Is she interested in me?

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Well it doesn't hurt to be prepared.

yeah ur right, and ive heard that this girl has had sex before, but should i be certain that she likes me?

nah, just ask her out, you have nothing to lose.
do you know much about her? how do you feel about having a conversation over coffee? movies mean less conversation

You should make sure that you're interested in her and not just yourself, of course. Your virginity can wait.

I agree in coffee over movies, especially if the place isn't too far out of her way.

Don't get too worked up about losing your virginity, although if dating this girl will help you achieve that, go for it. She seems already interested in you; that's the most important thing. Despite the common impression, it's far more important for her to like you than for you to like her. Why? Because if you're not really attracted to her, it's still possible to date her; but if she's not really attracted to you, it's over before it begins. Anyway, the next step is to go on a date with her. At least you'll be in a better position that I was. I lost my virginity at the ripe old of age of 22, to an escort. Not that it wasn't great , but still.

Jumping the gun here. Dont push things like this on girls, take it just as slow as they are, no one likes a pusher. Theres no need to lose your virginity to be quote "Cool manly man", its all just a overrated invisible social fog.

Even if i lose it im not gonna go and brag to my friends or other people, it would just be satisfying to myself. And i went to a party the other night with friends (i was the designated driver cuz i dont like alcohol) and was about to have sex and then my mom called me and said i was out too late and had to come home.

It is possible, but be careful. One thing some girls try to do to us is they'll make us think they like us and when we start to feel some sort of attachment what they will do reveal it was all a joke and try to humiliate us in front of as many people as possible.

What they might try is to get you to go to some sort of school function as their "date," then they'll show up with their real boyfriend and everyone will get a big laugh out of it and she'll probably say in front of everyone "I can't believe you think I or any other girl would actually like YOU."

I've had girls try to do that to me, but I was ahead of them since I knew they had boyfriends already. In once case, a girl tried to get me to go to a formal dance with her, yet it they guy she was already going with when she asked me was bragging about it in gym class beforehand. I once overheard her telling her friends she was going to get me to meet her there then show up with this other guy as a joke. If it had worked, I would have been hurt and everyone would have had a huge laugh at my expense.

Another time, a girl asked me if I was going to a school dance and when I told her I wasn't, she said "Then I won't get to dance with you." That's not as bad as what I described already, but still wouldn't have been good.

Am I saying this will happen to you? The answer is I don't know. She may be sincere, but it may also be a trap. Just be careful, and good luck.

Frustrating, I can imagine, but not the greatest tragedy. What if you had made her pregnant? That would have been much worse.

id prolly have her get an abortion and i bought a pack of condoms from target after my shift there ended

...You're not for real, are you?

yeah i kinda am

You just have a distorted view on love and relationships worthy of serious concern.

Abortion can be a life destroying decision. It's serious, man.

Its a good thing its not up to you, then. That's one of the most callous things I've ever heard.
Look, practice safe sex. Quite aside from getting the girl pregnant is the whole STD thing. But nothing is 100%, including condoms. If you're gonna have sex, you better be prepared for the consequences.

Just completely rethink your approach on this. Once you were aware you had a chance it got straight to sex and contraception. Your views are misguided, misogynistic and will all end up in tears. Look at yourself.