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Shau
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01 Feb 2014, 10:55 am

johnnyboy11 wrote:
My picture is my avatar, am I a decent looking guy? I think I'm attractive physically, no?


Yup, you've got the looks for sure. At least from that pic, a solid 8 I'd say, if that means anything coming from a bi guy. Be aware that looks don't count as much for men, though.



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01 Feb 2014, 10:59 am

You can use the approach I used. I call it "live and learn" or "trial and error." The most important rule about the approach I used, "don't get discouraged."


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14 May 2016, 1:40 pm

johnnyboy11 wrote:
I don't get it. I do NOT connect well with people in general, but I can hold down conversations. I just don't understand how to build romantic interest. I can get a date EVERY Friday night, it seems (using that TINDER app thing), but almost NEVER a second date!

My picture is my avatar, am I a decent looking guy? I think I'm attractive physically, no?


It's not you, it's them. I've never used Tinder myself, nor have I been a fan of it. People go on there for one night stand sex, not second dates.

If you have a job, try a reliable paid dating site, like E-harmony, or something. I don't know. Also, stay away from Plentyoffish. There are literally 21 PAGES of guys for every ONE girl. ONE. Not one page, just one.

Girls have infinite access to way more men, than men have women.

Welcome to 2016, my friend. Dating in this age sucks.



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17 May 2016, 3:04 pm

I think it's just part of the dating process - particularly if you're dating online, because chemistry doesn't really work via text/email.

I've been with my boyfriend (met online) for a year, but during the year or so I actively online dated, only about 1 in 6 or 8 first dates were fun enough to warrant a second.

Meeting in IRL, I found that if a guy got my number, there was a 50% chance he'd call, if he did, it's a 50% chance we had enough fun on a first date to warrant a second and a 50% chance we'd both want a third. There's no way to get to know people without, you know, getting to know them in person.