Why do girls want cocky, arrogant guys?



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03 Aug 2005, 6:18 am

This post is based off of the thread "why do guys want good looking girls". I even started to post something about it within the thread due to some feelings of disenfranchisement with the opposite sex, but I find myself revisiting the the topic again, so I felt it deserved its own thread. Anyway, the question goes "Why do girls want cocky, arrogant, mean guys?" The kind that treat them like dirt, the kind that cheat on them, the kind that treat them horribly?

It never fails to amaze me as I sit there utterly shocked and surprised to hear story's from coworkers about the men that they date and arguments, fights (both vocal and physical) they endure and the blatant, blatant cheating. Yet they go back to said partner or just look for other men who act the same way. Anyway, this is another one of my moments of disenfranchisement in the opposite sex, so ladies, please tell me why. Can anyone coin in their thoughts on this? I'm starting to lose my faith in women again :roll:



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03 Aug 2005, 7:10 am

I was actually thinking about something similar today. About the nice things I've done for girls, and all I get to be is the friend.

Though that is a bit of an exaggeration, but my point is the same, why is it girls say they want a sensitive, romantic etc blah blah kinda guy, and yet when there's one right under their nose they ignore him?

Women... heh...

Though I think it's fairly obvious who REALLY controls this planet... or would if they were organised about it...
Men will do almost anything for a girl, and that's sad.


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03 Aug 2005, 7:35 am

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"Why do girls want cocky, arrogant, mean guys?"


do we?


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Men will do almost anything for a girl


except commit, allow them to be intelligent (or more intelligent than them), allow them to not shave their legs... etc., etc. ...

come on, chaps - are we generalising a bit here?



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03 Aug 2005, 7:43 am

Yes

But then again, so is the "Why do guys want good looking guys" thread.

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Men will do almost anything for a girl


except commit, allow them to be intelligent (or more intelligent than them), allow them to not shave their legs... etc., etc. ...


I love intelligent girls, I know 3. And they're usually more intelligent than me, and I'm cool with it... But then... I'm The Excpetion to many generalisations. :wink:

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EDIT: And commit? I, myself, don't want a casual relationship. I'm not in it for sex pfft to sex I say. I want a long term companion. I want to commit... When I was younger, I use to imagine a girl I liked with my last name... Now isn't that scary?



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03 Aug 2005, 8:12 am

Most girls declare these kinds of claims complete nonsense, but it can be pretty hard to ignore when you're a guy who wouldn't hurt a fly, who is generally in complete working order, and who is strangely ignored by girls. I've lost count of the number of lonely guys I've known who would clearly make outstandingly devoted and kind long term partners with those they were interested in, far more so than the cocky assholes. It's hard to see exactly why it happens, but I'd say there are a lot of women who are attracted to power in all its forms, even when it's used against them.



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03 Aug 2005, 8:19 am

I shy away from guys who are the cocky, arrogant type. I'm also iffy about guys who appear to be cocky, because I have a suspicious feeling that they could be arrogant. I was teased and picked on by loud, cocky guys in High School, and that makes me suspicious about guys who are cocky and loud. I also fell for one of them in College, and now I steer away from them.



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03 Aug 2005, 8:21 am

vetivert wrote:
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"Why do girls want cocky, arrogant, mean guys?"


do we?


Quote:
Men will do almost anything for a girl


except commit, allow them to be intelligent (or more intelligent than them), allow them to not shave their legs... etc., etc. ...

come on, chaps - are we generalising a bit here?


And yes I will give a whole-hearted AMEN and HALLEJUAH on this one sister! :lol:



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03 Aug 2005, 8:23 am

GalileoAce wrote:
EDIT: And commit? I, myself, don't want a casual relationship. I'm not in it for sex pfft to sex I say. I want a long term companion. I want to commit... When I was younger, I use to imagine a girl I liked with my last name... Now isn't that scary?


*bows down* Wow, you're the first guy I have ever heard say that they've imagined a girl with their last name. That's cool. And it's cool that you also want a long term companion.



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03 Aug 2005, 8:24 am

I used to really be annoyed by this behavior and would actually try to be (or fake being) cocky and arrogant around certain women to get their attention. Now I feel that if a woman is stupid enough to be impressed by that kind of behavior they're not worth my attention anyway and deserve what they get. I'll wait until I meet a girl/woman with a certain amount of common sense and decency and then try to win her heart :)



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03 Aug 2005, 9:09 am

I hate to say it, but it is kind of true. Most girls I know seem to prefer the complete and utter assholes who are not proper men. For goodness sakes: most of the assholes are wimpy little twats who would be ripped apart if they fought a real man in a real mosh pit- not a cruddy "rap mosh pit" but a hardcore, extreme metal one. Why do most girls go after the assholes? It is unfair. I have always wanted a long term relationship. I do not want a fling. That is why I was heart broken after the girl I made out with at a party did not contact me- I had fallen in love with her. I do not want a pointless, purely sexual relationship as that would in a way demean the women. It would make me an as*hole. I believe in romance and chivalry. I would like to be romantic, but no one lets me be. :( :( :( :(


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03 Aug 2005, 10:03 am

Guys, I have to say that I think, at least as far as many of the women here at WP are concerned, you're all preaching to the choir! Personally, I can't *stand* arrogant men (or arrogant people in general); their "holier-than-thou", "my sh1t doesn't stink" attitudes make me !@#$%^& sick. I want sweet, kind, understanding, tolerant, open-minded guys who can be my friends, first and foremost; that's what I'm looking for in a relationship. I can be a bit "cocky" myself, sometimes - but it's out of silliness and sarcasm. I enjoy playful pranksters, but most definitely NOT @ssholes! :x


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03 Aug 2005, 10:10 am

Gees...
Guys are who are nice, sensitive, etc.
Girls who want guys who are nice, sensitive, etc.

Both are on this forum...

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03 Aug 2005, 10:16 am

SINsister wrote:
Guys, I have to say that I think, at least as far as many of the women here at WP are concerned, you're all preaching to the choir! Personally, I can't *stand* arrogant men (or arrogant people in general); their "holier-than-thou", "my sh1t doesn't stink" attitudes make me !@#$%^& sick. I want sweet, kind, understanding, tolerant, open-minded guys who can be my friends, first and foremost; that's what I'm looking for in a relationship. I can be a bit "cocky" myself, sometimes - but it's out of silliness and sarcasm. I enjoy playful pranksters, but most definitely NOT @ssholes! :x

Yay! You rule. And I am typing with the keyoard upside down. :D :D :D :D


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03 Aug 2005, 10:18 am

GalileoAce wrote:
Gees...
Guys are who are nice, sensitive, etc.
Girls who want guys who are nice, sensitive, etc.

Both are on this forum...

GA


...and it seems that never the twain shall meet. *Sigh*


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03 Aug 2005, 10:18 am

SINsister wrote:
Guys, I have to say that I think, at least as far as many of the women here at WP are concerned, you're all preaching to the choir! Personally, I can't *stand* arrogant men (or arrogant people in general); their "holier-than-thou", "my sh1t doesn't stink" attitudes make me !@#$%^& sick. I want sweet, kind, understanding, tolerant, open-minded guys who can be my friends, first and foremost; that's what I'm looking for in a relationship. I can be a bit "cocky" myself, sometimes - but it's out of silliness and sarcasm. I enjoy playful pranksters, but most definitely NOT @ssholes! :x

The problem is, aspies are predisposed to be hard to find, especially to each other. Things would be a lot happier if we didn't live in a world of neurotypicals.



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