People with Aspergers just as extroverted as NTs?

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Are you introverted or extroverted?
A Introverted 60%  60%  [ 27 ]
B Extroverted 20%  20%  [ 9 ]
Both AB and C, but obviously excluding F. 13%  13%  [ 6 ]
Mountain Dew MANN!! !! 7%  7%  [ 3 ]
Total votes : 45

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08 Jan 2009, 12:52 am

I have read in a few places that NT observation of someone with Aspergers is that we "show limited or no desire to interact with others". I read that and did not agree.
I think that is just another misinterpretation based on how things look if a person has problems doing something, that doesn't mean they don't want to do it.
I think many people with Aspergers are internally extroverted. As in, on the inside they know they really want to talk to people (extroversion) but they are not able to do it so easily.

Even if you are AS, would you consider your self extroverted? Or introverted?

I think the intro/extroversion is just as diversified in AS people as it is with NTs, its just inhibited in AS people.
I also think that being AS does not make your intro/extroversion but rather, your personality does and who you are does.



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08 Jan 2009, 1:22 am

I think with most Aspies it depends on their audience whether they are extroverted or introverted. For myself I tend to be near mute in groups of people but one on one am often able to hold a normal conversation.

That said many Aspies I've met are extremely quiet however its not set in stone. I know one Aspie talked to me 8 hours straight without letting me hardly get a word in edgewise and know another Aspie who has talked to me for 4 hours straight on one subject- about lithium chain grease and did not once allow me to say a word. Neither will SHUT UP and would come across as extroverts except for they still have many rather obvious Aspergers symptoms.



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08 Jan 2009, 1:34 am

Ticker wrote:
I think with most Aspies it depends on their audience whether they are extroverted or introverted. For myself I tend to be near mute in groups of people but one on one am often able to hold a normal conversation.

That said many Aspies I've met are extremely quiet however its not set in stone. I know one Aspie talked to me 8 hours straight without letting me hardly get a word in edgewise and know another Aspie who has talked to me for 4 hours straight on one subject- about lithium chain grease and did not once allow me to say a word. Neither will SHUT UP and would come across as extroverts except for they still have many rather obvious Aspergers symptoms.


I have never talked to an aspie before that I was aware of. I once talked to one when I was 15 (but I did not know he had it, I did not know I had it, but some one told me a few years later he was autistic, meaning aspergers) and I noticed I was eventually very comfortable talking to him, and I thought it was cool how we both talked about science and physics stuff for a few hours, we just kept getting into it, deeper and deeper, my dad left the room and then came back and thought it was weird that we were still talking about it, anyways
after that we played Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 4, and all I did was do a simple small trick an "Ollie North"(UP-A) and then after that he went on for hours about the person Oliver North... yea... it was pretty much a one sided conversation, but then again I've done that aswell many times about things and never realized it.



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08 Jan 2009, 1:34 am

Ticker wrote:
I think with most Aspies it depends on their audience whether they are extroverted or introverted. For myself I tend to be near mute in groups of people but one on one am often able to hold a normal conversation.

That said many Aspies I've met are extremely quiet however its not set in stone. I know one Aspie talked to me 8 hours straight without letting me hardly get a word in edgewise and know another Aspie who has talked to me for 4 hours straight on one subject- about lithium chain grease and did not once allow me to say a word. Neither will SHUT UP and would come across as extroverts except for they still have many rather obvious Aspergers symptoms.


I have never talked to an aspie before that I was aware of. I once talked to one when I was 15 (but I did not know he had it, I did not know I had it, but some one told me a few years later he was autistic, meaning aspergers) and I noticed I was eventually very comfortable talking to him, and I thought it was cool how we both talked about science and physics stuff for a few hours, we just kept getting into it, deeper and deeper, my dad left the room and then came back and thought it was weird that we were still talking about it, anyways
after that we played Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 4, and all I did was do a simple small trick an "Ollie North"(UP-A) and then after that he went on for hours about the person Oliver North... yea... it was pretty much a one sided conversation, but then again I've done that aswell many times about things and never realized it.



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08 Jan 2009, 1:35 am

Ticker wrote:
I think with most Aspies it depends on their audience whether they are extroverted or introverted. For myself I tend to be near mute in groups of people but one on one am often able to hold a normal conversation.

That said many Aspies I've met are extremely quiet however its not set in stone. I know one Aspie talked to me 8 hours straight without letting me hardly get a word in edgewise and know another Aspie who has talked to me for 4 hours straight on one subject- about lithium chain grease and did not once allow me to say a word. Neither will SHUT UP and would come across as extroverts except for they still have many rather obvious Aspergers symptoms.


I have never talked to an aspie before that I was aware of. I once talked to one when I was 15 (but I did not know he had it, I did not know I had it, but some one told me a few years later he was autistic, meaning aspergers) and I noticed I was eventually very comfortable talking to him, and I thought it was cool how we both talked about science and physics stuff for a few hours, we just kept getting into it, deeper and deeper, my dad left the room and then came back and thought it was weird that we were still talking about it, anyways
after that we played Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 4, and all I did was do a simple small trick an "Ollie North"(UP-A) and then after that he went on for hours about the person Oliver North... yea... it was pretty much a one sided conversation, but then again I've done that aswell many times about things and never realized it.



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08 Jan 2009, 2:10 am

I think I am internally extroverted.
I do want to socialise and put some effort into it, but I'm just not very good at it.



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08 Jan 2009, 2:27 am

unreal3x wrote:

I have never talked to an aspie before that I was aware of. I once talked to one when I was 15 (but I did not know he had it, I did not know I had it, but some one told me a few years later he was autistic, meaning aspergers) and I noticed I was eventually very comfortable talking to him, and I thought it was cool how we both talked about science and physics stuff for a few hours, we just kept getting into it, deeper and deeper, my dad left the room and then came back and thought it was weird that we were still talking about it, anyways.


Just as a social experiment I think you should attend some autism meetings so you can speak with bonefide Aspies (meaning people that are telling you they have AS). Then report back what you think. It was a real eye opener for me and amazing how diverse we are.

I think we do attract our own kind without knowing it. Looking back some of my best friends in school were people that I would now suspect as having been Aspies. Yep and several of the ones I dated I'm quite sure are Aspies. There was even two guys I used to work with that stalked me who could both be poster children for Aspergers. We just have A-dar and attract one another since sometimes the only person who will put up with the eccentricies of an Aspie is another Aspie.



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08 Jan 2009, 3:39 am

I've taken the personality tests before like the Myers-Briggs or the Kiersey temperament sorter (which has a free version on the web). And in the past I've answered the questions in a way that reflected the person I *wanted* to be... the problem is that was rather different than the person I actually am. So when I answered questions like "would you rather go to a party or to the library" and gave my conditioned, rationalized answer of "the party" (only because I knew I was not good at networking and forced myself to network as much as possible), I ended up getting a result rather different than what might have been more helpful. At the time I would take the test and it would slot me into ENFP - the champion - a very social role. Thankfully I didn't use that information for choosing my career decisions -- that could have been disastrous. When I answer now using my *gut* (non-conditioned, non-rational) responses, it slots me into INTP - architect - supposedly Einstein's personality type.


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08 Jan 2009, 3:46 am

Ticker wrote:
I think we do attract our own kind without knowing it. Looking back some of my best friends in school were people that I would now suspect as having been Aspies. Yep and several of the ones I dated I'm quite sure are Aspies. There was even two guys I used to work with that stalked me who could both be poster children for Aspergers. We just have A-dar and attract one another since sometimes the only person who will put up with the eccentricies of an Aspie is another Aspie.


There's a girl I met on deviantART a year or so ago who I just had a sudden gut-intuition that she was "cool" and that I'd like to get to know her better... The last few weeks we've suddenly started chatting a lot more often -- about daily now -- and have discovered that there's a darned good chance that she's AS (and her father and grandfather -- that it runs in her dad's side of the family).


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08 Jan 2009, 4:08 am

I have my extroverted moments.
Or I find myself being an introvert in extrovets shoes.
I participate in activities that are sorta extrovert-oriented...performing on stage..running a venue, etc...

Alcohol helps at times. :?



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08 Jan 2009, 4:33 am

Ticker wrote:
Neither will SHUT UP and would come across as extroverts except for they still have many rather obvious Aspergers symptoms.


I think you just described me down to a tee. :lol:

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Just as a social experiment I think you should attend some autism meetings so you can speak with bonefide Aspies (meaning people that are telling you they have AS). Then report back what you think. It was a real eye opener for me and amazing how diverse we are.

I think we do attract our own kind without knowing it. Looking back some of my best friends in school were people that I would now suspect as having been Aspies. Yep and several of the ones I dated I'm quite sure are Aspies. There was even two guys I used to work with that stalked me who could both be poster children for Aspergers. We just have A-dar and attract one another since sometimes the only person who will put up with the eccentricies of an Aspie is another Aspie.


Nowadays I am 90% certain that my best friend in high school, along with at around 40-50% of the friends I've had in my life, have been AS. I felt like I had this deeper connection with them, and we the best part about these friendships was that we could talk for hours and hours on different, often intellectual, topics in a way I couldn't do with my more normal friends.


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08 Jan 2009, 9:31 am

It depends.

I am extroverted in front of some friends and family.

In fact for anything that requires a lot of monologuing or the reciting of a script: presentations or performances. Even some foreign languages because it's all learned in phrases and to a script that I can memorise and recall at the required moment.

If someone asks me for advice or information on a subject I know a lot about I suddenly become very extroverted and talkative. When I have something coherent to say, I can talk a lot. I can sometimes be like a talking text-book.

I tend to be introverted in informal group settings that contain more that 3 other people (without a clear leader) because I just can't keep track of everything that's going on and join in at the same time. This is especially true if I'm not familiar with the people in the group or they are all really chatty and talk about subjects that I'm not familiar with. Such as: what they did at the weekend, what happened in the last episode of a soap opera series or the football (soccer).



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08 Jan 2009, 10:51 am

I have NLD rather than AS, and I'm very extroverted. I love having all attention on me, I absolutely love being on stage, and I love talking to people and making new friends. I do have my shy moments, yes, but that's really only every once in a while.



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08 Jan 2009, 11:07 am

I like having time to myself often but I like having friends for the times that I dont.



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08 Jan 2009, 11:17 am

The Introvert/Extrovert distinction in Myers-Briggs can help clarify what these words mean:

Where you get your energy..

So do you have to go home and be alone to recharge after being around people? Or do you find that after being around people you are more energized?

Having issues with sensory processing can affect this so one could be an extrovert but need to go be alone and recharge -- re-integrate -- after being in an overloading busy situation.

So I think I'm an introverted extrovert, which is all complicated by sensory disintegration and exposure anxiety, and a stupid stupid world.



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08 Jan 2009, 11:22 am

I like interacting with people, having fun, going out and being energised in an ASD-friendly environment by people.

So.. yeah... extrovert here. It took quite some time to come to this conclusion. And to find out a bit about what actually drains me so much - not the people or the noise and brightness of a mass of people, but certain sensory and routine.


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