A new aspergers dating site called Spectrum Singles

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26 Apr 2015, 5:15 pm

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Finally, searching for a friend or romantic partner who is also on the autism spectrum tends to be difficult because people on the autism spectrum make up a small minority of the general population (roughly 1%) and there appears to be a gender imbalance (one study suggested about 1 in 50 males are autistic, versus about 1 in 300 females). If you then narrow your search by demographic characteristics (e.g. acceptable age range, religion, etc.) and geographical location, there may be no one left.


That's because you are using ASD diagnosis rather than neurodiversity. Neurodiversity defined in any reasonable way has no gender bias, and a prevalence of at least 10% outside of Africa, making it useful for dating purposes. Besides, the different relationship styles are connected to neurodiversity and are undefined in ASD diagnosis.

other neurodiversity. like bipolar and narcissists?

you use the word a lot but never really define what it includes. o.O



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27 Apr 2015, 9:18 am

sly279 wrote:
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That's because you are using ASD diagnosis rather than neurodiversity. Neurodiversity defined in any reasonable way has no gender bias, and a prevalence of at least 10% outside of Africa, making it useful for dating purposes. Besides, the different relationship styles are connected to neurodiversity and are undefined in ASD diagnosis.

other neurodiversity. like bipolar and narcissists?

you use the word a lot but never really define what it includes. o.O


It basically includes ASD, AD/HD, Tourette, Dyslexia, Dyscalculia, Bipolar, Schizotypal, Social Phobia, and "attachment" disorders. It doesn't include narcissists.



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31 May 2015, 9:37 pm

There's some easy money for you, a dating site for narcissists that has a 100% success rate, absolutely guaranteed to find you the most perfect beautiful and awesome match who totally loves you and you alone.



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04 Jul 2015, 5:40 am

Not had any success when I've dabbled briefly in online dating. Wondering what's left when the online thing and real life don't lead anywhere? Maybe I'll try virtual reality dating next...



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04 Jul 2015, 7:56 am

I've tried many dating sites from dating4disabled(scary exeperice there) to okcupid. It rarely works out but some people with social issues that is one of the only ways they can find someone.



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18 Jan 2016, 7:10 am

Even though the questionaire is difficult, I like the "SpectrumSingles" website. Just wish it were free! :D

I've looked at the "Special Bridge" website for people with disabilities but they require you to pay up front before seeing the profiles. It's really too bad about "Special Bridge" because it looked like it had potential. I guess we all need to be careful out there, since online dating is tricky. Figuring out who's real and who is not, that is.

The ones posted are all and the same, except for OKCupid, which I don't use because they don't require complete honesty and don't screenproof their users to make sure it's a safe website. And except "SpectrumSingles", that's not the same as "OkCupid" or the ones posted here.



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09 Feb 2016, 11:19 am

I registered today as I am looking to make friends with other folks on the spectrum, thus the gender disproportion isn't really an issue of mine. But I am yet to sign up for one of their packages as they are all quite expensive to me. Is anyone a paying member on here? If so, do you believe it's worth the money?


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10 Feb 2016, 2:34 pm

The ridiculous prices of those sites made me make my own which is non-profit, so it is for free.

I'ts very new but growing pretty well... And the first signs of :heart: have already manifested themselves. I hope that many many many more will follow!! ! :)



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06 Mar 2016, 8:39 pm

after initial high hopes this "free" site
it hits you with its whammy.
you cant actually use any functions until you pay



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07 Mar 2016, 4:18 am

I think this site should be considered for Aspies having problems with dating: http://www.love-shy.com/



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03 Jul 2016, 12:27 pm

Have the people behind Spectrum Singles ever explained their colour coding system? It's over a year since they said on this thread that they were about to do so, yet when I joined the site last week I could not find any information about what the colour coding supposedly means.



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18 Aug 2017, 11:45 am

I signed up for the Spectrum Singles dating service a few years ago after learning about it on this Wrong Planet thread, and I have not had any success with it. I only have the free membership, and I wanted to wait & see if it is worth spending money for the paid membership with all of the extra features.



From my experience, it is no different than any of the other Asperger's syndrome dating sites & many smaller dating sites which cater to niche interests. It is a low-volume web site with few members & no activity, none of the members are located anywhere close to me, and most of the members have profiles, but they are not active on the site. One time I received a strange message from someone I never even contacted who said that she was not interested in me, and that I hoped she understood.



Periodically, I still receive E mails from the site about new matches, but they are usually the same people in every E mail, and none of them live anywhere near me.



Does any one on here know if anything has changed on the Spectrum Singles site, or if more people have signed up with it? I am not really interested in using it again, but I am just curious about it.



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18 Aug 2017, 12:33 pm

My daughter wouldn't look twice at a guy who called himself an Aspie. These same people are running around calling themselves Aspies as if it is something cool. Just nerds.....

Why not have diabetes, cancer, MS etc dating sites? People date people rather than medical diagnoses.



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18 Aug 2017, 2:54 pm

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My daughter wouldn't look twice at a guy who called himself an Aspie. These same people are running around calling themselves Aspies as if it is something cool. Just nerds.....

Why not have diabetes, cancer, MS etc dating sites? People date people rather than medical diagnoses.


There are dating sites for literally everything imaginable, including the medical conditions you mentioned.

And no one here cares about what your daughter thinks.



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18 Aug 2017, 3:11 pm

HistoryGal wrote:
My daughter wouldn't look twice at a guy who called himself an Aspie. These same people are running around calling themselves Aspies as if it is something cool. Just nerds.....

Why not have diabetes, cancer, MS etc dating sites? People date people rather than medical diagnoses.


I think the intention behind it is they're hoping to meet like-minded people, since us aspies are all a hive mind that think exactly the same.

Just ask Rdos and he'll explain it all for you.



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18 Aug 2017, 5:05 pm

HistoryGal wrote:
My daughter wouldn't look twice at a guy who called himself an Aspie. These same people are running around calling themselves Aspies as if it is something cool. Just nerds.....

Why not have diabetes, cancer, MS etc dating sites? People date people rather than medical diagnoses.


She sounds like a real peach.. :roll: We're all just lining up for a chance.


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