MissConstrue wrote:
How can it not be fun?
What if no one is around to see you would you dance then?
I guess for me, it all comes from being a music lover of sorts.
I've found dancing fun only once in my life, over ten years ago. I've never danced when no one is watching because I've never wanted to. It just doesn't do anything for me, even when I'm in my I-couldn't-care-less-what-anybody-else-thinks mode. The first time I went clubbing I was 24 - I danced when I got too bored of sitting, and sat when I got too bored of dancing. I've never had anyone make fun of me for how I danced or anything like that. Freestyle dancing is OK - not much fun but not actually bad; the other type I hate (I've taken a few lessons in it), because it requires me to concentrate a lot on the actual steps, and concentrating on something you don't actually enjoy and with no practical purpose isn't my idea of fun. I never persisted with dancing lessons because they bored me to tears, and I wasn't actually learning; I can try and follow the beat or I can concentrate on the steps, but not both (and anyway it's hard to concentrate on something you're not really interested in).
I don't have anything against dancing, it just doesn't do anything for me. It doesn't annoy me that other people enjoy it, what does annoy me is that it's like a sin if you don't enjoy it, like it's some horrible crime against... what? It's probably a bit similar to people that don't like drinking (I do drink, but if others don't enjoy it, it doesn't bother me, each to his own), that they get pressured a lot to drink.
I have known women that don't like dancing and many men don't. My dad has always disliked dancing.
I'm not a music lover - I have recently taken to listening to music more, but for the first 3 years I lived away from my parent's house I didn't have get any audio equipment at all. I'm just not crazy about music, and I think you're right that the two are linked. Plus, the music I like isn't really the type you can dance to. Music can move me, but I don't find it addictive.
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