I am a guy,and a nerd/adventurer,outdoorsman,former boxer/poet/horror writer. aspie at the same time iv dated quite alot,I dont really go much for physical attraction either,but certain things I have noticed do really bother me in a women,like 1 girl I was with for a month,I really did not like the fact she had really short upper teeth,shed smile id smile shed laugh id laugh,but the second I saw her teeth I had to hold back from wretching. she was a bigger women but I liked her,on the other end iv dated all kinds of women,one girl I didnt like her because she told me she wanted me to be more physically aggressive,another was just offensivly dumb. yet each time I had to be the guy who initiated the contact,from my experience most guys dont know how to react when a girl asks them out because they wont flat out say hey want to go out? they do girly stuff. I have friends who I consider really attractive women but I wont date themm,and iv explained to their boy friends that im just a friend nothing more,they dont understand why but they have come to accept it,so to wind this down,most guys like somebody to chase like show a guy u like to be around that you and him have the same interests but dont quite say I like you until he shows for sure he likes you too. also maybe if your meeting epople online,people online can quite often be very fake about who they truly are,maybe try meeting more guys around friends