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24 Apr 2015, 1:33 pm

Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.


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24 Apr 2015, 1:49 pm

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Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.


deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.



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24 Apr 2015, 2:48 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.



you make women sound like a product on a shelf.

those guys probably find those "average" women attractive and have a emotional connection and common interests with them. I doubt many of them look at other women and think I'd rather be with that lady over this girl I love next to me.

I don't think I'd be settling if I was with a girl I loved who i found attractive but wasn't a model in looks. I don't really process looks that way. theres either unattractive or attractive. there are not levels of attraction to me.



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24 Apr 2015, 5:42 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.


deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.


And women, collectively, have the sense to avoid you.

And, well, "Could've had a girlfriend long ago if I'd lowered my standards" sounds a whole lot like sour grapes.



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29 Apr 2015, 12:46 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.


deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.



Where does personality fit in with your semi-custom made "girlfriend?" To have a girlfriend means you would have to talk to that person and not just look at her or whatever else you would like to do.



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29 Apr 2015, 4:52 am

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Where does personality fit in with your semi-custom made "girlfriend?" To have a girlfriend means you would have to talk to that person and not just look at her or whatever else you would like to do.
Yeah, that part's tricky.


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29 Apr 2015, 4:14 pm

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RetroGamer87 wrote:
Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.


deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.


And women, collectively, have the sense to avoid you.

And, well, "Could've had a girlfriend long ago if I'd lowered my standards" sounds a whole lot like sour grapes.


ya, I hate it when people argue when people say that real men, men with balls have the power in the dating game, when in reality, almost all the time, women are the ultimate choosers, they make the choice whether or not things usually go past the first or second date, whether a first date happens in the first place, whether exclusivity is formed.



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29 Apr 2015, 5:58 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
Diningroom wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Yeah, sometimes I feel like that too. I keep seeing these young couples. Even when I had a girlfriend it bugged me. It bugged me even more at the time. Part of it was not now old the girl was but how old the guy was. I thought "he's younger than I am".

As for the girl, even disregarding age, some girls I saw were prettier than the one I was with. Even disregarding age, there must be millions of guys who are with average looking girls and they have to just accept that some other guy might be with a hotter girl. If the average man can deal with the average woman then so can we. We must accept being with an ordinary girl just like the other 99% of the male population.


deep inside, I strongly believe I could have had a girlfriend a long time ago if I lowered my standards, okay the girl doesn't have to be a model or supermodel, or anything like that, but I have to have some sort of physical attraction towards her, its okay if she is a little bit on the thick, chubby side, and she can make up for that by having a cute, pretty face, or another one, let's say her face is not the best looking, but she can make up for that by having a nice-body, like having the body of a model but doesn't necessarily need to have the face of a model.


And women, collectively, have the sense to avoid you.

And, well, "Could've had a girlfriend long ago if I'd lowered my standards" sounds a whole lot like sour grapes.


ya, I hate it when people argue when people say that real men, men with balls have the power in the dating game, when in reality, almost all the time, women are the ultimate choosers, they make the choice whether or not things usually go past the first or second date, whether a first date happens in the first place, whether exclusivity is formed.


Except there are lots and lots and lots of women out there, who collectively choose to avoid you. In a variety of fora. All fora, from the sounds of it.

Have you considered that there is a common denominator?



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29 Apr 2015, 6:16 pm

You sound awfully familiar, Lightbulb.



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29 Apr 2015, 9:59 pm

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I finally do get a girlfriend, and I'm out there in public holding hands with her, or traveling with her, doing some activity with her, and I then see couples out there younger than me, it will be a painful reminder of what I missed out on earlier, my lost youth


I have tried to do the "ignore what I have and focus on what I missed out on deal" and it will drive you crazy. Just getting over that now myself. If/when do you get a girlfriend, focus on how great it is to have one. Yeah, it sucks that you/me/probably lots of other Aspies missed out on that stuff earlier in life, but it is better to have one later in life than not at all.



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29 Apr 2015, 10:49 pm

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WantToHaveALife wrote:
I finally do get a girlfriend, and I'm out there in public holding hands with her, or traveling with her, doing some activity with her, and I then see couples out there younger than me, it will be a painful reminder of what I missed out on earlier, my lost youth


I have tried to do the "ignore what I have and focus on what I missed out on deal" and it will drive you crazy. Just getting over that now myself. If/when do you get a girlfriend, focus on how great it is to have one. Yeah, it sucks that you/me/probably lots of other Aspies missed out on that stuff earlier in life, but it is better to have one later in life than not at all.


much easier said than done, that's why I sometimes wish I had an emotion chip like Data from Star Trek The Next Generation.



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30 Apr 2015, 2:56 am

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You sound awfully familiar, Lightbulb.

indeed.

ProfessorJohn wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
I finally do get a girlfriend, and I'm out there in public holding hands with her, or traveling with her, doing some activity with her, and I then see couples out there younger than me, it will be a painful reminder of what I missed out on earlier, my lost youth


I have tried to do the "ignore what I have and focus on what I missed out on deal" and it will drive you crazy. Just getting over that now myself. If/when do you get a girlfriend, focus on how great it is to have one. Yeah, it sucks that you/me/probably lots of other Aspies missed out on that stuff earlier in life, but it is better to have one later in life than not at all.


for me its a big problem as I'll always want that stuff. so I'll never be happy in a relationship that never had it.



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30 Apr 2015, 4:16 am

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You sound awfully familiar, Lightbulb.


The 5th account :lol:.



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30 Apr 2015, 4:32 am

Lightbuld,

here are my suggested username list for your upcoming incarnations:


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Dear, Lightbulb:

Die, harpy.

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I haven't been around much due to it being finals week; however, if Madam Troll keeps popping up, feel free to either ping me, or flag another moderator. I'll be happy to keep dropping houses on her until she quits.

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Dear, Lightbulb:

Die, harpy.





That's the funniest ban ever. :lol:


Add harpy and MadamTroll to the list!!