Would you choose the big apple or the small apple?

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Lots of ways to look at this. An Aspie thing.

1. Take the big one and split it, sharing.

2. Refuse both. Say you want something else.

3. Take the big one and trade it for two small. There are always more than two apples.

4. Sometimes the big apple is infested with a worm. Do not let the size fool you.

Fooood! Outta my way!!

One of my father's friends was always first in line for the cookies at the monthly dances, so I guess I had bad role models.

At the cottage we had one of those big cast iron triangles that you could hear all over the lake, so my mother didn't have to shout when dinner was ready. Getting to ring it was fun.

The way the poll works is that you have to click the button next to each option, so that when you post there's an extra empty field. I had problems the first time I used a poll, too.

I'm not totally sure. For me it depends on the object, the other person, and maybe even some other random stuff.

I think taking the small one is generally the decent thing to do.

This reminds me of a scene in "The Joy Luck Club" (the movie, but possibly the book, too). There is a family, mostly made of young women, and they are sharing a meal. They pass around a dish full of something, like fish, and each take one. Later on, one of the young ladies' mother said, and I paraphrase:

"I notice you chose the smallest, worst-looking fish, and left the nicest ones for the others. Everyone else chose the biggest, best one they could find, and were thinking only of themselves. But you are different. You chose the worst quality fish, because you have the best quality heart."

Of course, some unscrupulous people will take advantage of a person who always chooses the worst-quality for themselves, because if they want the best, all they have to do is offer you the first choice. So, if you feel like you're with someone who is like that, you can say, "Oh, thank you so much for giving me first choice. I think I'll take this nice big one, if you don't mind! *chomp!*"

I would take whichever apple was nearer me! Or the small one, if they were equally close!

My mother always said that it was rude and selfish to choose the best or biggest of whatever was offered, so you should always take the one that was closest.

Someone close to me told me recently that I had always been too compliant. This is something I've been working through with my counsellor, and it seems to fit with my pattern of always doing things for others, but never asking or expecting anything for myself.

I am thinking about this now, and maybe this is what you meant originally, mosez. I am wondering if our view of the world has something to do with it. Since we tend veiw things in terms of 'rules' rather than just guidelines, a person with AS may see something like what elderwanda posted and internalize that as a 'rule.' You should always take the worst things to be a good person, ect.

If someone were able to veiw that as a guideline but not a hard and fast rule, they might not have a problem with taking good things now and then. Whereas someone who views it as a rule would feel terribly guilty if they ever took something nice for themself.

The one with the screen on it.

I'd choose the big apple because I have a big stomach and appetite. I'd leave behind a bottle of Coke, though.

Trying not to overthink it, I would go for the big apple. I've gotten--or allowed myself--only the small apple for most of my life. I hated myself and didn't think I deserved any better. Now I'm getting over that and yes... this time I'm finally going to grab the big one. Hooray!

Assuming that the big one is of the same quality, taste and not riddled with worms, of course (but that's what I mean by overthinking it).

Seeing the title, I thought this was about cities. I was wondering which city the small apple was!

As a kid, there was no way I wouldn't have taken the big apple (unless it was something I didn't want, or something on it I didn't like). I looked out for myself when given a choice (although I might have wondered what the catch was), but I've always been bad at getting into it when it's a free for all frenzy.

Now it could go either way, depending on what it was, and who I was with. With loved ones, I always want to share equally, with strangers or other people I'm indifferent to or even dislike, I have no problem being selfish. In a store, I would pick the best (best looking/ biggest/ whatever) product, I don't care that someone else ends up with a lesser product.
Under some circumstances (like having to face them again, and caring about not looking like douche, or even just not wanting to get off on the wrong foot) I would feel awkward taking the biggest, best thing (unless it was just too good to pass up), but that is to make my life easier in the long run.
If I don't want it or am indifferent, then I'll pick the smallest.

I went with the small apple as, I had developed the same speculation as Skilpadde