Are Autistic Men More Likely to be Misogynistic?

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I think a deficit of social interaction with real people makes Aspie men more likely to be susceptible to toxic views on women but also a a warped perspective of reality in general. Most of the time guys on here try to explain and justify their warped views they cite movie and tv clips as if that is how things work in real life. They live in a perpetual cognitive feedback loop that they can't change because they refuse to recognize it.

It's why relationship advice from people who constantly fail at dating (thus confirming their preconcieved notions) is more valuable in their eyes than people who can have successful relationships (whom they generally ignore and dismiss, at least on this forum)

There's a damn good reason for it. Most people who are successful at dating, which includes alpha males (top 20% of all men who have sex with 80% of all women), CAN'T OR WON'T give constructive advice that an aspie man can actually work with. Can't, because they know social/sexual communication stuff intuitively, like swinging their arms while walking. Won't, because it's in their instinct to keep beta males away from "their" women. So they only give platitudes like:
* "Just go out and talk to women" when you've been doing that already
* "Be yourself", when your "self" is what makes you fail, while their "self" lets them meet women left and right
* "Be cocky and funny" with no concrete examples whatsoever (David DeAngelo)
* "Have more confidence" with no pointers on how to actually do that, when they magically already know how
* "Be romantic" when you already have more than enough romance to give

Therefore, their advice ranges from worthless to downright harmful, due to its confusion factor, and at times, deliberately setting up people to fail. By contrast, advice from people who also fail at meeting women comes from someone aspie men empathize with, and vice versa. Also, a quick word about TV: art imitates life! Ideas about those vicious wives on TV have to come from somewhere; it's not something producers pull out of thin air. So while the TV is not perfect, it's a good early warning tool for dangers aspie men can face.

lol!

Like I said. They aren't Misogynists, they just don't know any better. Thanks for proving my point.

Like I said. They aren't Misogynists, they just don't know any better. Thanks for proving my point.

I agree, it's usually more of a delusional thing than a sexist thing, though that can be difficult to distinguish unless you've been around long enough to see the pattern.

I wouldn't use L&D to draw conclusions about the population at large.

That takes the element of malice out of it. Interesting to look at it this way.

I can relate to your frustration, having suffered many experiences like those in the past, but I don't consider it fair to call women "superficial" just because they have certain preferences for a romantic partner. Presumably we're not talking about an ordinary friendship here, in which case it wouldn't matter what you look like. We're talking about a relationship with a sexual element thrown into the mix, and the fact of the matter is that both men and women would rather have sex with whomever they find physically attractive. If you're like me and most other guys, you doubtless feel the same, so you can't fairly take women to task for valuing attractiveness the way we all do.

Honestly your whole attitude appears symptomatic of a larger trend in today's society to resent attractive people for having their own standards that we don't live up to, calling them "shallow" even though it's their appearance that draws us towards them in the first place. And as the average American waistline continues to balloon thanks to the abundance of cheap hi-calorie food and modern convenience, unfortunately a larger proportion of us just happen to be sinking towards the bottom of the sexual desirability barrel due to our less healthy physiques. Certainly the whole "fat acceptance" movement is spearheaded by overweight women who feel inconvenienced by conventional beauty standards, just as you have a lot of overweight men with scruffy necks endorsing MRA- or PUA-style misogyny. That's why I've come to believe the inter-gender warfare you see all over the Internet is driven more than anything else by the swelling tide of sexual frustration in wake of our obesity epidemic.

I'm a big fan of Hanlon's Razor, I find that it's a better way of looking at the world.

You are assuming that all women's "standards" are the same.

i think they hold the same requirements in rl as online, they just don't walk around with them on a sign hanging on their chest. so they talk to the guy and ask questions to find out if he meets them, and when it turns out he doesn't then stop talking to him and move on to the next guy. if anything dating sites are better cause people are upfront about this so the guys/women don't wast their time. still hurts though but far less then if i dated them for a few times spent 200 dollars and have them stop when they find out i work as a cashier.

You are assuming that all women's "standards" are the same.