Fat Guy/Girl Experiments

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lol

They showed the woman being nice and agreeable, the man being somewhat cocky and disagreeable. And the man had much more luck. Women more fussy? Not according to this tiny sample!

You mean to tell me men on dating apps just want to get laid? It's not possible! My world is spinning...

For them to be fair they should have showed the 2nd date if they happened or cancelled by the girls - because this how it happens in life, girls never say no upfront on the first date.

Do you recall one of my date threads? where I had a fulfilling date for 3 hours ended with a kiss and even we talked about what to do on next outing and.... she became "busy" after that, and I didn't do anything stupid and kept communication at minimum.

This how it happens when the girl is not interested, how she behaves on first date has no meaning, it's the follow up which matters - and this is what they didn't show in the video.


Also the girl in the test was showed as "hottie" in the pic, with the bikini pic - while the pics of the guy where "inspirational" kind of pics, they deliver a different message.
The equivalent guy should have been some more toned type of model guy and with non-inspirational beach photos.

sometimes i think you put more faith and give more credit to tinder as a legitimate dating website than it deserves, it's a superficial hookup app and nothing more lol

^ CafeAulait found her bf there.

You put too much fait that it's just for hookup or that okcupid is much different and better.
Believe me, most women there swipe guys' photos in their inbox in the same way.

A better comparison woulda been, a fat girl and a SKINNY guy. Fat guys can get dates easily. In fact they can get them a lot more easily than skinny guys.

I thought tinder was basically about getting laid. Isn't it based on grinder, but for straight people?

I've been fat, skinny, and I am now buff with a 380 lb bench press. When do you think I got laid the most?

Lol.... my boyfriend was on both OkCupid AND Tinder. He said women on OkCupid are no better/smarter/less-superficial/less-issued than women on tinder. The only thing you know is that the OkCupid women are more certainly looking for a serious relationship... but they are no more interesting or better partners.

Your boyfriend is right: Tinder is theoretically better than Okcupid, by far I would say.

First, the Tinder profile is linked to the person's facebook pictures, so one wouldn't be able to put the sexiest/least honest photos on it since they are the same pics on fb, and you can just add a simple one personal text description - this is really enough as a first glimpse. I don't get why it's considered a "Hookup" app while Okc is not, the Hookup reputation I think comes from its sister app Grinder (For gays) but it's not necessarily true for Tinder, the Tinder-FB link makes it a poor choice for men-women hookup.

Secondly, at least, from a pure MALE view, before I chat with a 'match' I would be totally sure that she finds me attractive at the very least, otherwise she wouldn't be a 'match' in the first place.

It's the chat feature which is the most important in Tinder for two to know if they are matching mind-wise. Chat is instant, more natural than a long Okc profile, and there's less time to sculpt things for an ideal projection.

Tinder is more like real life than Okc, The "match" is the first glimpse in real life, and the chat is the first conversation.


On okcupid, there's more room for self-exaggeration and self-sculpting in the profile's content, safer to put less honest photos since it's less likely to be seen by real life friends, and the whole questions/matching system and the whole profile structure there encourages the person to "sculpt" everything (and they get advice from others what to put and how to word things) - the final outcome rarely projects the real person.

Also the girls on okcupid get tons of spam messages from desperate guys, so they start to develop a poor and suspicious view on all guys on okc; guys on okc are very stigmatized (as desperate or pervert) by girls until proving otherwise. Also girls on okc find it hard to concentrate with one guy on chat due to the dozens of messages and chat requests they get by the minutes - this is not the case on Tinder.

And just to prove you how okcupid isn't based on a less superficial reality than tinder

This was the result of a real experiment on okc conducted by a journalist:



Notice how the 2 most attractive-looking girls almost monopolize the received messages, and notice how the most attractive guy monopolized the guys' received messages.






http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction- ... xperiment/

This experiment really exposes what Okc is really all about.

I guess that's the main reason why I gave up on online dating . I'm not sure if I should try Tinder.

Even with the spoiler, I'm still gonna say when you were buff. Skinny dudes get passed over way more than fat girls.

What...this isn't making sense...I've lost the ability to maths! By my count, the most attractive female got 76 messages and the most attractive male got 12, but there were others who got more than that!

Your taste differs a bit from the norm, but not that different, you picked the "2nd-favored-by-most" (the first two females both got full inbox) of each, you still wouldn't think the 0 and 11 as the most attractive ones, which was the point of my post.