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MeganVegantoast
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24 Dec 2007, 12:29 am

Okay, so, though I've been officially diagnosed with aspergers, I'm really confused.

Either its a stereotype or what, but I've heard that the stereotypical aspie is emotionally cold, or shows no emotion whatsoever.

However, I'm a fully diagnosed aspie and I have a lot of emotion... I just display my emotions differently than everyone else.. in more "realistic ways".

For example, when I'm happy, I run around, squeak/squeal/make weird noises, hand-flap, laugh a lot, giggle, rock back and forth, and basically express it entirely physically. I know no "normal" person does this, and since I'm happy most of the time, people notice that I act differently. Which, of course, makes me weird... thankfully, they like my weirdness

Basically, I just tend to be over expressive... I just want to know, does this invalidate the fact that I have aspergers...? I mean, my boyfriend who also has it, but a relatively mild case, is the same way when off his medication.



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24 Dec 2007, 3:07 am

Yeah thats pretty much a stereotype. I've never known an asie who was "emotionally cold" pretty much me have a lot of emotion. It just sometimes seems like we don't when we are uncomfortable in social situations.



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24 Dec 2007, 3:29 am

MeganVegantoast,
I think it helps if you can learn as much about ASD as possible, from a variety of sources. I've got a reading list somewhere if you are interested.

Oh, and this link is really encouraging - about a girl whose parents are really supportive and encouraging -

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent ... 36536.html

Good luck,


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24 Dec 2007, 6:28 am

MeganVegantoast - I'm just like you when happy, seem to be extreme in what ever I do.

Emotional cold, not one I have heard before.

I can be emotionally detached at times, just need own space. Which can be caused because of emotional overload and just need down time.

I think my biggest problem is the social bit and relating as other expect.


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24 Dec 2007, 7:10 am

My hypothesis is that people on the Autistic spectrum are often considered emotionally cold as they suppress their reactions and emotions when in the presence of other people, due to social anxiety; this leading to them appearing emotionless. I find that I do this often; I enter into a state of detachment when in company as a defensive mechanism.

Also, the human emotional reactions considered to be most important are those pertaining to the expression of affection; something that a lot of Autistic spectrum people have trouble with. Although intensely emotional within themselves, all of these things could add up to making an Aspie or Autistic person appear quite cold and robotic.

In fact, to my knowledge, these things are widely know and accepted.


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MeganVegantoast
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24 Dec 2007, 12:36 pm

Alright, that makes a lot more sense.

I do, infact, seem emotionally detached when around other people... only cause they'd stare at me if I expressed things in ways that made sense only to me. =/

Thanks for the help. =]



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24 Dec 2007, 3:23 pm

Ive add you onto my msn maybe we could chat about it sometme or you could always PM me :)



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24 Dec 2007, 7:21 pm

Alright. =]



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24 Dec 2007, 9:32 pm

well I was dianosed with AS @ like 14 or 15. Sometimes I don't get AS either. I just think that I'm "weird" sometimes & not AS but I am


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26 Dec 2007, 10:10 pm

MeganVegantoast wrote:
Okay, so, though I've been officially diagnosed with aspergers, I'm really confused.

Either its a stereotype or what, but I've heard that the stereotypical aspie is emotionally cold, or shows no emotion whatsoever.

However, I'm a fully diagnosed aspie and I have a lot of emotion... I just display my emotions differently than everyone else.. in more "realistic ways".

For example, when I'm happy, I run around, squeak/squeal/make weird noises, hand-flap, laugh a lot, giggle, rock back and forth, and basically express it entirely physically. I know no "normal" person does this, and since I'm happy most of the time, people notice that I act differently. Which, of course, makes me weird... thankfully, they like my weirdness

Basically, I just tend to be over expressive... I just want to know, does this invalidate the fact that I have aspergers...? I mean, my boyfriend who also has it, but a relatively mild case, is the same way when off his medication.


Well, here's the thing. I don't think being emotionally detached is a bad thing at all. It can be a good thing. Because you don't feel as much pain as other people.

I believe the only reason why some people think all aspies are "cold, unfeeling, and shows no emotion" they are just afraid of anyone that is different. They can't read your thoughts.

I know sometimes I look as if I have everything together when really I don't and the only reason why I seem "detached" to other people is because I am very shy and even afraid of them. So, if I were you, you shouldn't feel bad about it because that's just someone else's insicurity.



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10 Jan 2008, 5:15 am

Im guessing when they say emotionally cold it dosent really mean that Aspies dont have emotions its just that maybe were not quite as expressive in opening up towards other people. Im not entirely sure. I know for myself I can be seen as cold and withdrawn but Im very emotional and I hate it.



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20 Feb 2008, 9:28 am

I do the same thing also. When I'm really really happy I jump around, excitedly giving lots of people hugs and smile alot and talk alot really fast and everything, but when I'm sad I just put on my headphones and stay detached from things.



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04 Mar 2008, 2:52 pm

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people on the Autistic spectrum are often considered emotionally cold as they suppress their reactions and emotions when in the presence of other people, due to social anxiety; this leading to them appearing emotionless.

yeah i am like that too if im with like one or two people im fine but when im with three people or more i just shut off and just do physical stuff like walk lie sit... you know what i mean. but when I'm with one or two people i can express my feelings a bit better.


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