist about the possibility of having schizophrenia just to clarify matters officially in the real world and he laughed. I have never been diagnosed with any kind of psychosis or medicated for it and I have checked with drs.
That is what I consider to be bullying as they unfairly tarnished someones reputation in order to keep them socially isolated or turn people against them.
I still just see horse play in that video.
02 Feb 2014, 5:29 am
bumble wrote:
What is humiliating about it please?
I just see a group of people being people doing people things which sometimes involves being silly with each other. Why is this humiliating?
I just see a group of people being people doing people things which sometimes involves being silly with each other. Why is this humiliating?
Here,
1. Guy to the left accuses guy to the right for keeping on walking instead of openly taking the interview - this implies,
- The guy to the left's interview is more important than whatever the guy on the right was doing at the moment. Implying the guy on the left is in command of the guy on the right, i.e. being his boss/being more alpha than him. He should accept an interview like everybody else does, as he implies.
- The guy to the right possibly might not want to take the interview because of being socially awkward/has something to hide he is ashamed of, i.e. an indirect attack on his social status.
- Guy in the middle gangs up on his own friend, implying he is not good enough for his company (guy in middle attempts to save his social reputation despite being accompanied by the guy to the right).
2. Guy to the left asks guy in the middle what is wrong with the guy to the right - this implies,
- Another attack on the social status of the guy to the right.
- Forcing guy in the middle to again gang up on his own friend to protect his social status.
3. Guy on left forces guy in the middle to say he does not even know if he knows his own friend (guy to the right).
4. Smirky smile by from guy to the left - this implies,
- He wants the viewers to acknowledge his social strength and power in comparison to the guy on the right.
5. Guy to the left asks; "Is everything okay my friend?" to the guy to the right - this implies,
- That the guy on the right might find the situation uncomfortable because of the attacks of guy on the left. He wants him to admit his power.
6. Guy to the left asks; "You're not upset with me?" to the guy to the right - this implies,
- That the guy on the right might be upset with guy on the left because of his attacks. Admitting to be upset by attacks is a sign of weakness - you have been beaten and the punches hurt you. Guy on the left tries to make him admit they hurt/are annoying.
7. Guy to the left says; "Okay give me a kiss!" to the guy to the right - this implies,
- That the guy to the right is gay.
- That the guy to the right finds the guy to the left desirable/attractive.
- The guy on the right still accepts the guy on the left right after having been humiliated - making it clear that the guy on the left is the stronger part.
