A new aspergers dating site called Spectrum Singles

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24 Apr 2015, 6:33 pm

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Autism dating websites are a pipe dream.

The gender disbalance is pretty severe.
... Even more if you consider the disbalance between single men and single women with autism.
... Even more if you consider the amount of men up for online dating and the amount of women up for online dating.

It has been tried multiple times before and sadly this is never going to work, these kind of websites end up with fifty men for every woman which just scares women away even more.

Heterocentrism. Besides that, I don't see how a sex imbalance would make the site itself "a pipe dream." Some users may not be able to get what they want out of it, but that doesn't make the whole endeavor a failure, especially since the site is also for friendship.



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25 Apr 2015, 12:16 pm

There are (or were) several other dating and friendship websites targeted towards people on the autism spectrum, including http://www.aspergersdatingsite.com/ , http://aspergerworld.com , http://www.aspienation.com/ , http://www.autismdatingservice.com/ , http://www.autisticdating.net/ , and http://www.autisticpersonals.com/.

One can sometimes find people with autism spectrum disorders on websites for people with disabilities, such as http://dating4disabled.com/ and http://www.whispers4u.com/ . (For more of those types of websites, see http://www.alldatingwebsites.com/dir/di ... tingsites/ , http://nichedatingdirectory.com/Disabled.htm , and http://www.agreaterdate.com/Categories/ ... lities.htm .)

http://www.passionsnetwork.com/ is a free dating and social networking website, consisting of many niche sites or groups that focus specific areas of interest. It includes http://disabledpassions.com/ , which has autism and Asperger's subgroups.

There are also groups on Facebook (e.g. https://www.facebook.com/groups/aspiedatingtips/ , which was created by a WrongPlanet.net member).

Amongst the hundreds of redundant and superfluous regular dating websites, a few of them claim to have special techniques for matching people, such as by common personality traits, shared interests, et cetera. The catch is, there is not any independent research showing that those matching techniques help (see http://psi.sagepub.com/content/13/1/1.short ; http://psi.sagepub.com/content/13/1/3.extract# ).

Finally, searching for a friend or romantic partner who is also on the autism spectrum tends to be difficult because people on the autism spectrum make up a small minority of the general population (roughly 1%) and there appears to be a gender imbalance (one study suggested about 1 in 50 males are autistic, versus about 1 in 300 females). If you then narrow your search by demographic characteristics (e.g. acceptable age range, religion, etc.) and geographical location, there may be no one left.

(Disclaimer. I am not affiliated in any manner with any of the websites mentioned in this post, and hence I can not vouch for them. Caveat emptor.)



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25 Apr 2015, 6:57 pm

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Finally, searching for a friend or romantic partner who is also on the autism spectrum tends to be difficult because people on the autism spectrum make up a small minority of the general population (roughly 1%) and there appears to be a gender imbalance (one study suggested about 1 in 50 males are autistic, versus about 1 in 300 females). If you then narrow your search by demographic characteristics (e.g. acceptable age range, religion, etc.) and geographical location, there may be no one left.


That's because you are using ASD diagnosis rather than neurodiversity. Neurodiversity defined in any reasonable way has no gender bias, and a prevalence of at least 10% outside of Africa, making it useful for dating purposes. Besides, the different relationship styles are connected to neurodiversity and are undefined in ASD diagnosis.



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25 Apr 2015, 10:36 pm

I signed up for a site just called Aspergers dating site a while back and I thought it was a total rip-off. It never matched me up with anyone and if I tried to contact any of the girls on there it would say something like I wasn't a close enough match to contact her, but it said that on literally ever girl on there.



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26 Apr 2015, 12:59 am

Tried this site the other week, was disappointed with how limited it is unless you're willing to pay. Would have been nice to be able to view more than just the first page of your search results to see if it would be worth paying for. It's new, maybe they'll get it right in the future.



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26 Apr 2015, 5:15 pm

rdos wrote:
Logan5 wrote:
Finally, searching for a friend or romantic partner who is also on the autism spectrum tends to be difficult because people on the autism spectrum make up a small minority of the general population (roughly 1%) and there appears to be a gender imbalance (one study suggested about 1 in 50 males are autistic, versus about 1 in 300 females). If you then narrow your search by demographic characteristics (e.g. acceptable age range, religion, etc.) and geographical location, there may be no one left.


That's because you are using ASD diagnosis rather than neurodiversity. Neurodiversity defined in any reasonable way has no gender bias, and a prevalence of at least 10% outside of Africa, making it useful for dating purposes. Besides, the different relationship styles are connected to neurodiversity and are undefined in ASD diagnosis.

other neurodiversity. like bipolar and narcissists?

you use the word a lot but never really define what it includes. o.O



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27 Apr 2015, 9:18 am

sly279 wrote:
rdos wrote:
That's because you are using ASD diagnosis rather than neurodiversity. Neurodiversity defined in any reasonable way has no gender bias, and a prevalence of at least 10% outside of Africa, making it useful for dating purposes. Besides, the different relationship styles are connected to neurodiversity and are undefined in ASD diagnosis.

other neurodiversity. like bipolar and narcissists?

you use the word a lot but never really define what it includes. o.O


It basically includes ASD, AD/HD, Tourette, Dyslexia, Dyscalculia, Bipolar, Schizotypal, Social Phobia, and "attachment" disorders. It doesn't include narcissists.



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31 May 2015, 9:37 pm

There's some easy money for you, a dating site for narcissists that has a 100% success rate, absolutely guaranteed to find you the most perfect beautiful and awesome match who totally loves you and you alone.



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04 Jul 2015, 5:40 am

Not had any success when I've dabbled briefly in online dating. Wondering what's left when the online thing and real life don't lead anywhere? Maybe I'll try virtual reality dating next...



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04 Jul 2015, 7:56 am

I've tried many dating sites from dating4disabled(scary exeperice there) to okcupid. It rarely works out but some people with social issues that is one of the only ways they can find someone.



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18 Jan 2016, 7:10 am

Even though the questionaire is difficult, I like the "SpectrumSingles" website. Just wish it were free! :D

I've looked at the "Special Bridge" website for people with disabilities but they require you to pay up front before seeing the profiles. It's really too bad about "Special Bridge" because it looked like it had potential. I guess we all need to be careful out there, since online dating is tricky. Figuring out who's real and who is not, that is.

The ones posted are all and the same, except for OKCupid, which I don't use because they don't require complete honesty and don't screenproof their users to make sure it's a safe website. And except "SpectrumSingles", that's not the same as "OkCupid" or the ones posted here.



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09 Feb 2016, 11:19 am

I registered today as I am looking to make friends with other folks on the spectrum, thus the gender disproportion isn't really an issue of mine. But I am yet to sign up for one of their packages as they are all quite expensive to me. Is anyone a paying member on here? If so, do you believe it's worth the money?


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10 Feb 2016, 2:34 pm

The ridiculous prices of those sites made me make my own which is non-profit, so it is for free.

I'ts very new but growing pretty well... And the first signs of :heart: have already manifested themselves. I hope that many many many more will follow!! ! :)



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06 Mar 2016, 8:39 pm

after initial high hopes this "free" site
it hits you with its whammy.
you cant actually use any functions until you pay



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07 Mar 2016, 4:18 am

I think this site should be considered for Aspies having problems with dating: http://www.love-shy.com/



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03 Jul 2016, 12:27 pm

Have the people behind Spectrum Singles ever explained their colour coding system? It's over a year since they said on this thread that they were about to do so, yet when I joined the site last week I could not find any information about what the colour coding supposedly means.