goofygoobers wrote:
mpe wrote:
goofygoobers wrote:
When I invite people to do things, they NEVER DO THEM.
What kind of things do you tend to invite them to do?
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When I approach people, they NEVER want to initiate ANYTHING. I'm tired of doing all the work in any kind of relationship. I thought this kind of stuff was a two way street. I'm so damn tired of feeling alone and stuck with being the annoying girl no one wants to be around. Do you understand?!
I understand
exactly what you are saying
Which rather goes against the idea of aspie women finding things less difficult than aspie men.
Do you also feel that whilst you are "doing all the work" you have little clue if what you are doing might be right or wrong?
I invite them to normal things like going to the movies (cinema).
I feel as if I go into relationships with a blindfold over my eyes. I can only guess where I'm at and what I'm perceiving.
I know 100% where you're coming from with the blindfold comment. This is why it's important you focus on friends now, since people at that precise age are more receptive to letting new people into their lives.
Do you have someone you could consult about your doubts/impressions? a buddy or some sort of social butterfly that is in the same environment? I'm thinking if you had at least an NT buddy they could give you a better perspective than any of us could on account of being there.
As for feeling like you're doing all the effort, the silver lining is, you find the keepers when you find people that reciprocate (This is something everyone has issues with, even NTs) . I had to go out of my way to approach people, and that's how I found my friend circles. I've gotten used to just pursuing my love interests and being the one to convey my feelings first since it's the only way I'll get a chance at dating the guys I actually want. It's very hit/miss and a lot of guys are thrown off by girls that pursue, but there are also a lot of guys that just won't realize what's going on if you don't tell them, NT AND Aspie alike.
Maybe this helps a bit more?