Asperger's dating statistics
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21 Apr 2015, 6:51 pm
And me being 27, I want to make sure I don't reach a certain age without having experienced dating and being in a relationship with a young woman in her 20's, especially early 20's woman, I don't consider this shallow since they say it is natural for men to be attracted to young youthful women, because mother nature hardwired us men to seek out women that had the best potential to have kids, even if getting them pregnant is the last thing we want to do
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22 Apr 2015, 7:11 am
Wait, did I resurrect this thread by linking to it?
Unless... I date another 19 year old. If I could see the world through her eyes, I could know what it is to be young again.
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22 Apr 2015, 2:03 pm
Unless... I date another 19 year old. If I could see the world through her eyes, I could know what it is to be young again.
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22 Apr 2015, 4:28 pm
Yeah, I know. I've been on some dates where the woman asked in a direct way and I've missed out on some dates where the woman asked in an indirect way and I didn't notice. You have to remember that for NT women, they could flirt with you without saying a word and in their mind, they asked you a clearly defined question.
If you don't respond, they don't think you didn't notice, they think you intentionally said no. Stuff like this can not only apply when getting a date but also during a date. If you don't follow the right nonverbal cues during a date, you won't be getting a second date. That's why my first few dates were one offs.
For all we know, you and I could have been flirted at by a dozen potential girlfriends, a dozen girls who liked us and we never noticed it. We never knew what we lost. The only reason I know about it is because just a few times I figured I'd been flirted at after the fact, too late by that time.
Or sometimes I thought I was being flirted at but I was only 50% sure. Didn't want to take a risk but should have. Or sometimes I was 100% sure but couldn't work out how to flirt back. You get the picture. The only way to slog through it is through a long and gradual process of trail and error.
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22 Apr 2015, 9:23 pm
If you don't respond, they don't think you didn't notice, they think you intentionally said no. Stuff like this can not only apply when getting a date but also during a date. If you don't follow the right nonverbal cues during a date, you won't be getting a second date. That's why my first few dates were one offs.
For all we know, you and I could have been flirted at by a dozen potential girlfriends, a dozen girls who liked us and we never noticed it. We never knew what we lost. The only reason I know about it is because just a few times I figured I'd been flirted at after the fact, too late by that time.
Or sometimes I thought I was being flirted at but I was only 50% sure. Didn't want to take a risk but should have. Or sometimes I was 100% sure but couldn't work out how to flirt back. You get the picture. The only way to slog through it is through a long and gradual process of trail and error.
and I don't get why a guy, a man as in human male, is supposed to embrace or enjoy being self-sufficient, self-reliant.
23 Apr 2015, 5:59 pm
Keep doing what you're doing WantToGetALife -- clearly, the approach you've adopted that has resulted in you being a 27 yo virgin who has never had a date, let alone a girlfriend, is working great!!
The pretty, young women you are hard-wired to seek out to try to reproduce with, well, thankfully, Mother Nature hard wired THEM to avoid guys like you! So symmetrical!!
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23 Apr 2015, 10:38 pm
Keep doing what you're doing WantToGetALife -- clearly, the approach you've adopted that has resulted in you being a 27 yo virgin who has never had a date, let alone a girlfriend, is working great!!
The pretty, young women you are hard-wired to seek out to try to reproduce with, well, thankfully, Mother Nature hard wired THEM to avoid guys like you! So symmetrical!!
what the F do you know about his approach??? you're just being an ASS**** and assuming that cause we'll single at 27 that something must be wrong with us. thats a super dick assumption to make and just proves the point that women think like that and making guys who go and date and use women to get experience validated. congrats.
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24 Apr 2015, 12:20 pm
Unless... I date another 19 year old. If I could see the world through her eyes, I could know what it is to be young again.
Ya I will admit, ever since I turned 25, it has at times made unmotivated to take action to fix my issues with women, like it has made me feel that if I ever do start having the dating life/sex life I had always wanted, I finally do get a girlfriend, and I'm out there in public holding hands with her, or traveling with her, doing some activity with her, and I then see couples out there younger than me, it will be a painful reminder of what I missed out on earlier, my lost youth
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24 Apr 2015, 1:33 pm
Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".
As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.
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24 Apr 2015, 1:49 pm
As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.
deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.
24 Apr 2015, 2:48 pm
As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.
you make women sound like a product on a shelf.
those guys probably find those "average" women attractive and have a emotional connection and common interests with them. I doubt many of them look at other women and think I'd rather be with that lady over this girl I love next to me.
I don't think I'd be settling if I was with a girl I loved who i found attractive but wasn't a model in looks. I don't really process looks that way. theres either unattractive or attractive. there are not levels of attraction to me.
24 Apr 2015, 5:42 pm
As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.
deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.
And women, collectively, have the sense to avoid you.
And, well, "Could've had a girlfriend long ago if I'd lowered my standards" sounds a whole lot like sour grapes.
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29 Apr 2015, 12:46 am
As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.
deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.
Where does personality fit in with your semi-custom made "girlfriend?" To have a girlfriend means you would have to talk to that person and not just look at her or whatever else you would like to do.
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29 Apr 2015, 4:52 am
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