Why can't the unwritten rules of social play be written?

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MR_BOGAN
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23 Mar 2008, 5:31 pm

I think that is a great idea.

Why not start a web site full of tips and tricks AS people have learned. I don't know if I'm AS or not, ADD so far... But I feel I'm probably on the autistic spectrum also( all this stuff is still confusing), I don't have the same social problems that people on this site have, well mine are not as extreme. So I might have knowledge that could be helpful to people.

I think getting people that have milder autism to explain things to people with more extreme autism could be helpful.
If people with exteme AS explain things to other people with extreme AS, it can be like the blind leading the blind.
Also you could have NT people putting in their points of view, to make it better.


So after a while you could come up with a good code of conduct.

here is a link I found
http://www-users.cs.york.ac.uk/~alistair/survival/

You could use that as a base and improve it and expand it.



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23 Mar 2008, 5:55 pm

beentheredonethat wrote:
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That's why the unwritten rules can't be written.

Cheers.

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Very logically and neatly put.


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23 Mar 2008, 6:02 pm

MikeH106 wrote:
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By definition.
If they were written, then they wouldn't be unwritten would they.



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23 Mar 2008, 6:36 pm

The rules exist so we can trip over them. If someone likes you, your imperfections shouldn't matter and things should flow naturally. If someone doesn't like you, they will find fault no matter what. If you're short, you'll be too short. If you're careful, you're a prude. If you're too smart, you're a nerd. The bottom line is that if a person doesn't like you, then there's nothing you can do about it. Move on.



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25 Mar 2008, 8:07 am

The whole point of them is for NT's to use them to identify "people like us".

i.e. they only want the people in their group who understand the rules (intuitively). It is like a kind of test.

Writing them down would thus defeat their primary purpose.

Anyway, I don't want to be part of their group. It would mean pretending to be something I am not, and it would be far to stressful to maintain.