do you find autistic girls attractive?

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Ah, tying this all back to the main focus of the thread, you mentioned something interesting:


I know I said earlier that I could see a potential long-term romantic relationship with an AS girl, but in retrospect I have to add some conditions, primarily focusing on the social skills the AS girl has picked up. There's this one AS girl I know, she's pretty cool and all and generally open-minded... but I don't know if it's due to her hanging around straight NT girls so much (she admittedly doesn't really hang out with guys at all), but she can get quite b!tchy at times, which is a turnoff. I've noticed that AS folks generally pick up and absorb characteristics of the people they hang out with and who accept them, so this one AS girl I know is no different in that respect. Similarly, while I generally love AS guys, there are a lot of AS guys out there who have picked up a lot of straight NT guy traits, including the "I just wanna get in her pants! zomgwtfbbq!!" kind of sexual bragging and posturing that I just can't stand.

I think having social skills are important... but please don't forget to turn them off before they go too far!

And just what's so unattractive about awkward women? (can't comment about men, but not a look I'd try and exhibit myself). My American friends tell me England is the land of aggressive and loud women. While both traits certainly have a certain charm if done tactfully (yes, you can tactfully tell someone to f**k off), someone being reserved and self conscious without being self absorbed is certainly also attractive.

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I sure do!! I think my gf might have AS. She doesn't look at me most of the time when she talks, she goes on and on about her interests, and she wrings her hands a lot. She's really cute, and not just when she does that either. ^^

I probably would, but I don't know. I've never met that many girls with autism (or at least not knowingly), but the ones who I have met have been a little too childish (they still played with dolls in 6th grade). I hope to find an autistic girl that acts her age, but still is shy and innocent (because that is really attractive).

I never can tell when people are being sarcastic… If you were forced to socialise with a group of ten people I’d naturally gravitate towards the quieter ones, largely because we’d be more likely to have a similar personality and hence compatibility. This is precisely how I’d feel about an awkward woman. That these traits could be intrinsically attractive (or indeed unattractive) is not something I really follow.

no that's me

Some I do, some I don't.

Blanket answer #1:

I'm sure I'd find some quite endearing, others would drive me up the wall, others...

My ex was the latter.

tim you need to let go, every other post you talk about some ex.

It was just to make conversation.

It was just to make conversation.[/quote]
Sure but there is fairly limited amount of conversation you can have about the same subject over an over.

Honestly people pretend to care about this stuff some of the time, but everyone has a limit on how much they can take. I would wager that for most people it is a very small capacity.

Anyway, short answer: you can't compare everything to past relationships logically.

I find people who seem to understand my perspective and life more attractive then those that pretend to be normal. I find that I have had the strongest relationships with those who have other forms of disabilities.

They are very special, they're like angels.

No more or less than anyone else... I can't say as I'm not gay or bi.

In terms of attractive.. all I can judge is on aspie males i've met in real life.. and the answer to that is no. :/