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06 Dec 2009, 6:39 pm

lose it before 20 and still be an evil scumbag.


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08 Dec 2009, 9:02 pm

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Should I be concerned if a man is over 40 years old and has never had a sexual encounter? I have met and dated some men who are over 40 who said that they have never had sex before. Some of them I suspect are on the autism spectrum. They were socially awkward but not at all bad looking. I sure hope this doesn't mean that they are gay. Is this common for men on the autism spectrum? I don't mean low functioning; I am referring to men with Asperger's Syndrome or High Functioning Autism.


Here's my 2 cents. I recently paired up with an Aspie guy. He has told me that he went for nearly 10 years without having sex. He found it difficult to date woman that he would eventually be drawn to intimacy with. He had even been engaged, before, but his Aspie traits turned the woman off. He passionate and sensual, and I am glad to have found him. If he had been a virgin, I would still have given him a chance, because I was attracted to him anyway. I think that this is the key. If you are genuinely attracted to a guy, and he to you, go for it. It might be just what you were looking for!


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08 Dec 2009, 9:50 pm

Here's my 2 cents. I recently paired up with an Aspie guy. He has told me that he went for nearly 10 years without having sex. He found it difficult to date woman that he would eventually be drawn to intimacy with. He had even been engaged, before, but his Aspie traits turned the woman off. He passionate and sensual, and I am glad to have found him. If he had been a virgin, I would still have given him a chance, because I was attracted to him anyway. I think that this is the key. If you are genuinely attracted

Thank you, made my day :)



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08 Dec 2009, 9:53 pm

but his Aspie traits turned the woman off. :lol:



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08 Dec 2009, 10:07 pm

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but his Aspie traits turned the woman off. :lol:


Yes, and lucky for me, wasn't it? But seriously, I can see how these traits might have turned off an NT woman. He monologues about stuff, and his voice can be monotone and droning. Yet, I love his deep voice, rumbling against my ear when I am snuggling with him. And, I am usually interested in the things he is talking about. We both notice details that others don't, and that makes a bond with us.


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08 Dec 2009, 10:35 pm

Again thank you, so much nicer than "irritated me or aroused my self pity" yes yes I know you apologised though that remark really resonated with me.

I've almost recovered from my 9 year 8O "mental" breakdown and am ready to do my You Tube would you mind looking at it before I post it I know it will help some one here eg I talk about adrenal fatigue/hormones and how debilitating hypogonadism is (low hormones)

Due to having a (undiagnosed) lobe injury (from birth) which caused damage to the pituitary gland + being savagely destroyed by NT"S my hormonal system was so exhausted I had close to none :lol: (Testosterone) it even shocked my GP he said you'd have all sorts of horrendous health problems and being *that* pathetic AS stereotype I passively aggressively said no sh*t. :(

Sorry I'm rambling.



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08 Dec 2009, 10:36 pm

Yes, and lucky for me, wasn't it?

lucky for him to :)



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09 Dec 2009, 12:58 am

Never. Nor anyone who paid for any of their sexual experiences. To be fair, I would not want to date a guy who has had a lot of partners, etiher.

Come to hink of it, I would love to date a 40 year old virgin. If there are any on here, feel free to

Hello :D

I'm 33 BTW, almost their.



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10 Dec 2009, 12:41 pm

So I kept my virginity and is that wrong nowadays?
Why should I please a woman? What's in there for me?
I just like to be around people now and then.



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11 Dec 2009, 6:27 pm

I don't think that keeping your virginity is wrong. It is your body, after all! I have always regretted getting peer pressured into having sex before I was ready. :?


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14 Dec 2009, 3:46 pm

autisticstar wrote:
Should I be concerned if a man is over 40 years old and has never had a sexual encounter? I have met and dated some men who are over 40 who said that they have never had sex before. Some of them I suspect are on the autism spectrum. They were socially awkward but not at all bad looking. I sure hope this doesn't mean that they are gay. Is this common for men on the autism spectrum? I don't mean low functioning; I am referring to men with Asperger's Syndrome or High Functioning Autism.


I am a 43yo man who has never been on a date, let alone had any form of relationship with a woman. That I appear "different" from other people is the major cause for this. Whilst I admire the relatively few women in the world who will give an obviously handicapped man a fair chance, such women are few and far between. This is likely the reason your guy us stilll a virgin. This is not to be confused with him not being good enough. Rather it is a matter of most women simply being too shallow and as a result, your guy has missed out. My deepest desire is that one day I will meet a lady who can see beyond the AS and see the real me. It sounds like your guy has found that in you.

Give the guy a chance and you may just find a diamond in the rough.


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17 Dec 2009, 10:51 am

I'm a 40yr man who has never been on a date, let alone had any form of relationship. It's definitely not my appearance, I'm simply not interested, there is so much more in life. See also asexuality.org. Asexuality is not really accepted, so I lie about my girlfriends that I have never had and I sometimes stare at good looking woman because I'm supposted to do so. If I don't do that, people think I'm gay or even bi and that can be quite annoying. Maybe I'll meet the right woman someday and became a hetrosexual, but I don't think so because I'm not even enjoying the mating-rituals required for dating.



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24 Dec 2009, 4:52 pm

autisticstar wrote:
Should I be concerned if a man is over 40 years old and has never had a sexual encounter? I have met and dated some men who are over 40 who said that they have never had sex before. Some of them I suspect are on the autism spectrum. They were socially awkward but not at all bad looking. I sure hope this doesn't mean that they are gay. Is this common for men on the autism spectrum? I don't mean low functioning; I am referring to men with Asperger's Syndrome or High Functioning Autism.


Any guy who is in his 40's and is still a virgin is likely as Aspiue - take me for example.

I don't think you should be "concerned". It is this level of examination and suspicion that leads many an Aspie man to never have a sexual encounter. Someone has to give a guy a break. My advice for all women in the above situiation is to give the guy a chance - get to know him. You might be surprised.


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29 Dec 2009, 1:54 pm

autisticstar wrote:
Should I be concerned if a man is over 40 years old and has never had a sexual encounter? I have met and dated some men who are over 40 who said that they have never had sex before. Some of them I suspect are on the autism spectrum. They were socially awkward but not at all bad looking. I sure hope this doesn't mean that they are gay. Is this common for men on the autism spectrum? I don't mean low functioning; I am referring to men with Asperger's Syndrome or High Functioning Autism.


You should ask him!
Yes, you should be concerned, he is most likely in search of this one and only one true princess, so.. forget about that one-night stand;)
And, obviously they were socially awkward, but are they socially awkward without you as well?
One needs to learn a woman's language first - wouldn't you love to guide them in?
... or take the shortcut.. getting the guy that makes you laugh and feel like a woman... and for being the next score on his 'hit-list'?


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Any guy who is in his 40's and is still a virgin is likely as Aspiue - take me for example.


.. haha.. yes, perhaps somewhat more likely.
However, it's also more likely to be profession related, people from the army, oil-rigs, all those who worked far from home, those who did their studies first and did some faraway voluntary work, those who started their own busniness, those with little desire for sex, those in search for things beyond sex.



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01 Jan 2010, 12:35 pm

A 40 year old virgin is a fixer upper.
You'll have to put in work where you probably wouldn't have to with most guys.
In return you can get what you want (and not get what you don't want) assuming you have mutual interest and desires.

Honestly evaluate if you want to take the time and effort. Then, anything you decide should be valid.

Also remember that AS traits are usually not subject to being "fixed."



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