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27 Dec 2007, 7:04 pm

I'd like to know purely because I'm a very insecure kind of person.



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27 Dec 2007, 7:10 pm

I believe so, but I overcame it eventually.



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27 Dec 2007, 7:37 pm

No. No it isn't.

AS traits can lead to insecurity... but it is not compulsory.



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27 Dec 2007, 7:43 pm

I think a lot of Aspies are insecure because a lot of things that come naturally to NTs don't come naturally to us, so we end up feeling lost or getting stuff wrong a lot.



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27 Dec 2007, 7:54 pm

I don't think it is an Aspie trait. I think it is a learned behavior that is learned as a direct result of our interaction with an NT world and its inhabitants.
And you are not alone, chinapig.


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27 Dec 2007, 7:58 pm

Izaak wrote:
No. No it isn't.

AS traits can lead to insecurity... but it is not compulsory.


i'd like to point out that none of the asperger traits (by themselves) are compulsory


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27 Dec 2007, 7:59 pm

AngelUndercover wrote:
I think a lot of Aspies are insecure because a lot of things that come naturally to NTs don't come naturally to us, so we end up feeling lost or getting stuff wrong a lot.


What kind of things?

Academically, since my college grades will influence the rest of my life (either directly or indirectly), I admit to being insecure.



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27 Dec 2007, 8:04 pm

A350XWB wrote:
AngelUndercover wrote:
I think a lot of Aspies are insecure because a lot of things that come naturally to NTs don't come naturally to us, so we end up feeling lost or getting stuff wrong a lot.


What kind of things?

Academically, since my college grades will influence the rest of my life (either directly or indirectly), I admit to being insecure.


how exactly do college grades influence your life once you've graduated? Employers rarely even ask to see your college grades.


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27 Dec 2007, 8:10 pm

insecurity + anxiety + low self-esteem

BE CONFIDENT AND YOU CAN DO ANYTHING

like Morpheus said, "STOP TRYING TO HIT ME AND [b]HIT ME !"

Stop worrying. There's nobody better at being you than you.



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27 Dec 2007, 8:25 pm

It would be hard to find a NT that didn't deal with some form of insecurities.


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27 Dec 2007, 8:28 pm

Well, they influence your chances of admission to the next level of schooling, for one thing.

As for insecurity, I'm sure there are lots of terribly insecure aspies, but from what I understand and from personal experience, AS can also manifest in an almost egomaniacal self-centeredness which could almost be the opposite of insecurity... then again, most people who are overly secure in their beliefs are actually, subconsciously, insecure, so it's pretty tough to pin down.



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27 Dec 2007, 9:43 pm

i can be insecure as well.

as for school, there is a lot of emphasis placed on what score u get in your final year of schooling here. (vic aus) as if it is the most important year of your entire school life and dictates future success.

total bull it is, if u don't score high enough to do what u want u can just sneak in the back door. as in do a course that earns u credit for the one u want to do.
my employer asked me for my score out of curiosity but it did not make any difference.



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27 Dec 2007, 9:48 pm

I'm a little insecure, a little paranoid, and a very skeptical person.

I'm good at hiding it though so no one thinks that about me.



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27 Dec 2007, 10:10 pm

Everybody is insecure to some degree. The trick is to not let it show...


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27 Dec 2007, 10:15 pm

but that can be hard sometimes....it is a low self esteem thing...I can be insecure about things that are totally rediculous....what's worse is when my insecurities are reenforced... :(



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27 Dec 2007, 11:18 pm

As far as I know, insecurity is not normally considered an AS trait. As for myself, I think my constant failure in social situations has lead me to withdraw and develop a low self-esteem and insecurity.


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