Do you ever feel bad about being anti-social?
Have you researched anything about financial aid?
Lol, thanks.
I emailed a counselor, and she said to get off aid suspension I have to get a 2.0 GPA or finish a cumulative 67% of my courses, and make an improvement plan. She said we can make an appeal, but I don't know what "extenuating circumstances" mean. She said we could make an appointment, but the last time I went to see a school counselor was in 11th grade, routinely, just so that I could do my math work. I haven't emailed back. Maybe my mom would come with me.
"Extenuating circumstances" mean you didn't get good grades because of something which might have happened to you, such as the passing away of a relative. Or maybe you were stressing over your parents getting laid off--and not being able to work full time to support the family. Things like that.
How many credits must you take in order to get off "aid suspension?" A 2.0 is easy enough to achieve, provided you attend at least 80 percent of your classes, and pass all your exams. That's a "C" average.
In your "improvement plan," you could say that you'll start following the syllabus more thoroughly, and that you'll attend all your classes. You might also say that you will set aside a couple of hours a day just for studying.
I cannot feel badly for having the natural inclination to not be a social creature. I have been encouraged for my entire life to socialize, and can't understand why I should have to do what I've got no reason to do, other than to conform to an ideal that holds no interest to me.
Exactly. That's why I felt I had to explain I'm not actually "anti-social", I'm not anti society or against society, I'm just not a social butterfly, and I'm happy by myself doing my own thing, I'm not mad at the world or society or anything, I don't hate people, and if someone needed help I would help if I can, etc.
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If being social means that you have to do what others want you to do then don't be social. I'm not able to do that. Some people I work with are very controlling and always want me to do things there way, I do things in a way that is easiest for me. If it leads to others not talking to me then that's just the way things will have to be. I do not like controlling people....
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How many credits must you take in order to get off "aid suspension?" A 2.0 is easy enough to achieve, provided you attend at least 80 percent of your classes, and pass all your exams. That's a "C" average.
In your "improvement plan," you could say that you'll start following the syllabus more thoroughly, and that you'll attend all your classes. You might also say that you will set aside a couple of hours a day just for studying.
So no circumstances that really apply, lol. My current GPA is .65... I'm not sure how to do the math with a cumulative GPA.
An online calculator says I need a B in five 3 credit classes to barely get a 2.0.
Tuition was $133 per credit. Then there's books, supplies, fees. Wonder what my credit card limit is. Lol, I guess I'll start saving.
I appreciate your suggestions for the improvement plan!
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I am not anti-social so no...but anti-social specifically refers to more going out of your way to be a jerk, like behavior that makes other people not want to be around you because it hurts them like more along the lines of psychopathy if that makes sense. But I get what you mean...sometimes I feel bad about not being as 'social' as most and having trouble with communication/social skills and am afraid I could come off as anti-social.
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I thought being anti-social simply meant that you didn't like socialization, or being around other people. Even though I like to socialize with certain people, I still consider myself somewhat antisocial, because there's only a certain amount of socialization I can tolerate before I need to hide somewhere and be by myself for a while. As well, I don't like sudden, "unexpected" interactions with other people, especially people I don't know all too well.
I mean, do you ever come to feel like a "bad person" because you do not want to "share yourself" with others socially.
This is a dilemma for me. On the one hand I hate all the social play/teasing/bullying going on. But I realize it has to be there to make a social group work. If you are not ready to act submissively for more well-accepted/popular people than yourself, you act anti-socially. Really!
But this acting submissive for the group makes me feel awful.
How does one deal with this?
IDK, I dont hang around with people like that. It becomes pretty clear pretty quickly to those I am around that I am not submissive. Why do you explain this as tho it is the norm or some kind of natural law?
There are times when I cant be social for a medical reason, but I am not anti social. What makes you think you are anti social or have to be submissive?
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That is what lots of people think it means, but it actually means more active negative behavior towards people, found that out when I took psychology in college.
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This is a dilemma for me. On the one hand I hate all the social play/teasing/bullying going on. But I realize it has to be there to make a social group work. If you are not ready to act submissively for more well-accepted/popular people than yourself, you act anti-socially. Really!
I don't feel bad at all about being antisocial. Most of the time I just want to be left alone.
I'll never accept teasing and bullying and I'd never feel bad about that. I'd be too occupied with being mad that they would treat me that way than feel bad.
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I mean, do you ever come to feel like a "bad person" because you do not want to "share yourself" with others socially.
This is a dilemma for me. On the one hand I hate all the social play/teasing/bullying going on. But I realize it has to be there to make a social group work. If you are not ready to act submissively for more well-accepted/popular people than yourself, you act anti-socially. Really!
But this acting submissive for the group makes me feel awful.
How does one deal with this?
I really don't know how I feel about being anti-social anymore. I guess I am still coming to terms with not fitting in or being accepted due to who I am.
Part of me feels lonely sometimes when I see others and their friends laughing, socialising and having a 'good time', but there's a part of me that also goes 'what a bunch of shallow airheads' you know?
So, I am on a see-saw about it, so I just go 'pffft...to each their own'.
I have to agree with you on that one. But there are also socially impaired people out there as well, and what I mean by socially impaired is a person who wants to socialize but can't make it work. It's a lot like person who wants to play in a ball game but can't catch the ball because their hand/eye coordination sucks. But then again, social impairment is the result of aspergers anyways.
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