getting asked if you are ok

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I normally get asked if I'm okay when I'm spacing out. I find it hard to communicate when I space out. This often makes me seem way less okay than I actually am. When I say that I am okay they often assume that I'm not okay and continue to ask.

Thanks. I thought, "How're you doing?" was another way of asking how someone is. As for what to say next, I guess anything random that comes to mind, as long as you don't feel awkward when you're saying it.

"What's up" always made me uncomfortable, I also thought that when someone asked "what's up" it meant they wanted to know what I had been doing lately. But I have also learned (by experience, when I worked at an office) that when people say "how are you doing" they don't really want to know, you're supposed to just say "good thank you", or just "hi" I guess. But if I say "how are you doing" I actually do mean "how are you doing", not just "hi".

^ Me too.

I've been ask by many people this question as well...
Whenever they see me not smiling or staring off into space, they always ask if I'm ok or alright

I would always get asked that by women who I found attractive. Total confidence blower. I figured they found me gazing at them a little too long but didn't understand why...I feel that they might have been attracted to me as well in alot of those cases but I just didn't behave the way they would expect a guy to behave in those types of situations.

People ask me this all the time, and it drives me nuts. Usually I can't come up with a good answer, and since it catches me off guard most of the time, it just ends up pissing me off. I know other people are concerned about me, but c'mon, what happened to just leaving people be?

I have also always dislike the question "What's up?" for the reason that if something is "up" in other non-literal ways, it often means something is suspicious or off color somehow. Like if someone said, "I heard them talking, and it sounds like something is up." This would probably not be referring to a good thing.

So to be asked as a greeting, "What's up?" has always left me feeling that the other person perhaps does not trust me, or thinks I am "up" to something. But I think I am wrong, and it is just an expression people use sometimes without really thinking about all the implications and other such minutia that those of here would obsesses over.

My guess is that you may have a blank "expressionless" facial expression and people interpret that as sad/worried/anxious etc.

Pfft, heck no. A teacher yelled at me for smiling once, though! The uptight, miserable jerks around here walk around with default facial expressions ranging from "just sniffed poop" to "about to snap and kill someone." My Aspie pokerface probably looks downright cheerful to them!

SOMEONE GET ME OUT OF HERE.

I used to get this asked all the time by my maths tutor and my teachers? "Are you ok?"

It turned out because I would look so nervous and frightened without meaning to. I don't know if I still do this though.

I get asked this a lot too but do you know the one thing I've noticed is? It's only the people who care about you who ask this. That's what I've noticed! I don't think the rest give a toss!

When people ask me "what's up?" I tell them it's a Disney movie.

Most people ask this in response to body language or facial expression. Apparently NT's think you're in a bad mood unless your facial expression and body language reflect otherwise. My kids and wife have learned to ask "What are you thinking" instead. It prevents them from misreading my body language or facial expressions and assuming I am mad at them. It doesn't work overly well in a job enviormnment though. I've lost jobs because co-workers thought I was pouting or sulking whn in reality I was just deeply pre-occupied with a work related task

I get asked this question all the time by people who I am talking to, due to the fact that I have a habit of getting very quiet when I don't have anything to say or don't know the right way to respond to a question. Sometimes I start thinking about something when I'm in a social setting with a group of people and lose my focus, and that causes them to ask if I'm okay also.

A lot of people tend to ask me this for the simple reason that I don't smile as much as they think I should. It's incredibly annoying.