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15 Mar 2015, 6:49 pm

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I'm more of an expert than you. You think autism makes people individualized and special. It doesn't. It makes them socially handicapped and often times secluded. You may be autistic yourself and feel differently, but I've seen it firsthand. And I find it hilarious how you don't condemn Google for putting $50 mil. into curing autism, yet you freak out when the Pope says we should help these people. You're a worthless sham who just wants to put a man in a bad light.


Just in our social group, (excluding the specialists) we have combined, over 150 years of experience, not with childhood AS, but adult AS...

Edit: Also he's talking about when Pope Francis called on researchers and scholars to "prevent the onset".



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15 Mar 2015, 7:46 pm

I believe it was Will Rogers who described an expert as "A man fifty miles from home with a briefcase."


I think our struggle will be harder than that of the LGBT community. In general, their community has better social skills than ours and they can point to specific historical people of similar orientations with definitiveness.

We can guess at whether or not historical figures had autism, but we can't prove it definitively in most cases. Anyone wishing to doubt has more room to doubt.

Additionally there have been thriving LGBT communities throughout history, such as Venice where the masquerades allowed for anyone to negotiate politically and where identities were withheld allowing for LGBT's to meet up more easily.
We can't come up with an example of an Autistic community (As the label divide hadn't existed. )

Additionally, we have yet to gain the popular support. The LGBT community has always had a foothold in the arts that we simply don't have (at least not that we know of) and when we do, we are seen more as an oddity.
The LGBT community greatly benefited by having folks like Rob Halford, Freddie Mercury, and John Elton, to aid in popular acceptance.


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15 Mar 2015, 10:50 pm

One thing I notice in news media links that people post from USA media is that they rarely give more than one point of view, one side of the story. They don't bother seeking balance (?)

It's a bit different here because balance is a statutory requirement, for the media, and press, and there are statutory appointed bodies for both that you can complain to if the code of standards is breached. Do you have this in the USA?

Anyway, when we were starting out in the 1970s one of the first things we did was contact newspaper editors whenever we saw a one-sided article representing the status quo - and made an appointment to see the editor to discuss how to remedy this - eg we gave them the option to interview us/write an article about us or to print an apology. In the course of this process, not a single editor refused, and we never had to take a formal complaint to the press or broadcasting standards association. And we got our message out there. This was the start of relationship building even with people who were initially very hostile to our cause; some of them came round as we sent them more and more valid material, and I became their "go to" person for comment whenever the topic was in the news. I am HFA, and had no previous media experience, though I had enormous determination and commitment. It can be done; but you don't get overnight success, that's for sure.

Eventually I was "fighting the fight" in interviews on tv, radio, and press; it snowballed very quickly. So more and more people read about it and joined the cause, and helped in one way or another - I handled the parliamentary submissions, parliamentary liaison and public relations. Others helped in all sorts of ways, answering phones, holding meetings, organising national conferences, lobbying their local members of parliament, lending time and equipment, offering peer support, fundraising to cover our costs (eg I had to fly back and forth to parliament, make lots of long distance calls). It started with a meeting at my place with 8 people and snowballed into a solid organisation of 5000 people. No-one ever thought we would succeed. (Ha!!) The opposition was immense. I received abusive phonecalls (par for the course) but not that many.

I don't think it was easier for gay people. Or would be harder for us. Not if you had dedicated and able leaders with appropriate planning and other skills.

More difficult or not, in the words of Sir Nicholas Winton (again) - "If a thing isn't absolutely impossible, then there MUST be a way to do it". That's the motto I have tried to live by, and it's taken me and my favoured causes a very long way...



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15 Mar 2015, 11:20 pm

Protogenoi wrote:
I believe it was Will Rogers who described an expert as "A man fifty miles from home with a briefcase."


I think our struggle will be harder than that of the LGBT community. In general, their community has better social skills than ours and they can point to specific historical people of similar orientations with definitiveness.

We can guess at whether or not historical figures had autism, but we can't prove it definitively in most cases. Anyone wishing to doubt has more room to doubt.

Additionally there have been thriving LGBT communities throughout history, such as Venice where the masquerades allowed for anyone to negotiate politically and where identities were withheld allowing for LGBT's to meet up more easily.
We can't come up with an example of an Autistic community (As the label divide hadn't existed. )

Additionally, we have yet to gain the popular support. The LGBT community has always had a foothold in the arts that we simply don't have (at least not that we know of) and when we do, we are seen more as an oddity.
The LGBT community greatly benefited by having folks like Rob Halford, Freddie Mercury, and John Elton, to aid in popular acceptance.


Basically I do agree it is going to be tough. I do believe we have plenty in the creative fields but they may be undiagnosed and unaware adults who are successful by scripting which for many is their line of work, having good PR people behind them, and "odd" behavior expected from creative people. So they have characters, we have characterizations. In the wake of the Seinfeld fiasco many if not most Autistics will believe any celebrity coming out as Autistic is doing it a PR stunt. That sentiment is universal in the leadership of support groups I attend. If they do not have a diagnosis the disbelief and reaction has already occurred for self diagnosed people who "came out" way before Seinfeld. If the celebrity is diagnosed the diagnosis will be seen as being bought. It will be a long time before a celebrity comes out in this climate. But celebrity may not be the key. The public loves being entertained by blacks and characters with autistic traits, that does not equal acceptance.

But all is not lost. We may not have the past but we sure have a foothold in the present and future be it computers, internet and all of it's decedents (Again that does not imply that all on the spectrum are good at computers)

What LBGT did was successfully argue that their rights do not threaten straights and their institutions. Somewhat like blacks (of course I am not implying there are not Autistic black people) we have differences in physical presentation to overcome. They also tapped into the growing sentiment that intrusive government should not stamp out difference. The type of person who listens to Alex Jones and is convinced the government is out to get them for the way they think saw the hypocrisy in wanting to persecute LBGT people. And that includes people who are for lack of a better word are less "fanatical" but have those leanings.

In my view our biggest problem is internalization of the negative things being said about us. It is most obvious in the horrific suicide ideation rate. We see that despondency in posts. We see it subtly in many ways. What I described in the first paragraph is an example, the defensive language I felt I needed to use at times in this post is an example. We need to recognize the small victories when they occur such as the latest Autism Speaks fundraising video I posted recently while still offensive is quite different then past ones.


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15 Mar 2015, 11:56 pm

APOM wrote: "In my view our biggest problem is internalization of the negative things being said about us"

I completely agree with this. "Internalised Oppression" - where the stigmatised individual buys into the stigma by believing it and acting as if it is true - is the biggie. You might as well attach a set of chains to you head - if you are chaining your consciousness to the ideas of your oppressors. All the rights in the world won't help unless you unchain your mind.



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16 Mar 2015, 9:14 am

Well, this person did start by calling us "ret*ds," so I don't expect much respect for our intelligence...

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You realize that those two things don't always go together, right, anonymous quoted one? Secluded does not necessarily equal terrible.



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16 Mar 2015, 10:49 am

Forget about those who scoff at our intelligence:

We know what we are about!



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17 Mar 2015, 7:47 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Forget about those who scoff at our intelligence:

We know what we are about!

If only it was as simple as just ignore them, then the problem goes away.



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In my view our biggest problem is internalization of the negative things being said about us. It is most obvious in the horrific suicide ideation rate. We see that despondency in posts. We see it subtly in many ways.

The self hate, believing the vile stigmas, I've seen it as well. The unfortunate part being that because they're on the spectrum, they would potentially be found more credible by other AS people, making the self hate spread.



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One thing I notice in news media links that people post from USA media is that they rarely give more than one point of view, one side of the story. They don't bother seeking balance (?)

It's a bit different here because balance is a statutory requirement, for the media, and press, and there are statutory appointed bodies for both that you can complain to if the code of standards is breached. Do you have this in the USA?

Anyway, when we were starting out in the 1970s one of the first things we did was contact newspaper editors whenever we saw a one-sided article representing the status quo - and made an appointment to see the editor to discuss how to remedy this - eg we gave them the option to interview us/write an article about us or to print an apology. In the course of this process, not a single editor refused, and we never had to take a formal complaint to the press or broadcasting standards association. And we got our message out there. This was the start of relationship building even with people who were initially very hostile to our cause; some of them came round as we sent them more and more valid material, and I became their "go to" person for comment whenever the topic was in the news. I am HFA, and had no previous media experience, though I had enormous determination and commitment. It can be done; but you don't get overnight success, that's for sure.

Eventually I was "fighting the fight" in interviews on tv, radio, and press; it snowballed very quickly. So more and more people read about it and joined the cause, and helped in one way or another - I handled the parliamentary submissions, parliamentary liaison and public relations. Others helped in all sorts of ways, answering phones, holding meetings, organising national conferences, lobbying their local members of parliament, lending time and equipment, offering peer support, fundraising to cover our costs (eg I had to fly back and forth to parliament, make lots of long distance calls). It started with a meeting at my place with 8 people and snowballed into a solid organisation of 5000 people. No-one ever thought we would succeed. (Ha!!) The opposition was immense. I received abusive phonecalls (par for the course) but not that many.

I don't think it was easier for gay people. Or would be harder for us. Not if you had dedicated and able leaders with appropriate planning and other skills.

More difficult or not, in the words of Sir Nicholas Winton (again) - "If a thing isn't absolutely impossible, then there MUST be a way to do it". That's the motto I have tried to live by, and it's taken me and my favoured causes a very long way...

It does seem doable, I can tell the crew (our local social) about this strategy and some of them might even be on board and help us watch the media for hits. I'm sure there's some sort of Australian broadcasting standard to which the media has to abide by, it's a good starting point.

One problem I can see straight away, is that newspapers and television are both dying media. So, we'll also have to be masters of other, newer forms of media, both social and online. After seeing that mountain army pour over the Autism $peaks 10 year anniversary hashtag, I'm sure we can work something out. I've also some ideas of my own.



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18 Mar 2015, 3:54 pm

Lovaas also wanted to "cure" LBGTQs with his ABA "therapy." When the APA started suggesting that it would be better for psychiatrists to refer gays to support groups to help them come out of the closet, Lovaas was indignant and said that would be "inappropriate" and "irresponsible."

You don't hear about that from Autism Speaks now do you? In fact, I've noticed that you don't even seen his name associated with ABA that much anymore.

Another thing he said is that ABA wouldn't be effective if you didn't use electric shocks.



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Wait wait, so because he called Autism a mental disorder, and wants to help rid the world of autism he's supporting f*****g eugenic elimination? Jesus f*****g Christ, you ret*ds will pick at anything this guy says! It is a MENTAL DISORDER. I know MANY autistic children, my cousin included, who live terrible, secluded lives and have no friends. Sorry if you think that's such a positive trait, but for others, it is not.


How sick to f*****g death are you, of curebies pretending to be experts, because they "know someone that has it." Surely I'm not the only one that's noticed just how prevalent the ad verecundiam is these days.

And 99% of the time, the "someone that has it", is still a f*****g child. Just think about that for a second. Not an objective analysis, not a scientific analysis, but the friend count, of one child.

Notice how it's always "I know someone that has it." instead of "An Aspergian told me about it." The glaring implication being that we're either too stupid or too mentally ret*d to understand what's going on, ironically enough. Therefore, our experiences are invalid, leaving the only valid metric, the keen observational skills of the thick.

More importantly, how do we combat this level of stupidity?

I'm also tired of these types of people, they drive me nuts with their insane drivel.
There's no way to combat this level of stupidity. I'm convinced that they're genetically inclined to be that way.


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20 Mar 2015, 4:21 am

Someone with a relative with autism may be an expert on dealing with people whose autism manifests in that particular way but it doesn't make them an expert on the whole thing. Same as everything else, people want to think they know it all. Back when I was having babies, everybody was an expert on the best way to do it based on their own experience or the experience of someone they knew. I found the way that worked for me. It was the same way with ADHD back when my kids were young, any time a kid acted up or didn't pay attention, someone was there to tell you that your kid should go get a diagnosis and ritalin. I agree with you about the experts who have a relative with it. They are experts on that one particular person or possibly on a particular behavior, but not on autism as a whole.

However, I think a cure should be available because AS is a lot more than just difficulty socializing and fitting in. We have a lot of other issues caused by the autism and not by "oppressive NT society" that can be more difficult than just fitting in. Sensory problems, processing problems, perception problems, etc pose a bigger problem to a lot of us than not being able to look someone in the eye or sucking at small talk.

When you portray AS as simply a social impairment then it does seem petty and shallow to try and find a cure or prevention for it. When you factor in the other very real and very problematic issues that many of us face due to the autism itself then you can get a clearer view of the reason that many people including myself, want a cure.

While society does require us to try to fit into certain distinctions and follow meaningless traditions and protocol, and could be more AS friendly thus stopping any thought of a need for a cure, if it were purely a social disability there is nothing you can do about the light of the sun which causes some people sensory problems, and nothing you can do about noises in many places, or crowds or smells or sudden changes in routine or even simple stress overload. You can't change society to take away all the problems caused by autism, and to write off the idea of a cure as pure social bigotry is harming those who have serious issues with nonsocial autism issues by downplaying AS as simply an unaccepted personality type.


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20 Mar 2015, 4:39 am

I don't think anyone here is saying it is "just a social disability". The OP cited someone who was abusive and insulting, and added to the offence by using false justification.

Some light relief at this point in the thread?
http://archive.autistics.org/library/bingo/card-01.jpg



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20 Mar 2015, 8:03 am

B19 wrote:
I don't think anyone here is saying it is "just a social disability". The OP cited someone who was abusive and insulting, and added to the offence by using false justification.

Some light relief at this point in the thread?
http://archive.autistics.org/library/bingo/card-01.jpg


The social disability thing was on my mind from a discussion I had on another AS forum where quite a few folks who say they have AS are claiming that it's mainly a social disability and completely discount the other issues caused by it. It's hard to switch tracks sometimes when two arguments have similar points in them. I end up just throwing everything in like the soup that you make the day before payday with whatever vegetables you didn't use during the week. The only thing is, I need to remember that just because a cucumber looks like a zucchini it won't make much sense in a soup, the same as points from debates that have similar veins. The social disability was just a text version of a cucumber ;-)


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20 Mar 2015, 9:53 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
AS is a lot more than just difficulty socializing and fitting in. We have a lot of other issues caused by the autism and not by "oppressive NT society" that can be more difficult than just fitting in. Sensory problems, processing problems, perception problems, etc pose a bigger problem to a lot of us than not being able to look someone in the eye or sucking at small talk.

When you portray AS as simply a social impairment then it does seem petty and shallow to try and find a cure or prevention for it. When you factor in the other very real and very problematic issues that many of us face due to the autism itself then you can get a clearer view of the reason that many people including myself, want a cure.

While society does require us to try to fit into certain distinctions and follow meaningless traditions and protocol, and could be more AS friendly thus stopping any thought of a need for a cure, if it were purely a social disability there is nothing you can do about the light of the sun which causes some people sensory problems, and nothing you can do about noises in many places, or crowds or smells or sudden changes in routine or even simple stress overload. You can't change society to take away all the problems caused by autism, and to write off the idea of a cure as pure social bigotry is harming those who have serious issues with nonsocial autism issues by downplaying AS as simply an unaccepted personality type.


I would not discount some Autistics saying it is only a social impairment because they feel that is what impairs them most, that is what people criticize them most for, because society had decided social skills is the most important thing in fitting in, making a living etc.

Let's take Executive Functioning. My poor organizing is not society's fault in any way. An argument can be made that my poor multitasking is my disability, I should suck it up. But that argument would not take into account multitasking skills have become much more important since we grew up, that is society. There is more sensory stimuli more constantly then when we grew up. Group learning, "Common Core", open offices all make harder for people with autistic traits to function.


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25 Mar 2015, 5:54 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
You can't change society to take away all the problems caused by autism, and to write off the idea of a cure as pure social bigotry is harming those who have serious issues with nonsocial autism issues by downplaying AS as simply an unaccepted personality type.


Supporting a "cure" can only stem from bigotry, and saying so isn't "harming those who have serious issues". To say it's not bigotry is a gross disservice.

I didn't call AS a personality type... (wtf...)

Applying info broadly to such a diverse group of people is the very definition of bigotry. E.g.; "Black people are violent". The same goes for our people, when others say that we're diseased or defective, non-functional, or non-social etc LOL, then arrive at the conclusion that we need fixing. That's why 'Curebie' is a pejorative term, and another type of bigot.



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25 Mar 2015, 6:14 pm

You know what I'm fed up of? People assuming because they don't want a cure and a bunch of other people with an ASD don't want a cure, nobody with an ASD wants a cure. It's far easier not to receive a cure that has been developed than it is to receive one that hasn't, so really you're just being selfish and ruining it for those that do want a cure.

If they don't accept themselves now, being selfish and making them remain as they are isn't going to change that, and if the potential for a cure exists, it may very well make things worse for them. As far as I can tell the only benefit to not having a cure is a bunch of silly "we should all accept each other for who we are" crap that will undoubtedly never happen.