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xxZeromancerlovexx
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03 Mar 2015, 4:57 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
You have a nice face, and you seem personable enough.
Confidence is the key, IMHO.
Ever heard of the term "large and in charge?"
Confidence is the key, IMHO.
Ever heard of the term "large and in charge?"
Yes I have
My waist went up to 48" today, but I've been doing crunches and eating very little (like 800 to 1200 calories at times) and I still can't get my waist down. All of my clothes are tight around my stomach, but are fine on my chest and hips.
The reason why I fear gaining above a size 20 is because I see women larger than me wear elastic waist jeans, men's t-shirts, running shoes and wear their hair in a greasy up-do, but I've also seen women bigger than me wear cute feminine clothing. Plus sizes go up to a 6x. If I gain weight on my future ant-depressant and gain above a 2x/3x I am promising myself that I won't give into that sort of look (the elastic waist jeans and men's shirts). There are plenty of woman's clothes that go up to a 4x, 5x, 6x.
Sometimes I wonder if that look is a preference because I've seen women bigger than me in those kinds of clothes as well as women who dress pretty and feminine.
03 Mar 2015, 6:43 pm
Wear what makes you feel good. 
xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Let's face it! Guys won't be attracted to me if I get put on an anti depressant and gain to a size 26 or over. I've gotten to the point in my life where if I'm not some "smokin' hot blonde who is a total package" I'm screwed as far as ever being happy goes. The only way I'll ever be satisfied with myself is if I walked down the street and guys flirt with me and whistle at me
Altought, it seems to me that the dress may only be the tip of the iceberg. I don't know why you would need to take anti depressant, but if you do, you could try to discuss your fears with your physician, your pharmacist or your psychiatrist. Maybe there are some alternatives or even pills that have less effects on weight. Also, maybe you could join some kind of support group or online groups about body positivity. Seeking profesionnal help is also an option if you feel depressed because sometimes you need a therapist to help you understand why you feel this way.
Now, no one has ever whistled at me and I think it is a good thing because I would not like to be harassed on the street. You talk about very extreme opposites : being fat with greasy hair and elastic pants (ugly) or being a smoking hot blonde (perfect). Most people do not fall under either of these categories. Instead, they have their qualities and their flaws.
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03 Mar 2015, 9:46 pm
vanille wrote:
Wear what makes you feel good.
Altought, it seems to me that the dress may only be the tip of the iceberg. I don't know why you would need to take anti depressant, but if you do, you could try to discuss your fears with your physician, your pharmacist or your psychiatrist. Maybe there are some alternatives or even pills that have less effects on weight. Also, maybe you could join some kind of support group or online groups about body positivity. Seeking profesionnal help is also an option if you feel depressed because sometimes you need a therapist to help you understand why you feel this way.
Now, no one has ever whistled at me and I think it is a good thing because I would not like to be harassed on the street. You talk about very extreme opposites : being fat with greasy hair and elastic pants (ugly) or being a smoking hot blonde (perfect). Most people do not fall under either of these categories. Instead, they have their qualities and their flaws.
xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Let's face it! Guys won't be attracted to me if I get put on an anti depressant and gain to a size 26 or over. I've gotten to the point in my life where if I'm not some "smokin' hot blonde who is a total package" I'm screwed as far as ever being happy goes. The only way I'll ever be satisfied with myself is if I walked down the street and guys flirt with me and whistle at me
Altought, it seems to me that the dress may only be the tip of the iceberg. I don't know why you would need to take anti depressant, but if you do, you could try to discuss your fears with your physician, your pharmacist or your psychiatrist. Maybe there are some alternatives or even pills that have less effects on weight. Also, maybe you could join some kind of support group or online groups about body positivity. Seeking profesionnal help is also an option if you feel depressed because sometimes you need a therapist to help you understand why you feel this way.
Now, no one has ever whistled at me and I think it is a good thing because I would not like to be harassed on the street. You talk about very extreme opposites : being fat with greasy hair and elastic pants (ugly) or being a smoking hot blonde (perfect). Most people do not fall under either of these categories. Instead, they have their qualities and their flaws.
I agree with wearing what makes me happy. In fact, I like my clothes to be form fitting and somewhat tight because baggy clothes are a sensory issue. Same thing with elastic waist pants.
I'm going on anti-depressants for some very personal reasons, but thanks
Anyway, I get to go shopping next week. Now I can shop and enjoy my new clothes and stuff!
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04 Mar 2015, 4:40 am
YippySkippy wrote:
I do wear a skirt around the house sometimes, but it's a long, flowing, hippie sort of thing. Very earth-motherish.
Heh, me too.
Oh and to answer the question, yes I would date a woman who doesn't wear dresses, or a man who does
04 Mar 2015, 10:30 am
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