John Edwards had an extramarital affer (rolling eyes)

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18 Aug 2008, 12:11 pm

sinsbodly, I like to think that morality evolves as we gain insight and knowledge, and as necessities change. It can be a very good thing to be held to a higher standard. There is far too much in history I would never go back to. But your point that it hasn't always been the same, and even now is not across cultures, is valid.


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18 Aug 2008, 12:16 pm

Morality is relative.

For some adultery is immoral. For others it depends on the circumstances. I believe if harm is done to someone involved in a relationship, then this could certainly be considered immoral. However if the relationship is not exclusive, then the harm may not apply.

To state that adultery is always wrong is simply to state one's opinion on this particular issue. Some people commit adultery due to loneliness, I do not think this is immoral. It is a natural human trait to fall in and out of love.



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18 Aug 2008, 4:56 pm

corroonb wrote:
Morality is relative.

For some adultery is immoral. For others it depends on the circumstances. I believe if harm is done to someone involved in a relationship, then this could certainly be considered immoral. However if the relationship is not exclusive, then the harm may not apply.

To state that adultery is always wrong is simply to state one's opinion on this particular issue. Some people commit adultery due to loneliness, I do not think this is immoral. It is a natural human trait to fall in and out of love.


Yes, but to be a promise-breaker is universally without honour. To violate a contract, the nuptial contract, how do you put a justifiable and positive spin on that?



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18 Aug 2008, 6:26 pm

slowmutant wrote:
corroonb wrote:
Morality is relative.

For some adultery is immoral. For others it depends on the circumstances. I believe if harm is done to someone involved in a relationship, then this could certainly be considered immoral. However if the relationship is not exclusive, then the harm may not apply.

To state that adultery is always wrong is simply to state one's opinion on this particular issue. Some people commit adultery due to loneliness, I do not think this is immoral. It is a natural human trait to fall in and out of love.


Yes, but to be a promise-breaker is universally without honour. To violate a contract, the nuptial contract, how do you put a justifiable and positive spin on that?

Not sure if this was discussed before on this thread....
"if the relationship is not exclusive, then the harm may not apply."
Lifestyles can vary whithin different couples, when both of them are consenting and no deceiving takes place in an intimate act, then no one is actually being harm, no victims, no lies, consent.
An example, some married couples are very open-minded and they practice swinging.


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18 Aug 2008, 6:32 pm

greenblue wrote:
slowmutant wrote:
corroonb wrote:
Morality is relative.

For some adultery is immoral. For others it depends on the circumstances. I believe if harm is done to someone involved in a relationship, then this could certainly be considered immoral. However if the relationship is not exclusive, then the harm may not apply.

To state that adultery is always wrong is simply to state one's opinion on this particular issue. Some people commit adultery due to loneliness, I do not think this is immoral. It is a natural human trait to fall in and out of love.


Yes, but to be a promise-breaker is universally without honour. To violate a contract, the nuptial contract, how do you put a justifiable and positive spin on that?

Not sure if this was discussed before on this thread....
"if the relationship is not exclusive, then the harm may not apply."
Lifestyles can vary whithin different couples, when both of them are consenting and no deceiving takes place in an intimate act, then no one is actually being harm, no victims, no lies, consent.
An example, some married couples are very open-minded and they practice swinging.


Swingers are obviously the exception and not the rule.



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19 Aug 2008, 12:57 am

slowmutant wrote:
greenblue wrote:
slowmutant wrote:
corroonb wrote:
Morality is relative.

An example, some married couples are very open-minded and they practice swinging.


Swingers are obviously the exception and not the rule.


There are rules even in swinging


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19 Aug 2008, 2:33 am

Swingers are the exception to marital fidelity. Was that not clear enough?



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19 Aug 2008, 10:41 am

slowmutant wrote:
Swingers are the exception to marital fidelity. Was that not clear enough?


are you married, Slowmutant?


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19 Aug 2008, 10:47 am

No.



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22 Aug 2008, 2:17 pm

Dishonesty among politicians shouldnt be surprising anyone. What Edwards didm with his wife on the verge of death with cancer, was dispicable but it shouldnt surprise anyone.



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22 Aug 2008, 2:28 pm

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Dishonesty among politicians shouldnt be surprising anyone. What Edwards didm with his wife on the verge of death with cancer, was dispicable but it shouldnt surprise anyone.


True, Newt Gingrich did much the same, however he actually had the cojones to serve the divorce papers himself to his wife in the hospital. John McCain divorced his first wife as she says in her own words

"Carol insists she remains on good terms with her ex-husband, who agreed as part of their divorce settlement to pay her medical costs for life. ‘I have no bitterness,’she says. ‘My accident is well recorded. I had 23 operations, I am five inches shorter than I used to be and I was in hospital for six months. It was just awful, but it wasn’t the reason for my divorce.

‘My marriage ended because John McCain didn’t want to be 40, he wanted to be 25. You know that happens...it just does.’


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22 Aug 2008, 4:24 pm

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here in Canada-it wouldn't make the news


I'm starting to wish I lived in Canada and I never thought I'd hear myself say that. This country is seriously bleeding.

lol did I seriously spell affair wrong when I started this thread??



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22 Aug 2008, 4:33 pm

DW_a_mom wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
slowmutant wrote:
Adultery is adultery, no matter who does it.



so, slowmutant. what if two people decide to have an open marriage? They have made their own rules of their relationship.
They would not be bound to the rules that were made up for people that believe as you do, correct?


The key is two people: that they agree to it.

Do I still think they are making a bad choice? YES. I've seen open marriages and despite the talk, someone IS always getting hurt. But, still, that is their moral decision to make, not mine, and if they do not believe it is morally wrong, then they have the right to act accordingly.

Do I still feel it is morally wrong? Yes, actually, because I HAVE seen the harm that comes even when they have agreed it, and neither believes they are doing anything wrong. But I won't impose my belief on them.

In the sense that one person's moral beliefs are going to remain consistent almost universally, regardless of who they are applied to, morality is absolute. In the sense that different people hold different sets of moral beliefs, and have the right to do so, morality is not.

But, heck, everyone makes mistakes. I also don't believe in throwing someone under the bus for an act I believe is morally wrong. What I hope for is that they learn and thrive for something better.

And John Edwards, whose behavior insired this thread ... I would have liked to have seen something better from him, given all the blustery talk he made, but I don't think the error means he cannot serve effectively in certain political offices. And he isn't a player in an election anymore, anyway. It would have been nice for the press to spare his WIFE some pain, and allow a private matter to stay that way.


Yes that's the one issue I have with it. I can't imagine that Edwards would voluntarily give an interview and hurt his family like that. I think he must have been being blackmailed or something, and this sucks because he would have made a really good VP, now we have to settle for something less because people in this country are so judgmental. Hopefully Biden gets it.

EDIT: And the people who are judging Edwards for this don't realize that this is obviously a form of agenda setting. Why is this important? Geez I wonder why it became a huge issue now, when it looks like the democrats actually have a good chance of winning. Why do democrats always get harassed for this kind of thing yet republicans don't? I think it's ridiculous. What happened between him and his wife are between him and his wife. I don't care how dispicable anybody else thinks it is. It shouldn't be any of your damn business. Do you think Elizabeth Edwards wants your pity? No, she's standing by her husband. :roll: She really doesn't need people talking about what "horrible" man her husband supposedly is. And yes he was a trial lawyer, he helped people, what is the point?