We Should Celebrate When NTs Breakup!

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It depends on who they are. If they are good friends or family than no, you should NEVER celebrate.

And we should NEVER celebrate when N.T's breakup - but there's not really any reason to give them empathy either (again, unless good friends or family or co-workers, someone who you actually care about).

I somewhat agree for the following reasons:

1. Even the 'shy/socially awkward' NT's seem to be able to jump into relationship after relationship even more than the most confident and social of Aspies.

Why should any NT's be upset when they just know there's probably going to be someone else down the road in the next 6-30 months.

Their break-up is a chance to live their life alone for some short time before they meet another person.

Might seem like a long time but it's really not.

Breaking up with someone and then spending 1-3 years alone again before meeting someone else is NOTHING compared to some of the aspies here that have spent 4 to 5 DECADES completely and totally alone.

2. For the average NT, it will still probably be easier for them to get into a relationship than the average aspie.

Maybe NT's with poor social skills have less of a chance than confident aspies, but there the values are just too small to really make a difference.

The truth is the statistics say that aspies in general, on average, have less relationships than NTs.

Keywords are "in general" and "on average".

Even if you are the aspie or NT who is the exception and even if you are an aspie who finds it easier than an NT who finds it hard you ARE in the minority and there's no denying this.

The proof is on this very website.

This section is so full of negativity, almost never positive posts about love and dating.

It's always about lonely, sad, miserable, depressed, angry, bitter, or general struggling, OR it's about being in a relationship that is sad, hard, difficult, struggling, etc.

And to any moderators: NO, I am NOT insulting any specific users or posts.

It is just in my personal opinion that this section generally has more negative or neutral posts than positive.

I see less posts about "I got a girlfriend/boyfriend yay!" or "I finally sorted out my relationship problems, here's my advice to you! " or anything of the sort.

If I have still broken any of the rules in my post, than please just censor it, delete it, or ask me to edit it out and I will...

Well, while celebrating someone's unhappiness is a rotten thing to do (unless that person is your personal enemy), it's still really odd that NTs get upset over losing someone they can easily replace. Unlike family relationships and friendships, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are essentially mutually beneficial exchanges. Each partner gives what they can in exchange for what they want. The girl takes romance, and gives sex. The guy takes sex, and gives romance. And by "romance", I mean anything and everything referred to as "romantic"; "sex" is any sexual act that has a baseball metaphor attached to it.

Most women and all alpha males can find a new romantic or sexual partner in a matter of hours. The rest of women usually take a few days to a few weeks. It's only beta males for whom a girlfriend is anywhere close to irreplaceable. Them, I can understand getting upset. But seeing an attractive woman or an alpha male being upset over losing a boyfriend/girlfriend just boggles my mind. If I were an alpha male, I'd just wait until nightfall, go to the nearest bar, and you know the rest .

I like romance <o.o>

There are times when I like romantic-type songs. I have to be in the mood, though.

I wouldn't want to listen to them after I break up with somebody.

I'd have to agree with hurtloam.....maybe I should hang out with more "Bohemian, arty types.

Then again: some of the Bohemian ethos involves cynicism/nihilism. Though, at least, there's an openness to new ideas.

Well does anybody agree with my ex-fiances invisibility theory? The theory is, once someone is diagnosed with aspergers or autism, nobody wants to look at them, an they become so meaningless to the point where they could be physically invisible. I agree with this theory because i've done so many bad things in public i aint proud of, in road daylight, in plain sight in a crowd, and nobody so much as turns their head.

Does anybody agree with her theory? She was the matron of a group of asperger supremacists BTW.

But Asperger's/Autism does not PRECLUDE a person from being in a happy relationship.

I don't believe that one is rendered "invisible" because of a Spectrum diagnosis.