noahveil23 wrote:
AmberEyes wrote:
I can pick up on a kind of "group spirit" too by people watching. I can tell if other people are having difficulties or there are issues to be dealt with. I look at the system of people as a whole and see what could be changed to make the system function better.
I care about people in a practical way and am conscientious. If others are having difficulties than I feel like it's my responsibility to tell people higher up the chain what I think should be done to rectify the situation. Sometimes the system's been changed for the better because of my intervention. People have been very grateful for the issues that I've brought to their attention.
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This is cool, I'm kind of like this too, I get a sense of the whole organism and can break it all down. I can never see myself in any of it, though and have no idea what people are trying to tell me except for the most overt things. No sub-text, but I can see it in interactions between other people.
It's like viewing a super-organism or herd of people. When I was at school I didn't watch them in a creepy way, but in a conscientious and caring way. I felt responsible for the welfare of the group as a whole and didn't cling to one particular clique for long. I didn't understand why people didn't mix around more: didn't they get bored of seeing the same small group of people every day? It's a shame that this kind of people watching is pathologised.
I can see some of the emotion, sub-texts and interactions between people and who's with who. Sometimes I find it hard to understand people's motivations, teasing and behaviour though. Maybe because I'm female I don't know. It's initiating casual contact that I have difficulty with. I just usually wait for people to some and see me. I usually wait for someone else to initiate unless the person is alone/poses no threat to me.
I do care about people, but it's a practical form of caring. It's not the intense girly mutual grooming "get the hairbrushes and make-up" out kind of caring. I can't cope with that. I will listen to people, but I can get overwhelmed if they get really emotional and silly about things especially relationships. Some girls find it hard to let go and ball their eyes out for days instead of moving on and being sensible. I don't really understand that.