The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I know what you mean. I feel like that about someone at the moment. I guess you could invite him to something social so you can spend time together outside of your usual voluntary work place. It doesn't have to be just you and him, maybe a group thing and you can talk and see how you get on.
No, ask him out one to one.
If she's shy and not sure if she really wants to take this further a group thing is less pressure. Once you know you really like him then it can feel like a less scary thing to go for a one to one date.
The reason I haven't asked my dude on a one to one date, I don't know how much I actually like him (mostly because he's so quiet) and I don't want him thinking I'm serious when I'm just wanting to find out more about him. It's not like we haven't had a chat off to the side outside of the group setting when I do organise group things, but I'm still not ready to move things along, nor is he it would seem.