We Should Celebrate When NTs Breakup!
Well, while celebrating someone's unhappiness is a rotten thing to do (unless that person is your personal enemy), it's still really odd that NTs get upset over losing someone they can easily replace. Unlike family relationships and friendships, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are essentially mutually beneficial exchanges. Each partner gives what they can in exchange for what they want. The girl takes romance, and gives sex. The guy takes sex, and gives romance. And by "romance", I mean anything and everything referred to as "romantic"; "sex" is any sexual act that has a baseball metaphor attached to it.
Most women and all alpha males can find a new romantic or sexual partner in a matter of hours. The rest of women usually take a few days to a few weeks. It's only beta males for whom a girlfriend is anywhere close to irreplaceable. Them, I can understand getting upset. But seeing an attractive woman or an alpha male being upset over losing a boyfriend/girlfriend just boggles my mind. If I were an alpha male, I'd just wait until nightfall, go to the nearest bar, and you know the rest .
Most women and all alpha males can find a new romantic or sexual partner in a matter of hours. The rest of women usually take a few days to a few weeks. It's only beta males for whom a girlfriend is anywhere close to irreplaceable. Them, I can understand getting upset. But seeing an attractive woman or an alpha male being upset over losing a boyfriend/girlfriend just boggles my mind. If I were an alpha male, I'd just wait until nightfall, go to the nearest bar, and you know the rest .
Ugh, tired old sexist tropes... You do a disservice to romantic men here. Some of them are real softies and like a bit of cliche type romance. Look at all those romantic songwriters pouring out their soul for the world.
Individuals that you care about cannot be replaced in a matter of hours, or days or ever sometimes. They are unique and you were drawn to something specific about their makeup and personality. Believe it or not people are not all shallow and want to be loved and to love in return, it's not just about finding a woman who is willing to let you f**k her. It's about developing a mutual caring relationship. Until you see that, your mind will always boggle at how others behave.
Romance is like sex. It sells! And most consumers of romance are women. Unless it's a hard-hitting power ballad, most men don't enjoy romantic songs. Just compare Scorpions (popular among men) to Luther Vandross (popular among women). Also consider Taylor Swift; even straight women are head-over-heels in love with her, while men are indifferent about her at best, and many of them find her profoundly annoying. (Ugh! That shrill voice and mushy lyrics!) So those songwriters will keep writing romantic songs as long as people keep buying them. It's just show biz and capitalism working together.
I am embarrassed to say that I enjoy listening to Taylor Swift songs. I also like Daft Punk and have listened to Ramstein (German heavy metal band who did a song called Du Hast), despite not understanding any German. I like nearly all music except for most HipHop/Rap and country.
Celebrating NT breakups should happen only when the person has broken up from a relationship that would have ended with the person in a body bag or something bad like that. A relationship that ended to be concluded with. Otherwise, you are taking pleasure in someone else's romantic misfortune and that is not cool, especially if you have the fortune/misfortune to be suddenly involved with them. (Hypothetically speaking, as I have not had any relationships, but have had a few dates)
It's not "love" (notice the quotes). It's mutually attraction, nothing else. The woman is attracted to the man's alpha male genes. The man is attracted to the sex he gets for having those genes. But because we humans are a self-righteous species, we cannot admit to ourselves that this is what drives romantic relationships. So the concept of romantic "love" was created.
Romance is like sex. It sells! And most consumers of romance are women. Unless it's a hard-hitting power ballad, most men don't enjoy romantic songs. Just compare Scorpions (popular among men) to Luther Vandross (popular among women). Also consider Taylor Swift; even straight women are head-over-heels in love with her, while men are indifferent about her at best, and many of them find her profoundly annoying. (Ugh! That shrill voice and mushy lyrics!) So those songwriters will keep writing romantic songs as long as people keep buying them. It's just show biz and capitalism working together.
Luther Vandross? Scorpions? You must be a lot older than I imagined.
I'm not talking about consumors being romantic, I'm talking about song writers, not the mainstream pop artisit who get played to death on the radio. I mean Lloyd Cole, Paul Buchanan, Justin Currie, Chris Thomson, Paddy McAloon, The guy from Blue October and men that I know who write songs. Even David Coverdale, Joey Tempest and Jeff Scott Soto writes some excellent romantic moosh if were wandering into the world of melodic rock. Those sorts of guys, yeah, I know I'm showing my age now. They write songs to sing about how they feel and share their emotions.
I take it you're not the sort who hangs around with arty, bohemian people like I do. I guess we are just very, very different.
These are 2 of my favourite songs, which were introduced to me by ... shock horror ... a man.
It's not "love" (notice the quotes). It's mutually attraction, nothing else. The woman is attracted to the man's alpha male genes. The man is attracted to the sex he gets for having those genes. But because we humans are a self-righteous species, we cannot admit to ourselves that this is what drives romantic relationships. So the concept of romantic "love" was created.
I feel sad for you. If that's all you see, then that is all you see, but I can assure you that people's lives are so much more colourful than your cynical eye will allow you to see.
Well does anybody agree with my ex-fiances invisibility theory? The theory is, once someone is diagnosed with aspergers or autism, nobody wants to look at them, an they become so meaningless to the point where they could be physically invisible. I agree with this theory because i've done so many bad things in public i aint proud of, in road daylight, in plain sight in a crowd, and nobody so much as turns their head.
Does anybody agree with her theory? She was the matron of a group of asperger supremacists BTW.
I know plenty amazing aspies (men and women) who have never been in a relationship.
Relationships are challenging. It's inevitable that years of failures make some of us bitter.
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Be careful though as a path built on hate is very dangerous. Eventually your hate will consume you and you will either come off as bitter or you will want to take revenge. Look what that s**t did to Elliot Rodgers. All he wanted was a gf and he could never talk to girls and he thought that he was clearly superior so as a result, he began to hate woman and eventually it led to him taking action and shooting some girls.
Another example is George Sodini (although he did have a girlfriend in his early 20's). What's ironic is that many women has described him as handsome in retrospect.
although George Sodini got to experience having a girlfriend, he admitted that he never got to experience spending a weekend with a girl, he never vacationed or traveled with one, never lived with one, which it seems most people get to experience the spending a weekend part or traveling, vacationing with one while in their 20's.