Afraid of being alone forever?

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i have a feeling your non-verbal communication is off.

Specifically, you don't know when a guy is attracted to you, and you don't know how to communicate your interest in a guy using non-verbal communication. I had no idea if a girl was attracted to me until I was in my twenties. Somebody had to tell me what to look for. I think this is an AS thing. We do not naturally use the non-verbal language that NT's use. We have to study it like a dictionary. With practice and hard work we can use it but it never comes natural.

I don't know how old you are, but I am assuming you are in your late teens. It's just a matter of time before a guy works up the courage to approach you. In the mean time, study up on non-verbal communication.

It's all over the internet.

You could try meeting guys here on WP. I bet there are plenty who would be willing to give you a chance if you live near em or be willing to relocate if you don't.

I have the exact same problem! So, no worries, you're not alone. <3 And you're nineteen so you have plenty of time to figure out this mystery. (And when you do figure it out, please tell me. xD) I don't know why, exactly, but I figure that the rest of the people who posted about it being a body language thing are right because the only consistent is us. The guys keep changing.

As far as fixing the body language thing, I've got no tips for you. I've been trying to fix it, but I've gotten nowhere, and I'm nearing 25 and I've never been asked out. (Don't worry, I'm sure you'll do better than me <3) And for those reading along who are asking “why don't you ask guys out?” the only people who show any interest in me are drunk people. Of all genders. I have no idea why. But it bothers me because drunk people are scary when they're fixated on you. Do you have this problem too, Goofygoobers?

I've tried reading online stuff. Implementing the things I read are difficult, though, for me at least. But a basic google search on body language, or how to flirt will give you plenty of reading material. I've also tried to mimic my NT girl friends when I go out, so you could try that. That's slightly easier to do, but it's also awkward, because I'm always second guessing whether I'm doing it right, and I don't want to be too obviously mimicking them. xD But you can always try those two things and see if they help! Anybody else know any other ways?

To the OP:
I just checked your pics, they're not bad at all! I for one hate it when I feel too much jealousy that most of my friends have bf's/gf's to love and I don't. Even worse when I see the white girls I befriended and they'
re taken for forgotten me, which only adds up the pain of being single. Not to mention being grounded on one city annoys me because the place I live in (Fairfield, CA) has nothing for me to love or enjoy. NOTHING!! !

So yeah, I too am afraid of being forever alone. Mind if I befriend you?

It seems that you are hanging out with the wrong groups of people. Try finding ways to meet different people so you can get experience, like meetup.com. Also, going to conventions might be your thing for meeting like minded people.

Alone forever is a possibility. For everybody.