Are you over 35 and living at home with parents?

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30 Nov 2008, 1:07 pm

I have mentioned before on this board that I am living at home with my mother living on federal disability and have AS, OCD, and ADD.

Obviously, I am depressed and don't talk much. My mother gets on my case for this. How am I not supposed to be depressed? Is it too much to ask to allow me to be depressed and left alone? (that is not a rhetorical question)



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30 Nov 2008, 1:27 pm

I am 32 and still live with my parents. I also collect SSI for my aspergers disorder. We moved to new town about a year and a half ago. The house we live in is pretty nice, so my situation isn't too depressing.



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30 Nov 2008, 1:33 pm

I still live at home and I would like to move out. I feel that at the moment it may not be a good time to find a place of my own. It can be frustrating knowing that people of our won age own or rent a flat.
I sometimes feel low and I am sure that people with Asperger's often suffer from depression. Also the days are getting shorter and the days can be grey and damp.
If you are feeling depressed maybe you should go to your GP and tell him/her how you are feeling. Also exercise can be helpful.

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30 Nov 2008, 1:52 pm

I'm 40 years old and have classic autism. Yes, I still live at home as well. I receive no money from the government, and I work to pay my own way. Unfortunately, I cannot make enough top move out, nor would I want to if I did.


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30 Nov 2008, 2:27 pm

KevinLA wrote:
I have mentioned before on this board that I am living at home with my mother living on federal disability and have AS, OCD, and ADD.

Obviously, I am depressed and don't talk much. My mother gets on my case for this. How am I not supposed to be depressed? Is it too much to ask to allow me to be depressed and left alone? (that is not a rhetorical question)


Your mother hates the fact that you're not on your own, sorry to say, most parents resent children who look like they will never be able to function independently as social custom dictates. If I were you I'd ask her if she wants you to move out, she gets on your case for a reason and there must be one, so find it out.



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30 Nov 2008, 3:12 pm

33, will be 34 next week, and still live with parents. Actually, living with them again, I moved out for a year and a half.



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30 Nov 2008, 9:34 pm

I'm not over 35 but am 25 and still live with my parents. I will probably live with them until I am 10000000000 years old because I will have to support them instead of them supporting me! My business is taking off and in the last 2 days I made over $700 at a holiday bazaar with my art stuff. We project that my business will make over $200,000 net profit next year. In the show I had in the last 2 days my booth did one of the best, we had one of the most customers out of everyone. And this $700 was just selling cheap items, $1.50 bookmarks, $4 cards, and $26 prints. On December 4th I have a big speech even though it is short but it is to other business people, congressmen, senators, and sometimes even the governor has been known to go there! And I get to speak about my business! I'm getting way off track but yes, I still live with my parents. I feel like 90 anyways because I already have hot flashes and memory problems.



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30 Nov 2008, 10:22 pm

FireBird wrote:
I'm not over 35 but am 25 and still live with my parents. I will probably live with them until I am 10000000000 years old because I will have to support them instead of them supporting me!


I had an ex that was in a similar situation. However the situation was more extreme. His mother was on disability and had a shopping addiction. He worked his a** off to feed her shopping addiction... and all she did was lie around the house and eat pie, seriously. She wasn't so disabled that she wasn't able to help around the house to clean and stuff. She mooched off of my ex!! AND this gets better... we took turns paying for dinner which was fine with me. Whenever it was his turn to pay, he always felt like getting some cheap fast food. When it was MY turn, he felt like going to an expensive restaurant and ordered a steak each time! Needless to say the relationship didn't last.. I got tired of it.

I also want to point out that my brother in law is "NT", he will be 38 in March and still lives with my mother in law.. why? Because she threatened to cut him out of her will if he moved out of the house before getting engaged.. and the funny thing is, he has NO interest in marriage what so ever so I guess he'll be living with mommy until she is gone.

And I also want to mention that my hairdresser said that one of her friends' sons moved out at 18, the one who had autism! So there you go.


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01 Dec 2008, 12:51 am

KevinLA wrote:
I have mentioned before on this board that I am living at home with my mother living on federal disability and have AS, OCD, and ADD.

Obviously, I am depressed and don't talk much. My mother gets on my case for this. How am I not supposed to be depressed? Is it too much to ask to allow me to be depressed and left alone? (that is not a rhetorical question)


You're situation sounds a lot like mine, however, I'm not on disability. I'm 44, female, and live with my parents and that's after 10 years of a failed marriage and 3 kids. And being an Aspie I don't think I was well suited for being a Mom but too late now. I'm glad I have them though. After my divorce I moved into an apartment with my youngest son, then he went off to college 2 years ago. I lasted a year after that on my own but I couldn't keep up with the financial responsibility on my own, plus I'm paying for a college loan, then I lost my full time job because the department I was in relocated.

Now I work part time in a retail job, live with my parents and still struggle to get my bills paid. Most of the time I feel like a failure but I keep telling myself it won't be this way forever. At least I'm hoping it won't be because that's the only thing that keeps me from getting really down over it all. Most of the time I have to really fight depression and like you, I don't talk much. Just not much to say when life sucks all the time and nothing changes. I'm looking for full time work but where I live there are hardly no jobs but I'm still looking and hoping something will come along and things will get better.



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01 Dec 2008, 4:09 pm

I never thought I would move out and finally did it earlier this year at the age of 39. The flat still looks like I moved in last week but otherwise I am hanging in there.

(Mind you, if I lose my job in the credit crunch, I may to have to move back in again...)